take a long time, or do it quickly?

[MANdrew]

i dont know if this has ever been a topic, and im sure as hell not going to go looking for the thread, so here's my question for the ladies.

When a guy is going down on you, would you rather it take say 15 minutes to bring you to the big O, or it take say a minute and a half to two minutes to get you to O? Do you want him to be down there for a while, or is it the quicker the better? thanks for any help you can give me

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[AngelAmy]

i like my sex long i know that, as for oral, it depends how good it is, sometimes i want it short and to get fucking but sometimes i like it longer

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[Jennitalia]

i've only cum once from a guy going down on me. that was probably one of the best sexual experiences of my life. ever since, i guess the guys give up after 5-10 minutes. on one hand, sometimes i just want to get right to the fucking, and on the other, it'd be nice to not go through the rest of my life only having an orgasm once from a guy going down on me. i feel as if i'm missing out.
ok, im going to vent now, but why are girls expected to, or have no problems with finishing the job, but some (not all) guys don't see the need to? to all the guys who never go all the way, on behalf of all the girls who have been in this position, and i mean this from the bottom of my heart, EAT MY BLOODY TOOKIE!

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[DarkHippie]

only once, oh my . . . i'm sorry. if it makes you feel better, i've never come from oral. and that sucks as a guy cause i really feel like i'm missing out

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[Prince Neptune]

I used to date this girl that took a long time to cum, but God Damn it if I didn't get lock-jaw every time I went down on her. Guess I'm just a trooper and wouldn't be denied my sexual nectar from my lady. I dont think it wrong for a woman to want her guy to finish the job.



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[MANdrew]

<i>I used to date this girl that took a long time to cum</i>
girls dont take a long time to cum, guys take a long time to get them to cum.

and jenni...im sorry for you

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[chefpitt]

EAT MY BLOODY TOOKIE!


Sounds great where do I sign up.....

[Gaia]

I have been able to cum from oral, but I really don't dig it. Its not one of my favorite things. I would rather
A) Go down on him......yup.
B) Get right to the sex.....I love foreplay, but like I said, I am not really into the oral thing.

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[EffMeBoobs]

I never had the big O from oral. I KNOW I'm missing out. I recently started to experience the big O from fucking. Mandrew, I'd say if she cums easily from oral, then you're set. If she hasn't yet, and you've been down there for like 15-20 minutes, I'd say give up. But only, if only, she pulls your head up to get right to the fucking, or she's just not into the oral thing.

Jennie....yeah why is that? We're expected to go all the way when we suck their cock, (which I don't mind since I enjoy that ;)) but when they feel it's just not happening with us, they come back up and stick it in. I'd say change the technique from time to time and don't be so quick to give up. We suffer from lock jaw all the time, I think you guys can handle a numb tongue from time to time. ;)

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[CrazyClare]

not only lockjaw but a sore neck! and ill take whatever i can get, time wise. i appreciate the effort cause ive had alot of boyfriends who just dont do it. i guess im just reinforcing sterotypes but the last 2 guys i dated, who were black. had never and refused to eat me out. The white guys ive been with have been troopers.

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[MANdrew]

thanks for all the feedback, but my issue isnt getting her to cum, its how long i should play around down there before making her cum.

and in response to the other question at hand, i might be in the minority, but i do believe that if im going to get pleasured to completion then i am most definitely going to bring her to completion or die trying. seems the only right thing to do.

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[rawker79]

the time spent has to do with the mood. if it's rough, chances are it's not going to last that long. if it's romantic and sweet you take time.

[Jennitalia]

thanks for all the feedback, but my issue isnt getting her to cum, its how long i should play around down there before making her cum.



when she grabs you by the head and says "fuck me now!" ;)

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[CovDiesel]

First of all.. I don't understand all this feedback from the Ladies saying that they don't reach orgasm from Oral... and that they'll take what they can get because they don't get it a lot...

WOW... hold on there... Who the hell are these guys that you are dating? I am sooo sorry that you haven't experienced an Orgasm from Oral... it's one of the things I take pride in being good at... so for any guy who doesn't enjoy it.. I give a big F YOU...

Eating box is the best... and anyone who doesn't think so obviously is not good at it.

Keep searching Ladies.. you'll find the guy who can make you climax orally.

oh.. and Mandrew... the point of you being able to give a girl the O at will... was missed.. I would say you should vary it up a little bit... it's your duty.

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[CrazyClare]

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ivce never not cum from oral, sometimes it takes a bit longer, one time i almost passed out.. another time i literally stopped feeling my arms and my legs, but i ALWAYS ALWAYS cum. i think if you havent, i dont think id blaim it on the guy, cause ive had horrible oral and still been abel to cum.. so i dunno. andrew, just stick with it, experiment and be creative, something will work i promise.

