Do You Believe in that "One True Love" Theory?

[Coco]

I often heard it said that in everyone's life there is usually that "one true love" that you don't forget. Do you believe in this theory?

I know years ago, I went out with a guy for about 5 years. I never met anyone else like him. Believe it or not, in 5 years, I think we had maybe 2 arguments. I still think about him, and no guy since him came close to what I had with him.


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[Jennitalia]

Yes, i believe in it and i lost mine a couple of years ago. havent met anyone that even compares to him since

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[Brick Jesus]

I go with the theory that Chaz Palmentieri put forth in "A Bronx Tale" that you only get three great women in your lifetime. They can be spread out over time or they can happen all at once, but no matter what, you get three.
I think I only had 1 so far.

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[Contra]

that was beautiful :'(

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[Crippler]

I don't believe in it for the simple reason that I fall in love 5 to 10 times daily. But, that could be just be a reflection of the fact that I have a penis. I guess for women, though, it is a little different and the "one true love" theory is definitely possible.

For most men, however (all kidding aside), they could live forever with just a kind of woman and not one woman in particular. And that kind of woman is the one that loves to have sex, doesn't cut him off from ever socializing from his friends without worrying about hell to pay, and doesn't drive him nuts in between everything else.


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i do. and everyone you meet
before them (or in shittier
situations after) makes you
ready for them. Theres a
couple girls i'm after now,
and with out some past
experiences, i'd be lost in
the sauce. but when i meet
her, shes stuck with me...
scarey, no?


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[Coco]

<i>I don't believe in it for the simple reason that I fall in love 5 to 10 times daily</i>

I am not talking about superficial lust that is only temporary, but a deep love that lasts for one another, ie, loving the person's spirit, their personality, sharing the same interests, being there for one another in good times and bad, etc.

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[Donnielimes]

OK so I was watching this show on tv and they said that the feeling of love that we feel for another person is a survival mechanism people who fall in love stay together and raise kids so the race procreates and stuff. It's all endocrine response it's not real you can probably fall in love with anyone.

[RF Godfather]

This is what I said in a thread a few months ago and I really believe it:

I remember some Greek tale my Greek and Latin Roots of English teacher told us that would illustrate what I mean. Try to follow me here and if someone knows this better please fill me in if I'm missing something.

It was something to the effect that in creation there were gods and humans. Humans had a male and female part/half. Fearing that the human would be more powerul than the gods, the higher beings themselves decided to break up the male and female parts. Now for those hopeless romantics of us out there, the meaning of this story is that there is only one perfect person for us and it is our life's purpose to find that other part of us to make us complete.

"YOU COMPLETE ME!" never meant more after I heard this. Many of you possibly have and you are the lucky few. I love that story. I STINK, I know.So do I believe it? Mosdef.

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[Recyclerz]

It was something to the effect that in creation there were gods and humans. Humans had a male and female part/half. Fearing that the human would be more powerul than the gods, the higher beings themselves decided to break up the male and female parts. Now for those hopeless romantics of us out there, the meaning of this story is that there is only one perfect person for us and it is our life's purpose to find that other part of us to make us complete. <P>
That's the story Aristophanes gives in Plato's The Symposium . I used it in my best man speech at my cousin's wedding. Eight years later, they're still happily married so it must have worked! ;-) <P>
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[SuperClerk]

I met my one true love 5 years ago. I married her.

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[TomPoo]

I hope not.

cause if its true, then I think I met her and lost her already.




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[my_mr_happy]

I am of the beleif that there are several people who could be a true love. But that both people need to work together to create a union. I Don't think it just happens without any work. Though some people have that.

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[RF Godfather]

That's the story Aristophanes gives in Plato's The Symposium . I used it in my best man speech at my cousin's wedding. Eight years later, they're still happily married so it must have worked
Thank you Recyclerz. Finally someone knows what the hell I was talkin' about!

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[Arienette]

i'm not entirely sure what i think... i think that it's possible to have more than one. i think that there are people who, at different times in your life, mught be perfect for you. i think that the trick is finding the right person for you at the right time, when you are both ready for it to happen. it's pretty rare that that happens. whether you think someone you love is "the only one" is a pretty useless inquiry, in my estimation... anyone who finds that connection with someone should consider themselves very lucky

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[Aggie]

I hope not.
cause if its true, then I think I met her and lost her already.
but you haven't met ME yet tom!


