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angrymissy

09-25-2002, 05:09 AM

I am asking for opinions on this situation, even though I know my fiance pokes around the boards once and a while to spy on me.

STOP LOOKING DANNY!

Here is the thing. I asked my fiance to go to the steak out with me about 3 weeks ago. He's up at school in Albany. He said he was pretty sure he'd go. Well I asked him last night and he said that his roommate invited him to play paintball this weekend and he'd rather do that. Now at first I wasn't pissed, but now I'm thinking about it and it's making me MADDER and MADDER becuase I asked him 3 weeks ago. His roommate must have just asked him this week.

Should I be pissed? Danny you are not allowed to respond.

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09-25-2002, 05:14 AM

i'd be pissed. if its a ride,
make his ass take amtrack
or in a total pinch i can grab
him on my way down from
plattsburgh. i drive right
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to go there so i could easily
fin him.

or maybe hes scared of us
all, who wouldn't be?

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DarkHippie

09-25-2002, 05:17 AM

If its a choice between hanging out with your chick's friends or doing something cool with your own, what do you do?

He did promise you, but i think you should let him off the hook (but he better make it up to you next time ;) )

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angrymissy

09-25-2002, 05:20 AM

we'll he's come out before and its not a ride and I don't think he's scared of everyone... I think he'd rather play paintball with his buddies then come hang w/ me. So I'm thinkin I should be pissed and he shouldn't get off so easily, but I'm also psycho sometimes and just wanna make sure I'm right for bein pissed.

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Rev

09-25-2002, 06:13 AM

I'd be pissed, unless it was an honest mistake, and doesnt wanna lose face with his friends.

otherwise, it's just plain rude to you.

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fatty

09-25-2002, 06:18 AM

he'd rather hang out with his friends than hang out with the people his fiance knows from a radio show message board?

well he shouldnt' have said he would go and then back out just now, he's kinda blowin it there. other than that i don't blame him, if you're not on the board you just wont' get it. let him be with his boys i'm sayin.

also, you have a choice to be mad or not here. now you can be like every other girl and be mad or you can be cool and not be mad. i say be different and be cool.

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angrymissy

09-25-2002, 06:27 AM

I should also say, that its not just about the steak out, he was going to come down for the weekend to see me... so there are other factors. And, he is with "the boys" almost every weekend and during the week at school. Normally I would totally flip about this and I think it might be scaring him that I'm not eheee.

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This message was edited by angrymissy on 9-25-02 @ 10:30 AM

Jennitalia

09-25-2002, 06:40 AM

i can see why you'd be pissed, but i wouldnt get too upset over it. He's at an age where his friends come first. I'd rather hang with my friends than my boyfriends message board friends

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The Mad Mongo

09-25-2002, 06:43 AM

If he rather hang out with his friends then you its the begining of the end ---- u can play paintball any weekend

HongKongPhooey

09-25-2002, 06:46 AM

I say talk to him and ask him to be up front about it before you get all pissed. He might have a legit reason or he might not. Find out what he has to say on the matter first, then decide what kind of mood you're gonna be in later. Either way I think you should have fun at the steakout.

On a side note, I just looked at your picture for the first time.....and that is a horribly WRONG trick to play on someone!

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angrymissy

09-25-2002, 07:22 AM

hrm. I think the answer is to be pissed but not make a big deal outta it. It's not really about the steak out, it's more of an issue of him not coming down for the weekend.

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fiestygal

09-25-2002, 07:22 AM

id be pissed in that YOU asked first....

like if my friends asked me to go somewhere first and then my BF or who ever asked me to go somewhere ID go with who ever asked me first...its only fair

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FUNKMAN

09-25-2002, 07:25 AM

hey, if the guy wants to paint balls with his buddies and not be with you then he's making a mistake...

guys do dumb things especially early in a long term relationship...just hopefully they don't keep making them...

give him a set of blue balls, that will show him...
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angrymissy

09-25-2002, 07:29 AM

guys do dumb things especially early in a long term relationship...just hopefully they don't keep making them...

We've been together for 6 years

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HongKongPhooey

09-25-2002, 07:33 AM

I used to pull moves like that when I was trying to distance myself from someone. I'm not accusing him of the same thing, I'm just saying it's a possibility. I wouldn't worry about it though unless it becomes more frequent.

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09-25-2002, 08:25 AM

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ChrisTheCop

09-25-2002, 08:40 AM

I think he'd rather play paintball with his buddies then come hang w/ me.
Well, theres your answer isnt it? Let him have a good time with his buds, and we'll all make sure YOU have a great time eating steak! I dont think u should make too big a deal of it. Let him know youre upset that he cancelled out on your plans, but be glad that he'll have fun this weekend.

