Am I over reacting..return of a ex

[sexy bastard]

ok well while some of you know I was dumped about a month before my grandma passed away and it sucked, I needed a friend more then anything at that time I needed my ex...she was a friend so I thought, I thought the humane thing was basically just being there for someone who needed support, well she never was there after she dumped me because of her insecurities she disapeared on me, then when my grandma passed away i was so alone and hurt, and she wasnt there I tried to call her to say i just need someone to talk to and she was not there, now literally two minutes ago she ims me on AIM, and is pretending like nothing happened, I am hitting the roof and crying cause it hurts that soemone i cared for just left me like that in one of the worse times that i went thru, am I overeacting or is it that the wound still is fresh? or is it both?

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[Jennitalia]

Leo, i dont think you're overreacting because you've been through so much, and you're emotionally drained, and i think it's natural for you to want to contact your ex for emotional support, since.

but in all honestly, if she really did care, she wouldve been there for you when you first contacted her. if she's getting in touch with you now, i'd be careful, she's probably playing with your emotions and looking for attention.
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[sexy bastard]

i agree to move on...that is true

but why in the hell is she coming back now, why was she not doing the human thing and being there for me when i needed her and now pops back up like nothing happened, i was all fine and dandy today then poof she pops up and i am a wreck now

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[Jennitalia]

most likely because she just wants your attention. i could be wrong, but we girls can be very selfish and cunty. just be careful

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[sexy bastard]

jenn i really dont know what to do it hurts its like all these emotions that were i guess just healing inside just came out and boom I am crying cause i got my heart broken, I am cryin g cause i was alone in this time, and I am crying cause of what i went thru..you know..

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[Jennitalia]

I hear you, sweet thang. i obviously dont know the situation with you and your ex, but i'm thinking, if somebody really and truly cares about you, they'd be there for you when you need it, not when it's convenient for them.

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[sexy bastard]

i agree I mean yes itdid not work out between us and i understand that but the humane thing would be there for someone who needed a hug or shoulder to cry on, or just to talk to someone when so much pain was appening at the time you know?

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[Jennitalia]

exactly. but some people, unfortunately, just dont know how to do the right thing, or just dont want to.
people can suck, sometimes.


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[HordeKing1]

Leo, as you noted, you've been through a lot. You're reacting now, not only to the im from your gf, but to the totality of all you've experienced.

Your ex did not provide you with emotional support at a time you needed it.

It's pretty awful for you that she's ignoring the last month or two b/c so much has happened in that time. By ignoring it (pretending nothing has happened) she's demonstrating a disregard for your feelings.

I'd steer clear of her, at least until she proves her committment to understanding your situation.

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[Coco]

SB: She didn't leave you purposely just before your grandmother died. It just happened that way.

I don't know the specifics of the breakup or why she was mad at you, i.e, if you cheated on her, etc. It would help to understand.

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[sexy bastard]

its ok coco the problem was this, she was saying she was looking to for a guy like me for her son and her and since and she said she thought she found him in me...which is a good sign, but she also near the end was saying i never had a teenage life she was teen mother..so the minute she got what she wanted someone good for her and her son and she been lookignfor a guy to settle with,she got scared of a commitment and on what she missed out on and ran away...she left about a month before my grandmother died...and she new my grandmother was very ill ,very very ill, and when in the last two weeks of my grandmothers life I aclledher and just was like hey i need to talk please, and i told her what was happening and she didnt care, and now she wont even answer my question she is iming with hey how you doing this that and the other thing, but when i say can you tell me what happened she signs off, she wonteven answerthe question. itslike either answer it or get the hell out of my life...you know?

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[Dewey]

She's not worth the time of day. She showed a cruel disregard of you in your time of need, and probably got dumped herself by the guy she left you for. I don't buy the "scared of commitment" thing. Women aren't scared of commitment, they want it. Now its the holidays and she's lonely and looking to use you for emotional and perhaps financial (presents) reasons as well. Frankly, I think she's being cruel again.

If she had the slightest bit of sincerity, she would've begun with a sincere apology, not IMing you like nothing happened.

You sound like you haven't yet gotten over your heartbreak, so I'm sure the temptation to get back together is there, but don't get sucked in. You'll only get hurt again.

Remember the saying "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."

Take care and good luck.

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[fatylvr20]

I agree with jen's first post. I unfortunately did exactly what she stated to my ex...and i donot feel good about it at all. i did left when i was needed most so i understand a wee bit. sometimes that shit don't hit you till after you do it. but do steer clear of this young lady for now. take the time for yourself.

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[TheMojoPin]

People seem to have the right idea, though some are really harsh. No matter what you think you feel for this woman, it's not worth repeating the heartbreak and emotional turmoil you suffered through before. If she was willing to abandon you at your lowest before, it could happen again, and it's only in your best ineterest to avoid getting trapped in a situation like that.

Hope things work out for the best, you sexy thang. They usually do.

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[BrianTheBailBondsman]

Dude as cold and crude as I can be at times ( well.... Most of the time) I even know that a friend is there more when you need them not like what happened to you. I'm sorry it happened but move on. If your hurt buy this it means you have a good heart and are a pine person. ( hey if I turn gay i'll call you)

It remind's me of a time back in Frankiln Park, NJ where BoBo this chick I was going with and I broke up about a year later we hooked up again and about 2 weeks later I was man now I remember why we broke up the first time. If it don't work It ain't gonna work again . It's rare that it would. ( right here I would like to insert " just ask billy about rehab" but he is a cool MOFO I dig that guy But on the air I'll bust him a little , Love ya Billy!)



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[Coco]

SB: Now since you have given me more info..dump her. If you had told me you cheated on her, I would have said that you were fortunate she contacted you at all.

Most people usually only say they are "scared of commitment" because they don't want to be committed to that particular person.

Move on, cut your losses with this girl.

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This message was edited by Coco on 12-21-02 @ 2:34 PM

[fiestygal]

is this the PSYCO ex....if it is........ RUN BITCH RUN!!!!

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