Are we a couple or not?

[bigmillboski]

I met this girl at work. We flirt and do all sorts of things at work. About two weeks ago on Saturday, I paid her a surprise visit at work. She ran towards me, gave me a hug and we kissed. I asked her out on a date for the following Monday and she went along with it. I waited three hours for her to get off of work around midnight. At the point, we embraced again and shared in a good-night kiss.

Monday came.

I was dressed to kill, black dress shoes, black dress pants, a black long-sleeve shirt and a silver/metallic vest. Before I picked her up, I bought her a stuffed dog (since we did share in a few inside jokes about dogs) and a dozen or so mini carnations (I would've bought some roses, but they looked dead).

We chilled for a bit and I took her out to dinner. We were really engaged in a nice conversation and I found out that we have a lot in common. After dinner we went to a movie and then I drove her home. Before I she got out of my truck, I put my arm around her and went in for the good-night kiss. Instead, she politely thanked me for a great evening and got out. She left me hanging.

Paranoid. For the next week I was beginning to have thoughts that she played me and that she didn't like me. Naturally, since I'm in love with her, I began to become extremely angry and suicidal. When she came into work this past Thursday, I somewhat ignored her and went home. She called me and I said something came up and hung up the phone.

After I cooled off a bit, I decided to visit her again at work this past Saturday. I sat her down and held a serious conversation with her. Basically I told her that I was a jerk for how I was around her on Thursday, and I explained that I liked her a lot, respected her and cared very deeply for her.

Everything was nicey-nice. I thought for sure that we were boyfriend and girlfriend. Then when another co-worker found out that we had a date, she asked my "girlfriend" if we were dating and she replied, "No." Now I'm back in the suicidal/overly upset stage again.

I am calling her when she gets home from work today. I just want to know, are we just friends or are we a couple? Maybe someone can make sense of the situation for me. Obviously I can't since my principal thoughts at the moment are death and my love for her.

Oh yeah, I never told her that I was in love with her, just that I really liked her a lot and wanted to spend more time with her.

[ADF]

Naturally, since I'm in love with her, I began to become extremely angry and suicidal.


Now I'm back in the suicidal/overly upset stage again.


See, that's your problem. You sound just a tad bit clingy and overattached. You have to play it cool and casual, my friend. Cool and casual.

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You went from going on one date with her, to being madly in love and SUICIDAL because of it, thats a little weird man.

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[bigmillboski]

It's weird, but then again, so am I. I've had a thing for her for the longest time and it was up until a few months ago that I made a move. I just thought that we were a couple since she hugging & kissing me on Saturday, which prompted me to expect at least that on our date. And since I didn't get a kiss nor a hug on our date, I was upset, naturally. I'm not dating her just so I can get laid, it's because I really care about her and want to spend time outside of work with her. But I am going to take a good friend's advice and just try to work up from being just friends to a couple.

Do you think I might have set too serious of a tone on the first date? Every other time when we at work, I was this fun-loving guy who was loved to crack jokes and make fun of customers (a.k.a I was an asshole), but on the date, I was extremely nice and gentleman-like, a side no one, not even she has seen before. Could that have had something to do with it?

This message was edited by bigmillboski on 11-10-02 @ 1:56 PM

[Coco]

<i>After dinner we went to a movie and then I drove her home. Before I she got out
of my truck, I put my arm around her and went in for the good-night kiss.
Instead, she politely thanked me for a great evening and got out. She left
me hanging.</i>

Frankly, I don't think she did anything wrong here. You said you had great conversations and that you had a lot in common and you enjoyed your evening. Why would you base everything on getting a good night kiss. I could see a lot of women not wanting to do this on the initial dates, thinking that she doesn't want it to lead into anything serious at that point.

<i>Naturally, since I'm in love with her,
I began to become extremely angry and suicidal.</i>

How can you say you love her when you have only dated her twice? Becoming extremely angry and suicidal over something like this is not really the norm. Maybe, you might want to talk to a counselor about it. I am not saying this to be mean, but, I think the average young guy goes through dating a lot of women before he finds the right one, and I would hate to see you go through these feeling consistently.

<i>Everything was nicey-nice. I thought for sure that we were boyfriend and
girlfriend. Then when another co-worker found out that we had a date, she
asked my "girlfriend" if we were dating and she replied, "No." </i>

Why would you consider yourself boyfriend and girlfriend after 1 or 2 dates?

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This message was edited by Coco on 11-10-02 @ 2:53 PM

[shorty]

I was dressed to kill, black dress shoes, black dress pants, a black long-sleeve shirt and a silver/metallic vest


Silver metallic vest??? I think we just found the root of your problems.

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This message was edited by shorty on 11-10-02 @ 3:07 PM

[Katylina]

suicidal/overly upset stage again

This is starting to smell like Stalker Patty. I think you have to get a grip on your own issues before you start seeking out a girlfriend. This chick probably just wants to "date" you. I mean, you have to get to know a person before you make any sort of commitment.
Silver metallic vest??? I think we just found the root of your problems.
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This message was edited by Katylina on 11-10-02 @ 3:25 PM

[bigmillboski]

Silver metallic vest??? I think we just found the root of your problems.


Don't knock the vest, it's a good vest.