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[FUNKMAN]

It seems to depend on the woman and whether she keeps her mind on acheiving the orgasm... Sometimes they like to lenghten the time that your working it by breaking their own concentration... I understand this leads to an even greater sensation when you do orgasm but it will depend on how hard the guys willing to work...

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[Supervixen]

oral is reaalllllyyy reaaalllllyyyyy fun. id have to say
the longer the better BUT myself, id rather it in a 69
position. its just so crazy and intense feeling the
other person and being on the edge yourself. its
great.



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[Knowledged_one]

You only get lockjaw when you give in to the pain after all no pain no gain, you gotta fight through the pain. And oral is the best but 69 is hard when you are 6'5 like myself.

And a trick i use that always worked is to use your tounge on the clit and just form the alphabet with your tounge works everytime

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And a trick i use that always worked is to use your tounge on the clit and just form the alphabet with your tounge works everytime

im so confused and intrigued by this....... ill have to try it even though im not sure exactly what id be doing... **tries to form an A with her tongue**

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[CrazyClare]

inky use your tounge to write an a. like using your fingers to spell out your name in the air.

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[spoon]

It never fails that someone breaks out the Seinfeld alphabet technique. Seriously, as Brodie conveyed in "Chasing Amy", dialogue is key. Let her guide you. Hell ask her what she likes and wants as all woman have different bodies and sensativity. Usually it is best to tease then slowly and lightly lick. As things heat up it usually is good to increase the pressure and speed, yet still being carefull not to over stimulate as a girl can go numb down there. Some girls like you to insert a finger or two, pressing towards the g-spot; while others, minority here, like to have a finger slipped slowly in the back yard. I definately agree with Anna on the 6/9 angle, yet it's cool to isolate on each other once in a while. Just bring it up during or casually after. She might be embarrassed, yet it only shows you care.

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inky use your tounge to write an a. like using your fingers to spell out your name in the air.

OHHHHHH ok i get it now... that makes alot more sense then what i was thinking.

as Brodie conveyed in "Chasing Amy", dialogue is key.

im going to ignore this obvious mistake and hope that noone else notices.

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[Silly Puddy]

The whole point of oral is to the thrill of making her happy. In my younger, less experenced days, I dated a girl who ALWAYS came when I gave her oral, and usually within 5 minutes. I thought I was a tongue god. The next girl I dated NEVER came from oral. One time, I literally stayed down there for an hour. I asked her if she wanted me to stop, but she really wanted to have an orgasm that way. It never happened. She was able to have one during sex, but something didn't work with the oral. Suddenly, my godliness came into question.

Then, it hit me.....I'm not A tongue god, but if I ask the right questions and pay attention to how my girl is reacting, I CAN be HER tongue god. It's so easy to fall back on a technique that "always works", but the best advice I can give is pay attention to what's happening at that moment. There might be times when for some strange reason, the Alphabet technique goes nowhere, but the old "tongue fuck" works wonders. Take it one orgasm at a time.



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[Knowledged_one]

i didnt get that from Seinfeld i think i heard george carlin talk about it on a old stand up from the late 70's, but who cares where i got it the shit works. And claire does have the right idea on how to do it, just imagine air spelling with your tounge instead of your fingers,
and i wasnt claiming as if it was my trick, just something that works

Another pedestrian trick is the switch between cold and hot. I put some small ice cubes in my mouth and put on the end of my tounge then switch back to the regular hotness of your tounge also works great

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[Mettelhead]

The alphabet thing is from Sam Kinison.

Treat others as you'd want them to treat you.

That's all I have to add.

[HordeKing1]

Women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. The overwhelming majority of women cannot orgasm during conventional sex, b/c it does not sufficiently stimulate the clitorus.

Oral sex, however, is the most direct clitoral stimulation and women should be able to orgasm from this.

However, the sad fact is that most guys don't know a clitorus from a labia and many women feel awkward telling them that they are not stimulating them.

Guys, educate yourselves about women's bodies. Be aware that the typical orgasmic response cycle fluctuates not only from woman to woman but wiithin the same individual woman herself.

If your gf has difficulty coming first acertain whether she can come while she mastrabates. If she can, watch what she's doing and how she's touching herself. Note the pressure applied and the speed of the movements. The idea is to stimulate her the same way.

Women should not hesitate to tell their boyfriend what feels good, what doesn't and what you want him to do. He can't read your mind and sometimes without this guidance, his best intentions may leave you frustrated.

Sex, like any aspect of a relationship involves communication. The better your communication, the better the sex will be.

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[TheGameHHH]

I don't think time should matter. As long as you make her cum, shouldn't that be good enough. I don't care when I cum, why should she?

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