Is this situation F'd up???

[TomPoo]

Ok, I am not sure if this is a strange situation or not -

I have a friend that for the past few years has been a hook-up buddy. She lives out of state so we don't see each other often but when we do, its usually understood what is going to happen.

Well she has a BF now. And as part of the understanding we have, when either one of us is in a relationship - there is no hooking up (which is fine cause we are friends first and formost)

Now, she is suppose to visit with her new BF sometime in the next few weeks. And she is bringing with her a friend that she wants to set me up with. She think me and this friend are definately going to hit it off and probably hook up.

Now I am starting to wonder if this visit is really such a good I dea. BAsiclly the girl I use to F is bringing up her Boyfriend and a girl that she want me to hook up with - and none of the oithers know of our past.

Is this just a trainwreck waiting to happen, or am I just worrying too much???

what do you all think???






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[IRISjr]

this cant be good, I feel something bad coming. She knows that that would make you wierd if she comes with this guy. It's almost like she wants to tell the guy you slept together, but not tell him.
It also sounds like she's kinda testing you with this other chick. If she is hot you might as well but watch your back, she sounds freaky.

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[seagullbeagle]

what a great friend....you two cant hookup anymore so she brings a replacement.Dont look a gifthorse in the mouth my friend.......
Unless you feel something more than friendship for her...and in that case you should have said something sooner <P>

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[fatty]

i say go for it. this girl is obviously cool enough to understand what your relationship is which is very rare.

it seems she has an understanding on how you guys are with each other, which means it's cool if you hook up with this girl.

don't over think the situation, she has a boyfriend but she's still down to be cool with you, and even throw you bone. i say take it.

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[irishkb]

i am thinking possible 3some.. hahahah jk... hey it is a little strange but i say just be yourself and not worry about what might happen just enjoy your friend coming up and if anything happens it happens..

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[ChrisTheCop]

I'd like to see a woman respond to this to see if they think there may be an ulterior motive involved with your F friend. But as a guy, naturally I say Go For It!! She seems like a cool chick, who, as Fatty mentioned, seems to understand your relationship. Enjoy!

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[Aggie]

What Fatty said! :)

But Chris, I thought there might be another motive at first, but the more I thought about it, I don't think so. If she is willing to bring a friend and go visit him, I think it will be cool as long as no one is weirded out. They both need to feel comfortable with their roles as hook up buddies!

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[Coco]

<i>I'd like to see a woman respond to this to see if they think there may be an ulterior motive involved with your F friend</i>

I would say it was out of pure guilt. She is probably in love with this new guy and feels guilty that she no longer will be with Tom.

Tom: I would say that this could be a totally uncomfortable situation for you as you will have to come face to face with the fact that your "sexual encounters" with this girl will probably be ending.

I would make sure they have their own place to stay and that you have access to leave a situation at any time. There is nothing worse than being set up on a blind date type of situation that you don't want to be in.

I wish the best for you though.

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it may not be so bad, but it also has the potential of really getting ugly. i think you should give it a shot, what do you have to lose?


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[HordeKing1]

TOM POO - You ask if the situation as you describe it is "strange." Basically you have a fuck buddy, who you've had sex with when she's available but whom you regard primarily as a friend.

She's in a relationship now, and looks at you as a friend not as a fuck buddy. She's comfortable enough with your friendship to want to show off her new boyfriend AND to try to set you up with her girlfriend.

I would say that this is a good friend who is trying to continue to be a good friend despite the change in the nature of the relationship.

The "weirdness" potential is dependant upon whether the new bf knows of your past. If he does things could be very weird.

It is possible to turn into a trainwreck but if things go as planned it will not.


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[TomPoo]

wow... alot of different responses - and you all have brought up very good points.

she is definately a very cool chick, and we have been friends for a long time. And I have met her boyfriends before. (But that was in college and it wasn't for a weekend trip)

I will probably go go through with it because I rarely get to see my friend, and even under the worst of circumstances I would still rather see her than not.

But I will be very cautious, watch the alcohol intake, and hopefully I will hit it off with her friend.

Thanks for the advice everyone!



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