Behavioral Issues?.....

[grlNIN]

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i just got into a fight with my bf today, he didnt even give me a chance to talk to him to correct the situation, he cut me off. As soons as all was said and done i felt like lashing out in a severe way. I dont know if i would have turned the aggression inward b/c i definetly wanted to unleash it outward. Is there something wrong with my behavior?


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[Jennitalia]

what was the fight about...is he slacking on the fingerbanging?

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[Orallo]

I think you did the right thing, keep the agression inward, and then go to the kitchen and make him a sandwich, and then service him while he eats the sandwich.

Just kidding of course!! I think you should never allow anyone (boyfriend / girlfriend / spouse / coworker...) shut you up in the middle of an argument. I think arguments should be discussed until some sort of agreement is reached.

My 2 cents, Peace & Hugs,


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[grlNIN]

Basically he came down for all of last week b/c i havent seen him in like a month bc he went on a vacation. So i was going to go up there this weekend and when he wpouldnt answer me as to if he wanted me to go up there i took it as a no, he then got pissed b/c i didnt answer him back bc i was talking to someone while talking to him and signed offline. I was in a fucking rage



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[Dewey]

First, did he invite you to go on vacation with him? If not, that's red flag number one.

Second, if he didn't answer when you asked if he wanted you to visit for the weekend, the answer is "no".

Sounds like he doesn't value you as a girlfriend, and regards you more as a booty call. If you're OK with that role, fine, but don't expect anything more.

Don't internalize shit. I don't understand why women do this when the guy is being as asshole.

I suggest you move on. Find someone who'll value you.

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[HordeKing1]

grlNiN - It seems like the fight was going to happen sooner or later, as it seems that there are some fundamental issues in the relationship that have to be addressed.

Cutting you off - He may have been eager to convey his point. He may have wanted to get in the last word. But doing this can make you feel like he dismisses what you have to say as unimportant. It may be interpreted as signifying that he doesn't care to hear what you have to say, or that he's not interested in a resolution.

But let's go back further. You guys weren't communicating about something for a while already. You haven't seen him for a month.
(Did you guys talk? Did you talk as often as you would have liked? If not did you tell him?)

It seems that you asked him directly if he wanted you to go and visit him and hang out together. He didn't respond. You probably were particularly hurt by the lack of response, b/c it signified something to you - perhaps that you were more into seeing him than he was into seeing you. His unresponsiveness made you feel hurt and rejected.

You were a bit vague about what happened next. From what I understand, you were talking to him online, and talking to someone else as well. He wrote something and you didn't respond (in retaliation to his lack of response? Or b/c of distraction by the other conversation) He signed off, pissed. You're pissed as well.

You felt like you had to "lash out"
because you were short-circuited in the argument. You weren't allowed to express what bothered you. Perhaps you didn't even consciously think of why you were hurt, you just knew you were.

There is nothing wrong with your behavior. But you definitely need to work on this relationship. Talk to him. He must talk to you as well if this relationship is to work.



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[Deathstroke]

sounds like he's Prince charming to me=)

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[grlNIN]

sounds like he's Prince charming to me



More of a man then youll ever be :).....


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