How does a shy guy pick up women?

[pink van]

I'm 22, very outgoing, spontaneous and fun. I get really nervous around women and have never had a girl as a friend, that's probably why. I am really easy to like I make friends everywhere, but just not women. I cannot pick up women. Actually I have problems trying. What do I say to start a conversation?Where should I go to meet women? How do I get the balls?Any help would be appreciated.



This message was edited by pink van on 10-29-02 @ 3:51 PM

[Earth2RON]

very outgoing, spontaneous and fun. I cannot pick up women. Actually I have problems trying. What do I say to start a conversation?Where should I go to meet women?
I'm pretty much like you atleast in my eyes im funnny and spontaneous....i suck at conversations cuz im not that much of a talker, i prefer to be around someone who talks more than i do that usually helps!

You say you want to meet females while you came to the right place their are plenty of females on this messageboard who are cool has hell, so make friends and enjoy it while it last cuz like everything in life all good things come to an END!

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[shorty]

Try saying 'Hi' and going from there. I'm not being sarcastic, just get over the shy thing and talk.

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[Hawiian shirt craig]

just walk up to a girl and
say something like this
place sucks. or i dont
belive i'm here again. or
you're in my ___ class,
right?


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[Smiledog11]

A simple 'hi' usually does the trick. I've found most girls are pretty nice and willing to give you a few minutes of conversation if you're polite. The key is to make them smile, everyone likes to be around someone who makes them laugh. Once you've conquered the fear of the approach and made yourself a few female friends, you can move on to the really fun stuff: Getting yourself out of the 'Friend Zone' Now that's the tricky part!

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This message was edited by Smiledog11 on 10-29-02 @ 4:51 PM

[nj_voodoo]

Go up to a chick and say, " Hi, my name is Pink Van, and I really had to know your name".

Just look at her eyes and not her..... oh yeah, you may try a name change.

[Aggie]

How does a shy guy pick up women?

They don't.


J/K...Just be yourself, you can't force it. Good luck.

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[Miss Dolores Haze]

I agree with Shorty. If you say Hi, whats the worst she can do? Not talk to you? You're already too shy to talk to her! <P>

You see, she had absolutely nowhere else to go.

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[DarkHippie]

I'm like that too. the way I flirt with girls is by working the whole shy thing. A lot of girls think its disarming. Just remember, shy does NOT mean acting like charlie brown. Think "the young, innocent cowboy" persona from Westerns

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[LatinSpiceXoX]

Write her a note, leave it at her desk, locker, or dormroom...
'I like you! Do you like me?
Check ONE'

[ ]yes [ ]No

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[CovDiesel]

Go up to her and whisper sweet nothings in her ear like, "I'm gonna fuck you in the back of my truck."

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[undressa]

pink van, I so know the feeling, not that I am at all shy and in my travels of dateing asshole, I have a bit of a sharp tounge, so maybe, I have a different problem. I can't find someone nice who will adore me and recognize that I am a good person. Tell me are you tall pink van?

[Aggie]

Go up to her and whisper sweet nothings in her ear like, "I'm gonna fuck you in the back of my truck."


That line gets me every time. I've seen the back of quite a few trucks here in Houston.

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[Donnielimes]

Get UNSHY scientific studies show that Men being Showoffy or Attention grabbing has the same effect on women as a peacock showing his plummage it is part of the mating ritual and even if you make a fool of yourself you get seen and that is how come Rock stars can be butt ugly and date super models and the only funny guys that get laid are the ones that get on stage and be funny.

[jamesdiggy]

How does a shy guy pick up women?
With his two arms.

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[bboxer]

i have the exact same problem with girls, i hope that note suugestion was a joke because that's seems like a plea of insecurity

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[Yerdaddy]

Don't make things too difficult for yourself. Just take a deep breath, walk up to a girl you like and say "here, breathe into this rag."

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[JustJon]

pin $100 bills to yourself. might wanna lose the pink van, too.

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[BrianTheBailBondsman]

have your sister introduce you

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[Hawiian shirt craig]

dont drive a van, esp a pink
one... it screams kid
touching clown/talk show
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[Alice S. Fuzzybutt]

Nothing wrong with being shy. My best advice to you is to NOT put so much pressure on yourself. It's all in the mind set. Not to quote the movie "What about Bob?", but remember: baby steps. I know, you're young and want to get laid. Don't go from 0 to 60 immediately. Try just TALKING to women when you're out with no pretense. Be honest, be sincere. Take a little time to relax around women. When you're relaxed and just yourself, I'll guarantee you'll meet someone!

