angrymissy
04-02-2002, 06:53 AM
I have been having a lot of problems with my sister lately and I need some advice. Let me explain the whole situation (this WILL get long)
My father and brother live with my grandparents (bad house to live in). My sister was living there too as of last year. I was living with my boyfriend. Anywho, my boyfriend's family moved away, so I had to get my own place. I asked my sister to move out with me, telling her I'd pay $1000/month rent, she could pay $450, have access to a car, and pay half the bills. She agreed. we moved into a pretty nice place back in September, and all we do is fight. I pay ALL the bills and buy all the groceries, and I think she should pay more rent, because she is working full time now (she was in school before). She screams at me every day about the house being a mess and last night it all came to a head. I have been going to work 2 hours early every day for the past two months, because I drive her to work (she's been at her first real job for about two months) and she starts work earlier than I do. I just do that to be nice. I pay the entire phone, electric, heat and cable bill, because she says she needs to catch up on her old credit card bills before she can pay our bills. I NEVER yell at her, and always let her use MY car when she wants to go out. I am always willing to make everybody in my life happy, and I really wouldn't care about doing all these things for her, except for the fact that she doesn't appreciate them. Last night, she started flipping out on me and calling me a whore, bitch and a bad person (because I had a headache and was trying to sleep at 8PM instead of vacuuming the carpet). I then very calmly told her she can't use the car anymore, and I wouldn't drive her to work in the morning if she was going to treat me this way. She then totally flipped out, cursed me out, grabbed her clothes and told ME I don't appreciate anything SHE does for me, and said she was leaving for good. After she stormed out, she came back an hour later and started grabbing things out of her closet, and I went back to her and calmly said, "we need to talk about this, its unhealthy the way you're acting" and she just yelled SHUT THE FUCK UP and said she wants her deposit back and she's leaving (apparently because I always shove the fact that I pay all the bills in her face) I don't know what to do. She also constantly makes fun of me for going to a shrink and likes to yell things like "go take a fucking pill, that's the answer to everything". Living with her is hell and making my anxiety horrid, but I feel bad because she is my sister. I don't know how to handle it, my friends tell me that I let her walk all over me, and I should just let her go. It just upsets me that she says I'm a horrible person, because I've never done anything but try to help her. What should I do? (sorry this was so long)
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My father and brother live with my grandparents (bad house to live in). My sister was living there too as of last year. I was living with my boyfriend. Anywho, my boyfriend's family moved away, so I had to get my own place. I asked my sister to move out with me, telling her I'd pay $1000/month rent, she could pay $450, have access to a car, and pay half the bills. She agreed. we moved into a pretty nice place back in September, and all we do is fight. I pay ALL the bills and buy all the groceries, and I think she should pay more rent, because she is working full time now (she was in school before). She screams at me every day about the house being a mess and last night it all came to a head. I have been going to work 2 hours early every day for the past two months, because I drive her to work (she's been at her first real job for about two months) and she starts work earlier than I do. I just do that to be nice. I pay the entire phone, electric, heat and cable bill, because she says she needs to catch up on her old credit card bills before she can pay our bills. I NEVER yell at her, and always let her use MY car when she wants to go out. I am always willing to make everybody in my life happy, and I really wouldn't care about doing all these things for her, except for the fact that she doesn't appreciate them. Last night, she started flipping out on me and calling me a whore, bitch and a bad person (because I had a headache and was trying to sleep at 8PM instead of vacuuming the carpet). I then very calmly told her she can't use the car anymore, and I wouldn't drive her to work in the morning if she was going to treat me this way. She then totally flipped out, cursed me out, grabbed her clothes and told ME I don't appreciate anything SHE does for me, and said she was leaving for good. After she stormed out, she came back an hour later and started grabbing things out of her closet, and I went back to her and calmly said, "we need to talk about this, its unhealthy the way you're acting" and she just yelled SHUT THE FUCK UP and said she wants her deposit back and she's leaving (apparently because I always shove the fact that I pay all the bills in her face) I don't know what to do. She also constantly makes fun of me for going to a shrink and likes to yell things like "go take a fucking pill, that's the answer to everything". Living with her is hell and making my anxiety horrid, but I feel bad because she is my sister. I don't know how to handle it, my friends tell me that I let her walk all over me, and I should just let her go. It just upsets me that she says I'm a horrible person, because I've never done anything but try to help her. What should I do? (sorry this was so long)
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