I kinda believe in it from what I have been through so far. I believe you can truly love more than one person, but I also think there is one person that is your 'soulmate' or someone who you feel a powerful unspoken connection with....but that doesn't mean you will end up with them or even find them.

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[Smiledog11]

One true love and no other? I don't buy it. The main reason I say this is because I have first hand experience that tells me otherwise. I went out with a girl for almost 4 years and it was amazing. We were absolutely great together, never a major fight. But I was a year older, left for college and she went to a different school a year later.
We tried the long distance thing but as most find out long relationships don't work (a whole other thread). We still loved each other, but we broke it off, keeping in touch and just remaining friends. For the next 10 years I dated and looked for someone but was unable to replace the girl I thought was my true love. I really thought I had missed the opportunity and let the one slip away.
But about a year and a half ago, I met a very special girl. She was the first girl I'd met since the big breakup (a decade!) that truly made me feel like I could be in love like I had been. Long story short (i know, too late), we've been together a year now, living together for 6 months and I'm quite possibly the happiest man on the planet (why yes, those are wedding bells you hear faintly in the distance).

So you see, it wasn't a bad breakup or anything. Things just didn't work out the first time. Timing is a HUGE factor in the success of a relationship.

Another important thought to remember is this: love is a verb. It is an act. It's not some ideal or mystical thing that just happens. Noone is perfect, even the ones you think might be perfect. You will always need to deal with problems, however major or minor they may be. By giving yourself and loving someone, you can fix just about anything. I think sometimes people have unrealistic expectations about what a relationship should be. Sometimes they take work. But with love, they often times work out.

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[Thebazile78]

It was something to the effect that in creation there were gods and humans. Humans had a male and female part/half. Fearing that the human would be more powerul than the gods, the higher beings themselves decided to break up the male and female parts. Now for those hopeless romantics of us out there, the meaning of this story is that there is only one perfect person for us and it is our life's purpose to find that other part of us to make us complete.

Plato aside, there's a great song in Hedwig and the Angry Inch that re-tells this story, it's called The Origin of Love.

<sigh> Hedwig has some other "true love" type themes in it, too.

You should see it. . .



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[Bob Impact]

Timing is a HUGE factor in the success of a relationship.

I have to conditionally disagree, my fiance and I met at a very bad time as we were both in relationships. However as it became apparent who we wanted we ended those old relationships and started our new relationship. I've have not thought about another woman since.

One True Love? Sure.

I was positive at one time years ago that I had found my true love but it didn't work out because it wasn't really love, we were too young to know what love was. When I met my fiance, i realized what love really is, therefore negating the previous One True Love and me finding my Real One True Love.

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[LilLibra]

For most men, however (all kidding aside), they could live forever with just a kind of woman and not one woman in particular. And that kind of woman is the one that loves to have sex, doesn't cut him off from ever socializing from his friends without worrying about hell to pay, and doesn't drive him nuts in between everything else.

Find a woman or women that can stay that way for more than the introducion period of the relationship, and even I'd like to meet her. That takes a helluva lot of patience and men do know how to try a woman's patience.

As for the "one true love" theory, its nice to believe in. My question is, if there is such a thing (and at one point I did believe in it wholeheartedly) then what happens during the span of time? People always change and evolve as they get older, even if its slight. Does the true love change with you or do they only last until you hit a new stage of development? True love can be true but is it forever? Forgive me for getting all psychoanalytical... I'm in college and they feed this kinda shit to me all fucking day.


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[LilLibra]

Oh and to answer the question, I will believe in it when it hits me.

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[HordeKing1]

We're capable of loving and being happy with a great number of people. However, our relationship with each person is unique. Finding the person that best suits you maximizes your chances at a successful long term loving relationship.

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[Death Metal Moe]

Who WOULDN'T LOVE to think that there's one special guy or gal out there for each of us? It's a GREAT thing to think.

But in reality, it's just not a reality. Some of us are lucky enough to find a person who matches their wants and needs closly, and understands them.

