what do you do.....

[nellie]

when you're head over heals for some one, but you think that some one likes you, and you care for the person a lot, and you would date the ither person, except for the fact that your waiting for the person your in love with? tecnically you're still single, and you've made it clear how you feel about the person you love to the other person, and now it seems like the other person is avoiding you for some reason. help me please.

i am the inner child..... quiet, sensitive, and shy

[Silly Puddy]

For me, this is simple and really complicated all at once. It's easy to say "you can't wait for someone and risk missing out on something better". However, it may help to consider a a couple of things first:

1. Do I like the person who's interested in me, and would I date him if there were no extenuating circumstances? Obviously, if the answer to this is no, it's a no-brainer what to do? But you need to make sure you're interested in this guy for the right reasons, and not just because he likes you or it might make someone else jealous.

2. If I do really like this guy can I give him and the relationship that may develop my full attention? Will I be able look at him for who HE is, and not for who he isn't (namely, the other person you are crazy about)? This is the question that you really need to think about, because if you're so hung up on someone else, then the other guy doesn't stand a fair chance. And that's not fair to anybody.

Hope this helps, nellie.


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[nellie]

i would date him because i think he's really cool. if i didn't want a relationship with Lea, i would want to have a relationship with him at some point in time. but as you can probably tell from my poems, i LOVE Lea. i would go out on a date with the other guy, but nothing else would come of it other then casual dating until i started dating Lea.

i am the inner child..... quiet, sensitive, and shy

[HordeKing1]

NELLIE - I'll review the scenerio, breaking it down.

1. You love someone (head over heals).

2. You think that another lkes you.

3. You like him.

4. You would date him if you weren't "waiting for the person you're in love with."

5. You regard yourself as "technically single."

6. You told the other that you're in love with the first person.

From the way you expressed yourself it is apparant to me that you are looking for justification to date the new person. You don't need justification, but you do need to examine your motivations.

You indicated you were "waiting" [to date the first guy]." What are you waiting for? If it's sex you're waiting for, you can have a very deep intimate relationship without it and it shouldn't factor into the decision.

You may want to consider that most people benefit from having more than one relationship in their lives, b/c it allows them the experience and abiliitiy to deal with the final one, when he or she comes along.

I'd suggest going out with the guy you're so attracted to. When the guy you're in love with is ready you can go out with him.

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