Dumpted and Depressed

[Meatball]

I know you guys are tired of hearing stuff like this - but i needed a place to vent. My GF of the past year dumpted me for someone who lived closer to her and was her "friend" for many years.. I was a good BF. I was loving and kind and caring. We had one spat and she immediatly left me for him. He was the consolation guy. There is nothing i can do about it except grieve. Im a mess..i really loved her and wanted to be with her for ever. i dont know how long it will be before i am right again. My self esteem is shot to hell and i think i lost all chances for happiness. I know this isnt a unique experience, but it feels awful. I am so hurt that while i suffer she is in someone elses arms. My life is a total mess.
Thanks for letting me vent.

[Aggie]

I'm so sorry and I truly know how you feel after being left after 4 1/2 yrs. All I can say is time heals...it is a very basic idea, but you have to be patient. All those feelings that took so long to build, will take even longer to heal, but it will happen. If you need to talk you can email me! Feel better sweetie.

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[nellie]

we had one spat and she immediatly left me for him


who started the spat? maybe she was looking for an excuse to leave you...
*hugs* it'll get better, it'll just take some time....

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Thanks Fallon!

[wilee]

One fight and she runs? There's two possibilities, one, Nellie's right, she was looking for an excuse to leave, in which case, it wasn't meant to be, she just didn't want to appear "the bitch" for dumping you.

2. She can't/won't deal with problems in the relationship. Maybe she was expecting nothing but wine and roses, but if she can't handle the downs as well as the ups, it indicates high maintenance, and you're probably better off.

As Aggie said, it'll take a while, but there's still plenty of ladies out there.

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[CYYYFYYY]

I have to agree time heels and venting also
helps......


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[Jennitalia]

i agree with nellie.
hang in there. it does get better little by little. keep yourself busy and with friends. the more time you spend alone thinking about things over and over again, the harder and longer it is to get over it.
hang in there

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This message was edited by Jennitalia on 9-3-02 @ 7:34 PM

[Death Metal Moe]

It's my experience that there is no explaining women.

You could be the best guy in the world, and you will lose. Then, they'll gp out with some guy that smacks them around for years.

Some chicks have no self esteem, sense, sensibility, or appreciation for what they got.

And Pain is a part of life, My friend. Sometimes it's the only thing that reminds us we're alive. So due to this, it may be your best friend or your worst emeny.

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[Gaia]

Oh sweetie....First, I'm so sorry.
Second..I know what you are going through...I just recently had a realtionship end that was almost 6 years Young .... I'm more hurt than I have ever been..I CAN tell you that...we just need time to heal. If you want to talk, please feel free to E-mail me.....I'll be here to talk if you need me.

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[Hawiian shirt craig]

been there done that... remember this beatles song:

its getting better all the time! better better beeeeeeter getting so much better since you've been mine....

those days are gone huh??

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[Voyager]

Similiar experience happened to me. At first i let my g/f go because of pride. My friends kept giving me negative advice telling me to get myself a hooker to get over the pain. They didn't understand what I felt for my g/f. It drove me nuts knowing she was with this other guy. I had to let her know how I felt. I had to take a risk. If I hadn't she would not be my wife today. You can listen to all this sound advice about finding replacements but It doesn't sound like that is what you want. I know you wrote that after one spat she ran to this other guy but do you really know why? We are just hearing your side of the story maybe she has a different one to tell. My advice to you is that if you really love this woman like you say you do then you need to let her know before its too late. If I didn't let my girl know she would not be my wife today. We have been married for 2 years now and expecting our first child. Sometimes you have to take risks. If you are absolutely sure there is not a chance with her then my advice would be get yourself lots of hobbies and lots of friends to get your mind off her. Good luck

[blakjeezis]

Man, I hate getting dumpted. It's the worst thing ever. Although one time I did get Humpty Dumpted and that wasn't so bad. It was like this whole other thing though, had a totally different vibe to it.

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[FMJeff]

There is nothing i can do about it except grieve.


Why? Did someone die? A good friend told me a method of getting over chicks...he calls it the "Fuck Her" method. Just keep saying it until you're angry instead of sad. Don't grieve dude. Be pissed.


We had one spat and she immediatly left me for him.


Nothing is ever that simple. What was the fight about?

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[fatty]

Why? Did someone die? A good friend told me a method of getting over chicks...he calls it the "Fuck Her" method. Just keep saying it until you're angry instead of sad. Don't grieve dude. Be pissed.


that may be the most bitter and best advice i ever heard.

oh yeah, don't forget to watch swingers! it's guaranteed to cheer you up.

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[Meatball]

Im not the most articulate dude on earth - but i wanted to thank you all for responding and giving me some good advice and sharing. Thank god this board exists! I wanted to e-mail some of you who offered to talk about it, but i decided the best way to go was to think/ talk about it as little as possible and remind myself of all the negetive aspects of the relationship ( we tend to focus on only the good when we break up). Im moving on and must let time do its thing. Thanks again
:)

[Aggie]

good to hear that mortician! but if you still want to talk to anyone we're here! :)

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