arghhh...i HATE being shy!!

[El Mudo]

ive known this broad since freshman year of high school, and ive liked her since then, but have never told her. here we are six years later, and i still cant talk to her in person! i get all nervous and stutter like a freakin idiot..the only way i can really talk to her is on IM

does anyone have any advice on how to get rid of shyness?

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[Coco]

"Still waters run deep". A lot of shy people are very deep thinkers and sensitive people - look at it as an asset.

I think the only thing that gets you over it, is just maturity and really believing in yourself. As you get older and have to confront more and more problems, you just find that a lot of things in life are just insignificant.

By the way, most people are nervous initially around those they love. I am glad that you are able to at least IM her. Maybe a relationship can start from the IM'ing her.

Hope it turns out good.

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[Dork-kc]

I suffer from shyness, but it seems the most worthwhile people hang around and give you time to open up.

[fiestygal]

me too buddy..im a shy one myself..BUT I FIND THAT ALCOHOL helps and debaucherous behavior break that mold

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[phixion]

see above just add Chronic.

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[shorty]

OK, here's my secret...I'm a big dork and it took me a while, but I realized that everyone's a dork sometimes. You just have to realize that there's nothing for you to be nervous about b/c this girl is not so high and mighty that she doesn't get nervous or shy at times too. Just relax and talk to her.

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[El Mudo]

me too buddy..im a shy one myself..BUT I FIND THAT ALCOHOL helps and debaucherous behavior break that mold


sorry fiestygal, but I dont drink..never have, probably never will (alcoholism has really torn my family up and i dont wanna end up like any of the drunks in my family)

but she doesnt either so thats good. i just get so nervous when i talk to her im afraid of saying something wrong. i shook for like 20 minutes at work after she left

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[FUNKMAN]

stop thinking about how much you like her and talk to her...
your anticipating rejection but if you go in without the high expectations you'll be calmer and can maintain a nice, civil conversation with her...it's a start
keep in mind that you have alot to offer any girl and if this one doesn't work out the way you hoped, there will "always" be other girls, ladies, woman to meet and be with...
stay loose, you'll be alright...


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[GirLieBatchXoX]

try roleplaying.. think to yourself, 'I am P.Diddy' *lol*.. or better yet, 'I am Tom Cruise', or 'Brad Pitt' *wink*.. and picture yourself with loads *hehe* of confidence, picture yourself as someone that she will surely be into once she finds out who you are and what you're all about.

If all else fails, picture her in her undies as you talk to her, it works for shy public speakers!

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[FMJeff]

here's a tip, don't refer to women as broads...

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[GaryWyze]

<font color=purple>Know exactly what you want to say to her in advance. Rehearse it, visualize it in your mind. And psyche yourself up before hand.

Get into character, be the big grizzly bear going after the little bunny rabbit.

Seriously, just take a deep breath and give it your best shot. It'll only be hard to get the 1st few words out, but once you start talking, adrenaline should kick in.

I know it's hard, but the only way for you to overcome this thing is to literally force yourself... and everytime you do, it'll get a little easier.

Besides, do you really wanna spend the rest of your life wondering what if?

Suck it up and good luck!</font>

[nycenice]

i'm shy too luckily online chatting saved my life:P. i've met about three or four girls from that and from those experiences it's boosted my confidence to the point where i can talk to girls very well and keep a chat up.though one time i wanted to im latinspice but my friend had to help me get the courage up..(her profile on aol was intimidating at the time) so my advice is build your confidence and if can't do that pretend to be some1 who is confident not emotionally healthy but whatever works works

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[Contra]

just look in the mirror and tell yourself..."YOU DA MAN!"

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[wilee]

You don't get points by sitting on the sidelines. What's the worst that could happen? If she considers you a friend, but doesn't want a romantic relationship with you, she'll tell you. If she was looking for the romantic relationship with you, you'll hook up.

Take it slow and easy. Set up a "date" with a bunch of friends, and ask her to join you (movie, club, etc). After one or two of those, see if she wants to hang out with just you, and work it from there.

