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Rayman2004

04-19-2002, 02:10 PM

Hey buddies, look, I hate my life. My friend, she was staying with us for a couple of weeks and, well, during this time, we have gotten closer. She is my best friend, and I was about to ask her out, I felt like it was the right time. Well, her friend Matt shows up and they were talking out front. I went around the side of my house and saw them kissing. They had split up two years ago, but apparently she still feels for him. He is a bigs-hot football playing jock, and I am kinda small and not athletic. She was the only one I thought I had a chance with and now it is all down the drain. My only way to get away is listening to Ron and Fez. So I am asking, what the hell can I do to stop feeling so down? Thanks,

Ray

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irishkb

04-19-2002, 02:32 PM

Ok buddy.. just chill and look at things that you are good at and take pride in them... if you are in high school just ride it out.. trust me college will be better... it is an open playing field where everyone is equal... it will all be better soon...

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erinmoran

04-19-2002, 03:10 PM

the best way to feel good is to treat her like total shit...make sure she knows that you hate the other dude. Wait until she cries...then spank one out.

thats always a good prescription for feelin better

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cheezeemee

04-19-2002, 09:03 PM

Sounds like you just got sand kicked in your face. Get your weight up, kick his ass and win her heart. Just don't be a dick. Be cool. Treat her like a lady. Don't compliment her too much. They hate that. Just keep things well balanced. If it doesn't work out, come back here and tell us about .
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ADF

04-20-2002, 05:25 AM

Put arsenic in his espresso each morning. It won't kill him outright, but slowly, over time. Once he kicks the bucket she's all yours.. kaching!

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Rayman2004

04-20-2002, 05:36 AM

Hey guys, thanks for your advice, you guys are the best. Oh, I am also a Jeff Gordon fan.

Ray

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HordeKing1

04-20-2002, 09:49 PM

RAY - It's hard to do this, but try to step back from the situation and look at it from a more impartial perspective.

I suspect a different picture would emerge. You are friendly with a girl, and before you asked her out, you learned she had kissed an ex-boyfriend and still harbored feelings for him. Those are the facts.

You feel certain things based upon those facts. You feel that you "hate your life." You feel that phsically you don't measure up to the jock. Finally, you feel that "she was the only one...I had a chance with and now it is all down the drain."

Lets examine these feelings. I don't mean to trivialize your experience, but saying that you hate your life b/c you didn't get to ask her out is a bit extreme. Especially since, there is nothing preventing you from continuing the friendship, which is often more stable and long lasting than a romantic involvement.

She harbors feelings for her ex, but that doesn't reflect badly about you. She just likes this guy. Perhaps he broke up with her and these feelings represent a lack of closure on her part. Perhaps she genuinely cares for the guy. The point is that her kissing and/or dating this guy doesn't mean you're a bad person.

Finally, you feel that she was your one last chance. It might seem that way now, but before you know it you'll be dating someone else, and eventually you'll find the person who's right for you.

You're taking her actions as a rejection of you but she's done no such thing. You didn't even ask her out before she started kissing the other guy. She may have had no idea of your feelings or may have thought they were feelings of friendship.

I know it hurts now. The hurt will fade and you'll still have a friend. You'll also date other women.

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