[Jennitalia]

i agree, you do sound a little too clingy...probably scared her off
and suicidal over a girl??? maybe you should seek help. NOBODY is worth killing yourself over

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[moochcassidy]

eh ....no

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[kevcala]

<font face="Verdana" style="font-size: 9px;">quote:</font>eh ....no&nbsp;<font color="black" /><br /><font size="2" face="arial,helvetica,sans-serif">Wow, I hope </font><font size="2" face="arial,helvetica,sans-serif" color="black">bigmillboski hasn't been hanging around this whole time waiting for an answer.<br />
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[Bulldogcakes]

<p>&nbsp;</p><font face="Verdana" style="font-size: 9px;">quote:</font>&nbsp;I was dressed to kill, black dress shoes, black dress pants, a black
long-sleeve shirt and a silver/metallic vest. Before I picked her up, I
bought her a stuffed dog (since we did share in a few inside jokes
about dogs) and a dozen or so mini carnations (I would've bought some
roses, but they looked dead). [/quote]<p>&nbsp;</p><p>Mistake #1 All dressed up, Flowers AND a stuffed animal?&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Woah, Nelly!! WOAH!!! &nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p>We chilled for a bit and I took her out
to dinner. <p>&nbsp;</p><p>Minor
mistake #2-At this point, dinner's not really necessary. Starbucks and
a walk in the park in the park would do. Again, trying too hard. &nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p>I put my arm
around her and went in for the good-night kiss. Instead, she politely
thanked me for a great evening and got out. She left me hanging.
<p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;Big surprise. <br />
</p><p>&nbsp;</p>Paranoid. For the next week I was beginning to have thoughts that she
played me and that she didn't like me. Naturally, since I'm in love
with her, I began to become extremely angry and suicidal.<p>&nbsp;</p><p>You're in love with her? AFTER ONE DATE? You have no idea what love's all about. </p><p>Paranoid/Angry/Suicidal. Now thats attractive. Sound like you really have your shit together. Women love that. &nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p>[quote]When she came
into work this past Thursday, I somewhat ignored her and went home. She
called me and I said something came up and hung up the phone.
After I cooled off a bit, I decided to visit her again at work this
past Saturday. I sat her down and held a serious conversation with her.
Basically I told her that I was a jerk for how I was around her on
Thursday, and I explained that I liked her a lot, respected her and
cared very deeply for her.
Everything was nicey-nice. I thought for sure that we were boyfriend
and girlfriend. Then when another co-worker found out that we had a
date, she asked my &quot;girlfriend&quot; if we were dating and she replied,
&quot;No.&quot; Now I'm back in the suicidal/overly upset stage again.
I am calling her when she gets home from work today. I just want to
know, are we just friends or are we a couple? Maybe someone can make
sense of the situation for me. Obviously I can't since my principal
thoughts at the moment are death and my love for her.
Oh yeah, I never told her that I was in love with her, just that I
really liked her a lot and wanted to spend more time with her.<br />You
sound desperate. Women can smell desperate a mile away. The best thing
you can do is forget about this girl, you want her WAY too much and are
only going to make a complete ass of yourself. Even more than you
already have. And cut the suicidal bullshit, nobody feels sorry for
you. You just need to slow down and grow up a little. Stop
overreacting. <br />
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[whorehay]

so, what ever happened to bigmillboski?&nbsp; he better not have joined that dumb club.&nbsp;

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[Katylina]

<p><font size="1">so, what ever happened to bigmillboski?</font></p><p><font size="1" /></p><p><font size="1">He probably has killed her by now-- or at the least has her tied in his basement to use as a sex slave when he feels the need.</font></p>

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<font style="font-size: 9px" face="Verdana">quote: </font><p>&nbsp;</p><font style="font-size: 9px" face="Verdana">quote: </font><font size="1">so, what ever happened to bigmillboski? </font><p>&nbsp;</p><font size="1" /><font size="1"><p><font size="1">He probably has killed her by now-- or at the least has her tied in his basement to use as a sex slave when he feels the need.</font></p><img src="http://scripts.cgispy.com/image.cgi?u=katylina" border="0" /> <a href="http://www.pagerealm.com/katylina/index.html" target="_new">Katylina's Web Page</a> <br /><br />buy me diamonds and rubies, i'm crazy bout bentleys, gucci dresses and drop top compresses, wine me and dine me, bring those platinum rings, those are a few of our favorite thingsI was gonna guess Jodie Foster shot him and adopted his poodle, but you're probably right.<br /></font>I was gonna guess Jodie Foster shot him and adopted his poodle, but you're probably right.

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<p>He probably has killed her by now-- or at the least has her tied in his basement to use as a sex slave when he feels the need.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>I burst out into laughter. It could be because it was funny, or I lost my mind. Who knows. </p>

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<p>&nbsp;</p><font face="Verdana" style="font-size: 9px;">quote:</font><p>BDC, you are aware that you are responding to a thread that was started 2 &amp; 1/2 years ago, right? </p><p>If I had to predict the present for these two, I'd guess that the restraining order is <em>just about</em> to expire.</p>

<br />Thank you Mikey. I really should look at the post dates once in a while. <p>&nbsp;</p><p>And who the hell is digging up these old threads? And why? &nbsp;</p>

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<font style="font-size: 9px" face="Verdana">quote:</font><font style="font-size: 9px" face="Verdana"> <p>Can you say murder, suicide? </p></font>Can you say murder, suicide? Try and stop me!<br />

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