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[Charley]

Hey Friend,

According to a study at the University of Waterloo, 85% of women that answered a survey about attraction to the opposite sex said that charm was the main component. And the good news is that no matter who you are, charm can be learned by simply gaining the right knowledge and with a little bit of practice.

Charm is really about letting someone know that you feel good about them without embarrassing them or asking or expecting anything in return. The secret is being totally selfless, without worrying about the outcome.

For more tips on how to attract women, feel free to visit my home page.

Hope this helps.

Thanks
Charley

[hanso]

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[NickyL0885]

Just walk up to a girl, unzip your pants, whip out your dick and say, "So, what are we going to do about this?"

[sailor]

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[CYYYFYYY]

If you are shy lets face it you are not going to walk up to a female and say hi even though that does work. How about try internet dating. It is alot easier to say hi to just a picture. If they respond you talk to each other via e-mail and eventaully by phone and then finally meet. By time you meet you feel you kinda know her already.

[Willmore]

If you are shy lets face it you are not going to walk up to a female and say hi even though that does work. How about try internet dating. It is alot easier to say hi to just a picture. If they respond you talk to each other via e-mail and eventaully by phone and then finally meet. By time you meet you feel you kinda know her already.

It's also easier to jerk off to just a picture. Chicks get a bit peeved when you try to do it in person.

[keithy_19]

Thank God I lost the van.

[goreds2]

Just walk up to a girl, unzip your pants, whip out your dick and say, "So, what are we going to do about this?"

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make 3 figures

[murfee]

weed and booze works every time

[smokingluckys]

Simple answer, don't be shy.

Elaborate answer: As someone who grew up with an insane level of shyness, suffice to say I had no success with women in High School. One day something clicked, I guess it was the point I didn't care anymore and that was exactly what was needed.

The shyness stems from a few things usually: (at least in my and a lot of other guys cases)

- You put women on a pedestal. While your guy friends are just people, and women you aren't attracted to are equals, women you do find attractive are placed in higher stature than yourself. This comes through in your body language, and your speech when interacting with them. Women don't typically find this kind of behavior attractive, assertiveness and confidence are attractive, subservience isn't.
- Shyness and low self-esteem usually go hand in hand. You're probably saying to yourself negative things any time a situation to approach a woman comes up such as "she wouldn't want to talk to me etc." Again low self esteem and self deprecation are two things that will significantly hurt your ability to approach women.

My suggestions are this:
- start making a check list of the things you do like about yourself, the things you bring to the table.
- start thinking about the friends you have, what is it about you they like being around?

Once you got these two things down pat, start catching yourself anytime you start putting yourself down and make yourself think about something good about yourself, take pride in your strong points. Getting yourself to think positively about yourself is probably the most important step before actively approaching women.

Next step, is every time you think about talking to a woman, just do it. If you bomb, it's part of life. Forgive yourself, (she probably had her reasons, boyfriend, bitch or not interested) and try, try again. The truth is it's a numbers game, and you're gonna get a lot of misses before you get a hit. Just try to have confidence in yourself, and don't get obsessed about making things happen. The more confident and relaxed you are, the more likely you are to be successful.

I know where you're at, I had similar issues myself and even now I can't say i'm perfect. But life's too short to let fear and self-doubt hold you back from taking a chance. Shyness is your worst enemy and you have to make it your mission to overcome it.

It also doesn't hurt to do some reading on the subject, there's a ton of stuff out there but a lot of it is crap (Like Men are from Mars etc., or shit from the Pickup artist community). David Deangelo's books such as Double Your dating is a good place to start, his approach is a little more reasonable than the nonsense the "pick up artists" recommend. The Game by Neil Strauss is a must read book as well but not as a "how to guide", but more for an understanding of sexual psychology and the line beyond confidence into arrogance and manipulative you should avoid.


P.S. on an off subject I've had this acct since 2007 and it's my first post. Wow.

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Well Id say its a damn good first post buddy.

[CountryBob]

[QUOTE=pink van;292404]I'm 22, very outgoing, spontaneous and fun. I get really nervous around women and have never had a girl as a friend, that's probably why. I am really easy to like I make friends everywhere, but just not women. I cannot pick up women. Actually I have problems trying. What do I say to start a conversation?Where should I go to meet women? How do I get the balls?Any help would be appreciated.



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[CountryBob]

Cash or being thin.
No fat guy can get anything without cash and lots of it.
Or you can be thin.

This is the most truthful post I have ever seen!