When is a child too young to be at a wedding reception? [Archive]

zathrus

01-20-2003, 05:17 PM

I'm getting married soon. right now my family is pissed at me because i don't want my brother's girlfriend's 3 year old son at the wedding reception. does anyone else think a child that young should not be there?

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McNabbShouldDie

01-20-2003, 05:24 PM

I remember when I was 4 I went to my dad's cousins wedding, I dont think anyone had a problem with a 4 year old being there. And at the reception I put a bunch of ham on my plate and didnt eat any of it.

So other then being a waste of food, I dont see a problem with a child going to a wedding reception.

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blakjeezis

01-20-2003, 05:29 PM

When my brother got married, he and his wife said that they wanted no children at the wedding. Not out of malice, but just because they wanted everyone to relax. (read: get bombed) It ruffled a few feathers at first, but let me tell you, the reception was an absolute fucking blast. Stick to your guns.

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Alice S. Fuzzybutt

01-20-2003, 05:30 PM

It depends-- is it an afternoon or an evening reception?

Evening-- definitely not! Afternoon is iffy. But it's YOUR day! It should be your wishes!

I didn't want kids at my reception but I got vetoed.

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Thebazile78

01-20-2003, 05:30 PM

It depends.

I was the flower girl for both my aunts' weddings, and I was about 4 at both. The weddings/receptions were not the problem, however, at the REHEARSAL I distinctly remember insulting the officiating priest and, quite possibly, the groom's parents.

Fortunately, I was only 4.

If the reception will not run past, say, 7pm, it's not unreasonable to allow a child as young as 3 to attend. HOWEVER, if it's a late-day wedding and you're going to be running LATE, as in 8pm and later, it's not unheard of to ask that small children be left at home.

My brothers, sister and I were left at home with a sitter when my parents attended her cousin's wedding because they kindly requested that children not attend. I was 12, my brothers were 6 and 8 and my sister was 4.

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irishkb

01-20-2003, 05:32 PM

i say under ten too young. it is just too annoying to the kid to get dressed up for the church and the reception.. then the parents are chasing the kids around the whole reception the entire time... how much fun is that..

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Bama

01-20-2003, 05:38 PM

I had that exact same problem last month and stuck to my guns. The now sister-in-law wanted to bring the kid and I told her no all the way up to the day and 1 hour before the wedding. The kid was there anyway. It wasn't as big a deal as I thought it would be.

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zathrus

01-20-2003, 05:50 PM

i'm having an afternoon ceremony and the reception doesn't start till 6pm and will run late into the night. i realize that i forgot to mention that i've never met the girlfriend or her kid.

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East Side Dave

01-20-2003, 05:52 PM

A child is too young when he starts eating the rice that he's supposed to be throwing at the end and then starts choking, Jimmy, you little bastard!

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Gaia

01-20-2003, 08:39 PM

15 should be the time where you let them attend..I guess I'm a bitch.
In my eyes anything younger than that makes me think they might not appreciate the occasion. I mean who want's a shitload of kids running aroung the reception, and eating the high priced grub??

I know I don't.

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ChrisTheCop

01-20-2003, 08:45 PM

as long as he puts more than $35 in the card, I say, let him come.

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Doogie

01-20-2003, 08:47 PM

The good thing about having children that young at a wedding reception is it gives you hands on knowledge on how NOT to raise your kids...

You usually see one of these lil buggers misbehaving and just causing general malaise. And their yuppie scum parents (usually my cousins) doing nothing to reprimand them...

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DarkHippie

01-21-2003, 04:53 AM

for a night party, 3 is way too young, especially for a non-family member and someone you've never met. Ditch the booger machine

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furie

01-21-2003, 08:52 AM

we will have a flower girl, but she's 8. she'll be the youngest there. and 8's the cut off.

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Abrasive Dean

01-21-2003, 08:59 AM

I'm getting married soon. right now my family is pissed at me because i don't want my brother's girlfriend's 3 year old son at the wedding reception.

Is it that you just don't like that child or you feel that they are too young.

Sometimes, often the Bride, people focus too much attention on the wedding day rather than the marriage that comes after it.

Sadly Wedding days are often "hi-jacked" by the couples family wishes and compromises have to be made.

At the end of the day the partnership that follows the wedding day is usually much more fun.

Hope that you enjoy the day nonetheless.

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Coco

01-21-2003, 11:25 AM

When is a child too young to be at a wedding reception?

I guess when they run head first into the wedding cake.

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HordeKing1

01-21-2003, 05:00 PM

Zathrus - I don't think it's either appropriate or inappropriate. It's a matter of personal taste. Some people like it, some hate it and some don't care.

Although it's nice to accomodate your family, this is YOUR wedding, and YOUR special day. Your wishes come first. If your vision of your wedding doesn't include a little kid, whose mother may or may not stop dating your brother at any time, you're completely within your rights to insist the child not come.

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zathrus

01-21-2003, 06:10 PM

the flower girl at our wedding is 11 (furie forgot how old she is) and very well behaved. well, i just informed my parents that under no condition will i allow a child (age 3) at the reception. my father seemed to understand, but we'll have to wait and see how thing turn out.

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irishkb

01-21-2003, 06:18 PM

i realize that i forgot to mention that i've
never met the girlfriend or her kid.

fuck it then you are golden.. you owe her and her kid nothing.. you have never met her, so case closed...

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fiestygal

01-21-2003, 06:26 PM

infants to age 4 are I THINK too young to be at a reception..i have recently been in 2 weddings and from my observations i have come to that conclusion

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angrymissy

01-22-2003, 07:12 AM

Kids at weddings are annoying. I don't think its unreasonable to ask a 3 year old not to attend, especially if she's not family.

Congrats! I had no idea you two were engaged! :)

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BrianTheBailBondsman

01-22-2003, 07:14 AM

as long as he puts more than $35 in the card, I say, let him come.

Beat me to it. I second.

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HordeKing1

01-22-2003, 02:03 PM

Zathrus - Good for you!

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sweet pea

01-23-2003, 01:42 PM

First off... Congratulations! I feel the exact opposite from you. I have 4 nephews and my fiance has one. I've asked all of them to be in my wedding. Then his sister said she wasn't bringing her son to the reception. (He'll be 2) and that made me sad. To me little kids make things more fun! But that is my feelings... my day, my choice. YOUR DAY YOUR CHOICE!

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Zoefus

01-29-2003, 12:34 PM

I just got married in October & I said no one under 16. Ruffled a few feathers but tough shit it was my day and I was paying for it. I've seen too many kids ruin ceremonies & pictures. It's not cute when they run screaming down the aisle "Mooooommmmy!!?"

Congrats, enjoy your day and don't let ANYONE tell you how to do it.