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[Michael Fury]

Taken from The Tao of Steve:

Just think like Steve McQueen (if you don't know who he is, rent Bullitt or The Getaway). The basic approach is as follows:

1) Eliminate desire (don't let this chick know you're interested - if you act like a puppy dog around her, you're toast);
2) Be excellent (Girls like to be impressed - do something really awesome in her presence that proves your worth as a sexual partner); and
3) Retreat - "We pursue that which retreats". If you've impressed her, let her come to you.

Don't be one of those nice, sweet guy who never get anywhere with girls because you let her know that you're interested. Play the game .. .






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[Jennitalia]

be a man, stop hiding behind your computer and just talk to the girl. what's the worst that could happen? if she's not in to you, it's not the end of the world.

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[GodsFavoriteMan]

I'm shy as hell, too. I just don't bother unless I get a vibe that the girl is really into me, too. How do you know if this has happened? Just talk to her, see how that goes, if there are more Umms, uhhs, and uncomfortable pauses, than actual words, give it up, there's not much chemistry.

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[smartsteve]

thanx a lot that really help i got a gurl i neva could get wit out ur advice email me sometime ;)E-mail Address HereE-mail Address Here

[TheGameHHH]

here's a tip, don't refer to women as broads...
Stole my thunder man!

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[Bama]

Eliminate desire


That really works.

I remember back in the day I use to always fawn over girls I liked and couldn't really talk to them because I was just nervous.
Anyway, one day at a party I saw this really hot chick but it looked like she had a boyfriend (turns out the poor guy was trapped in the "friend zone") so I just talked to her like she was one of the guys. She was really cool and I didn't ruin it by over-complimenting her the whole time.

Long story short, I'm gonna marry that girl in two months.

[AngelAmy]

here's a tip, don't refer to women as broads...

jeff said what i was going to say...wow wait we agreed on something?

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[Cybersoldier]

I know how you feel man I was completely shy in high school as well, it took some time for me to break that shell, but I did it and I'm still changing myself, experiencing new things. You'll just need to slowly change the things that makes you shy, start slowly and build up, especially when it comes to the opposite sex, their is always a chance of rejection, but keep trying, I'll still trying myself as well, just stay postive

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[Donnielimes]

The only way to get over being shy is to practice not being shy. challenge your fears and go after the hottest Woman in the room. you gotta get shot down some so you toughen up then it's all gravy. I used to always date older women ALWAYS and that helps build your confidence. Spread your action around and be bold. What have you got to lose??? <P>

[dassal3399]

hey man i'm a little shy too, i was very shy...all i do is just say fuck it and just go for it, that's what you have to do...just say fck it and go for it

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[Evilpete]

I knoe how you feel, I"m shy as hell too..hece why I'm on the internet all the time....
that don't make me a bad person right???

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[Katylina]

Yes. I am shy too.

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[faccia]

i am uncomfortably shy and YES it does really suck!!

[Wolfchild]

you know who shyness skeeves out more than anyone? your parents. cuz when you're 21 years old and have never even kissed a girl people do start to wonder about you, and make accusations that can only be silenced by a short right hook to the jaw. and it's not cuz i like my booty the Fez way but because i'm so damned shy i can never approach any woman and ask her out on a date without wanting to shoot myself in a head. i swear every day is a battle not to jump off of a building.

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[Wolfchild]

you know who shyness skeeves out more than anyone? your parents. cuz when you're 21 years old and have never even kissed a girl people do start to wonder about you, and make accusations that can only be silenced by a short right hook to the jaw. and it's not cuz i like my booty the Fez way but because i'm so damned shy i can never approach any woman and ask her out on a date without wanting to shoot myself in a head. i swear every day is a battle not to jump off of a building.

Would you spare one wolf in the pack that has devastated your herd?

[Lizard King]

I'm almost too shy to post on this damn message board, now that sucks.

[Wolfchild]

well goodness that is pretty bad man. maybe you've got social anxiety disorder like i do.

Would you spare one wolf in the pack that has devastated your herd?

[Lizard King]

yeah probably but what are you gonna, do ya know?

[Donnielimes]

Unless you live at home with your parents. Throw a party. It doesn't have to be fancy and you don't have to make chips and dips. BYOB and you supply the tunes and the company it's a no pressure way to get this girl someplace where you feel comfortable and at ease 'Your place' without making her feel put on the spot. Have a mutual friend tell her about the party and when she gets to the party be a good host offer her a beer and relax.