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nellie

04-25-2002, 11:49 AM

he's been down lately, and i'm not hearing from him as much as i used to. i want to help him, but he lives a good distance from me. i was just talking to him today and he signed off for no reason and without saying good bye. i wish i could do something but i don't have his number. i want to help him.

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Jennitalia

04-25-2002, 12:21 PM

he's a close friend, but you dont have his phone number?
maybe he just didn't feel like talking. let him know you're there for him and you are concerned about him. i'm sure when/if he's ready to talk, he will. it's hard for some people to talk about things that are bothering them, maybe when he's ready to he'll come around.

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zathrus

04-25-2002, 12:39 PM

jennitalia
i couldn't have said it better.

nellie, just be there if he needs you.

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ROMEO

04-25-2002, 03:20 PM

yeah what they said,,stop worrying so much.

With friends like you I'm sure he'll be fine,right .

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Lulu

04-25-2002, 03:27 PM

tell him you care about him and you are worried about him. but maybe he just got kick off, and didn't feel like going back on. just be there for him, and he should be fine.

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HordeKing1

04-25-2002, 04:54 PM

NELLIE - Your friend can be down for many different reasons, that may not be anything significant. Conversely, he may be depressed. Obviously clinical assesment is required for a diagnosis.

In terms of friendship, the best you can do for him is make him aware that you are willing to listen if he wants or needs to talk or vent.

I wouldn't read anything into the AIM sign off. Everyone gets booted from AIM now and then. He may have not been able to log on after that.

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nellie

04-26-2002, 09:06 AM

i often tell him that he means the world to me, and that i will always be there for him now matter what. he has said not to worry, but i can't help it...

irishkb

04-26-2002, 09:22 AM

What is a good distance.. 100miles... if you are that worried for him the weekend is here take a road trip.. a visit from a good friend might be just what the doctor order.. car or the train i am sure that between those two you can make it to see your friend.. no distance is too far for a very good friend.

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vegeta

04-26-2002, 09:31 AM

It's good you caught it in time. If you're thinking what I'm thinking, mellie, then you have to get this guy some help.

You cannot convince him alone. Get professionals to hel him out. get him the right phone numbers, or talk his family into getting int touch with him.

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cheezeemee

04-26-2002, 05:33 PM

There's only one way to help a man. Put out!

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HordeKing1

04-27-2002, 05:20 PM

NELLIE - I doubt that this is the case, but you can inquire whether he has suicidal ideation - meaning a suicidal urge and a plan to carry it out. If he does he needs immediate help. If he does not have this impulse/plan, merely continuing to be a good friend is a wonderful thing.

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