Mom's Pain

[sexy bastard]

God it hurts real bad. you know its like no one wants to see another person in pain and in my case its my mom. I just came back from her room and I am crying she is screaming in pain and crying. It's like when we were kids we use to cry when we were sick for our mom, but when our mom is sick you feel so helpless, it hurts she was screaming in pain and crying out for her mom and she is a 61 year old woman. It hurts so bad I cant help but cry, I don't know what to do. I feel so helpless I ask her what is wrong and she just is screaming in pain. And asking for mom.
what do I do?


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[MunkeyCorpse]

just try to comfort her best u can. and try to call for some help. call an ambulance if you need to. i know its really hard to try to comfort her when she is in pain. i go through it all the time, its not something you want to hear, i dont know any good ways of dealing with it yet either.call a relative ask them for help. dude i hope she gets better.

[ChrisTheCop]

I'm so sorry. Just hold her hand and help her through it. My thoughts are with you and her.

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[HordeKing1]

SEXY - Why is your mom screaming in pain? Is the pain acute or chronic? Is she being treated by an MD. Does she have pain relievers?

If your mom is suffering from a chronic condition or pain problem ask her what you can do for her. If it's acute (i.e. new pain) call an ambulance immediately.

It can be helpful to be an advocate in these situations. Call your mom's doc and tell him or her what's going on. Insist that he prescribe pain medication in sufficient strength and dosage to make a difference to her.

The pain of someone you love is always worse than your own pain.


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[sexy bastard]

she is in alot of pain and the doctor has prescribed her pain killers so "we can make her comfortable" but your right it hurts more when you feel so helpless when someone you care for is in pain

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[fiestygal]

Honey, all you can do is really be with her and try to make her comfortable....OF course get medical attention ....also give her all the LOVE you already give.....JUST BE THERE, ya know

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[A.J.]

I'm sorry for what you're going through. I hope your Mom's pain ( and yours) can be eased.

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[HordeKing1]

SEXY - I'm somewhat of an expert on chronic pain management.

If your mom is on medication and still screaming in pain, she is not getting enough or strong enough medicine.

It's a big big problem. Many so called experts in the field of pain medicine and palliative care, refuse to give even their terminally ill patients sufficient drugs b/c they worry about them getting addicted. Stupid, stupid, stupid.

Pain hurts. A loved one's pain hurts more. Do the best you can to make sure that her doctors are aware of the extraordinary pain she's in and they don't have her on some weak and inefficient stuff.

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[sexy bastard]

i tried but even the doc thinks she cant handle anything stronger

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[Aggie]

I'm so sorry sweetie. Like I told you, you are both in my prayers. You are doing all you can....but I would try and get her more pain killers. Get a second opinion if you have to.

I'm know she appreciates having a son that cares so much for her and loves her so much. Hang in there and you know you can talk to any of us if you need to.

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[ROMEO]

S.B. Leo I'm here for you if you need to talk, I'll say a prayer for you both..Try to stay calm and do whats best for her, you have the strenght in you to do it..

I'll email you my phone #

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[blakjeezis]

Wow man, I got a lump in my throat reading that. I don't know what I can say that hasn't already been said . . . and better. Just take heart that she knows that she has someone who cares so intensely for her. Your strength will help.

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[sexy bastard]

my sis is coming toorrow, my sis will bring my neice that might help her feel better, but i have to watch my sis cause she just got out of the hosital also for surgery on her knees, but me and her have to now figure out how were going to pay for her bills since mom has no insurance, so we will be picking up the bill

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[HordeKing1]

Leo, in the absence of insurance your mom will not get the care she needs.

Is she on Social Security or Social Security Disability benefits? If so she has medicare part B. (It takes 2 years for this to vest in SSDB). There is a small deduction taken for medical coverage (hospital coverage is free).

If she is inelligible for these programs (b/c of lack of sufficient work years for example, I strongly you look into some other assistance programs such as SSI and TANF.

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[Michael Fury]

Horde King is absolutely right: undertreatment of pain is stupid & unnecessary. If your Mom's doc is afraid to prescribe a more potent painkiller, insist on getting a second opinion. Preferably with a pain management specialist trained & experienced in this area. They're sympathetic to what your Mom's going through.

http://www.abpm.org/diplomats.htm

If you can't afford her treatment, apply for Medicaid. This is not a quick process & Medicaid doesn't cover all pain meds but it's a start.

Also, drug companies have patient assistance programs for people who don't have access to needed drugs. It's worth a try.

http://www.phrma.org/searchcures/dpdpap-2000/pa1.phtml

Good luck.





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