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Sheeplovr

09-25-2002, 10:08 AM

Should I be pissed? Danny you are not allowed to respond

he he responds as walken woudl it be okay cause i defintly would like to hear that

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angrymissy

09-25-2002, 10:33 AM

I will have a good time regardless, I always do - I guess I'm just feelin a tad rejected

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09-25-2002, 11:14 AM

I'm also psycho
sometimes

ummm sometimes? look at
your sig!

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TheGameHHH

09-25-2002, 11:41 AM

Don't worry about it, it's not a big deal.

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09-25-2002, 02:34 PM

Paint Ball may be a once in a
year opportunity so i say give
the guy a break......

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angrymissy

09-25-2002, 02:54 PM

well he's still not coming down, but paintball wasn't the real reason behind my pissedoffness i think and i talked it over with him

thanks for the insight guys it helped

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my_mr_happy

09-26-2002, 12:46 PM

ok... it is very funny when people ask if they have reason to be mad about something.

You have a right to your feelings. if you Feel Hurt or angry then something is off.

Now... the next question is how or what should you do with those feelings and with him.

I will say this. Guys can be kinda dumb about scheduels. If he honestly forgot then he needs to be man enough to step up to the plate and go with you. If he did it on purpose ... then there is anouther issue. Does he feel like he does not want to go? Why does he not want to go?

Look. People can't stop how they feel. If they could they would be Happy all the time. What we can control is our actions and WHAT WE DO AFTER the feelings have been hurt.

Does he not want to go for anouther reason or was it an honest mistake?

my_mr_happy

09-26-2002, 12:53 PM

oh.. just read the paibnt ball thing... Paint ball happens EVERY WEEKEND.. he can go anouther day.

angrymissy

09-26-2002, 01:10 PM

the paintball thing is - it was his roommates birthday and his girlfriend bought him a paintball trip for him and 10 friends, and my guy is going to that.

It's not really the paintball. It's that I feel rejected because even though the paintball is cool and all, I feel like I'm being ditched for his roommates, whom he's gets to see every day.

I shouldn't really get too deep into it but I'm working on resolving the issues I'm facing.

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Doogie

09-26-2002, 01:13 PM

You have every right to be mad Missy...when you make a commitment, stick to it. But make sure you let him know that you are pissed (Not saying that you havent, just talking from experience)

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09-26-2002, 01:24 PM

if he committed to what you wanted to do before the paintball, then yes, you have the right to be pissed.

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Hawiian shirt craig

09-26-2002, 02:54 PM

. It's that I feel
rejected because even
though the paintball is cool
and all, I feel like I'm being
ditched for his roommates,
whom he's gets to see
every day.

if you want that i "persuade"
him differently... i will....
peanutbutter-jelly with a
baseball bat.... LOL

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my_mr_happy

09-27-2002, 07:33 AM

There is something I have always believed in.

"what a person says is how they view the world and themself... what they do is who they are.."

if this is a regular thing and happens often then I would totaly look into it more in depth. If not then it might not need to be looked into any deeper. BUT you HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO BE UPSET... TOTALY

CreepyGyrl

09-27-2002, 07:45 AM

Well if I were in you shoes I would totally be upset. However, if you ask Rev I tend to overreact at things and freak out beyond whats necessary. So I really woudn't take my advice to heart. But I thought I put in my 2 cents anyway.

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09-28-2002, 01:34 AM

Say your fiance died, youd be sad right? Well he didnt. Hes just goin to play some paint ball everythings cool.

ShelleBink

09-28-2002, 05:29 PM

i would be, only because its very rare that i go out of my way to make plans in advance. im more of a go-with-the-flow person, so when i make plans and they don't work, i'm like you and get MADDER and MADDER

hope it didn't ruin ur good time though.

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09-28-2002, 05:52 PM

well, it seems like i'm in the minority here, but i'm with you missy. i'd definitely be pissed if i were you. it's not about the steak out or whatever, but if he told you that he'd come, then he should come... especially if you dont get to see him all the time and it was going to be your weekend together. i say give him hell

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09-29-2002, 11:08 PM

i agree with rev on this, but i will say if he is spending more time with his friends instead of spending time with you, that can be bad and good, it can be good cause maybe he feels hes not spending enough time with his friends, but it can be bad if he prefers the company of his friends then to you, its something that maybe was a mistake, but talk to him about it, and talk to him when your both calm and just see what happened. if you go to him pissed off then its not fair and you guys might end up fighting just try to talk about it calmly

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