The rest of them settle with someone who just doesn't piss them off everyday.

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[grlNIN]

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[Cybersoldier]

I think its possible, but hard to find a people to have an attraction fore in that manner

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[Deathstroke]

met mine, hes gone now, nothing but dust in the wind my friend


like Yoda says...there is another....hmmm

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[zathrus]

I believe in that "one true love". I was lucky enough to find him. He makes everything so special. I often try to find the words to tell him, how special he is.but when it comes to him, words never seem to say what i feel.


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[Gaia]

Yes....now with that I'll leave...

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[Gvac]

I think there's one special person that you will never forget no matter what. If you're lucky enough to wind up with them, then I guess they're your one and only true love.

If things don't work out, however, you can and will love again no matter how long you believe otherwise. You'll still never forget the other great love you had, but it can be just as real the second time around.

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[Bandalero]

Dating is so hard as it is. Meeting the right person at the right time in the right situation with the right blood alcohol content is tough enough without worrying that you may never find another.

[Earth2RON]

I believe in both true love and love at first sight, i just havent found either one as of yet:(

I know that my one true love is out there, i just have to keep my arms open to catch her when she falls from heaven.

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[erole]

do i have to explain everything to you guys?
first off, true love is not finding someone overnight. it is not groping someone you just met within a 24 hour period. it is not some wishy washy feeling for someone because you just yearn to be with a someone and not a somebody. true love is not sex, no matter how good it is.
BUT.
True love does exist, it just takes some finding and nurturing.
It's when one person finds someone compatible, trusts them blindly, is faithful, commited eternally, and loves that person with a love that angels weep over, and makes eyes turn to starlight.
True love is only truly true when those same feelings are shown back in honesty and commitment.
Very simply, very plain, true love is when you love in truth, and it is given back.
Loving in truth means you are free from fears and concerns of mistrust, and dishonesty. Loving in truth shows sacrifice for the honor and purity of the commitment. Loving in truth means to do everything with the other in mind.
True love is love unabated, and full of expression and purpose. True love embraces the idea that no one is perfect. True love understands that love will sometimes flee, and feelings may change over time - BUT because that love is TRUE it will find it's way home. No one is perfect, but if two people's love is true, there, you will find perfection.
True love is the truth. Not an easy thing to find. The truth is hard to bear, and honesty scares us at times. Because of this, true love happens usually only once. It is not overnight, it is not eye to eye (although it can start that way), it may be written in the stars, but it takes some time to find, develop, evolve, and grow.
To meet someone you would die for, to meet someone and want to know everything about them, to meet someone who sends your mind into a tornado of enchantment and delight, yet grounds you into a mode of responsibility and commitment...ahh yes, truely hard to find. as true as the love itself.


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[NewYorkDragons80]

I tend to think so. Right now, I'm starting to get involved with the girl I got my first kiss from in kindergarten.

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[erole]

from kindergarten?
either you're too young to be on here, or that's pretty damn adorable.

[NewYorkDragons80]

I am a senior in high school, so I guess the former is true.

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[LatinSpiceXoX]

It's been a while since I give my heart to someone... In my case, I just don't believe anyone when they say 'I LOVE YOU' after a week! *lol*..
No really.. I struggle with this each day.
I meet guys that I am so fucken attracted to and I wanna fuck soooooo good, so I try to get to know them, see what things in common we have, basically it's nothing, they end up being taken or married or virgins *lol* (j/k)... So I move on. (I'm a nice girl)
Then I meet the type that I know we'd be good together.. we bond, and have tons of fun, just hanging, going out, talking, anything goes... but all he wants is to fuck. He's not in the mind-state that I'm in. He's either not reached the level that I have, or doesn't seem to realize it til it's too late.
Call me a bitch, but I don't go backwards.

Anyway, I believe we can love more than one person.
I believe we are capable of finding more than one person who we are extremely attracted to, both mentally, physically, and spiritually. It just takes our own self to be open to it... to not shy away from what might end up as 'TRUE LOVE.'

It's out there, whether we're looking for it or not. We just have to be willing to accept and nurture it when it finally shows it's face. :)

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