Better to walk away?.....

[grlNIN]

Since i broke up with my bf there has been nothing but major bullshit in that whole arena.My best friend in the world became friends with him and tells him shit that i say then he comes back to me and yells at me when my friend was just relaying what i had said out of context.At the moment i decided not to talk to any of them(there are 4 people involved inthis) It always usually end up me being the bad guy and i really dont have time for this shit, i mean this is 4th grader stuff, i tried to correct the situation numberous times but it always seems to go back to a general state of chaos. Is it ok to walk away from a situation such as this while i still have some dignity or am i just giving up too easily??

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tried to correct the situation numberous times but it always seems to go back to a general state of chaos. Is it ok to walk away from a situation such as this while i still have some dignity or am i just giving up too easily??

it's okay to walk away from a situation like this, but i'd run. i always hated when people take what I told them and tell other people out of context. even if it is in context you told them, not the other person.

you seem to have your shit together and you don't need to put up with this. if you've tried to fix in the past and it hasn't worked, what makes trying again any different. just move on.

but that's only my opinion.

[Spank Daddy]

My best friend in the world became friends with him and tells him shit that i say then he comes back to me and yells at me when my friend was just relaying what i had said out of context.

Sounds to me that your "friend" wants something that you just had.........If you really want to be with this person, then ask for one last talk together, and lay it on the line as far as your feelings go. If it don't work out then walk away, no matter how much it may hurt. Just some friendly advice......hope everything works out for you, as I fully understand all that "kiddie" crap as far as relationships go.

[ozzie]

When I split with my ex, I had the same problem with "common friends" of ours. I got tired of them acting and "go betweens", and feeling like they had to tell me everything they knew about her, and vice versa. First I tried to set some boundries, mainly that I didn't want to talk about her, but they were still relaying every detail of my life to her.

I finally got so frustrated that I asked them to choose between my ex and myself because it just wasn't working out having "common friends". Needless to say that most of them took it the wrong way and ended up siding with her, but it was just as well. It compounded the hurt of not only losing her, but now many good friends too, but after a while I realized that keeping in touch with them was keeping me from moving on.

I miss them, and sometimes I wonder if I did the right thing, but when I remember just how bad it had gotten, I know I'm better off now.

I'm not suggesting this for anyone else, because each situation is unique, but for me, it was the only way I could "move on", and as you said, retain my "dignity".

Good luck

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[grlNIN]

but after a while I realized that keeping in touch with them was keeping me from moving on.

I miss them, and sometimes I wonder if I did the right thing, but when I remember just how bad it had gotten, I know I'm better off now.

I'm not suggesting this for anyone else, because each situation is unique, but for me, it was the only way I could "move on", and as you said, retain my "dignity".



I ended the firendship between my best friend 3 times in one day, she kept apologizing and i would say ok just dont about him to me anymore i am done with that part of my life and shed agree then shed turn around and the first word out of her mouth would be his name.

I need to get away from all of them and move on with my life bc they are completely a waste of my time and i dont need this extra stress in my life whatsoever.

I feel i still have my dignity but my feelings, they have been shot to hell

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[ChrisTheCop]

I need to get away from all of them and move on with my life bc they are completely a waste of my time and i dont need this extra stress in my life whatsoever
seems the little lady has answered her own question. Congrats! But, a word of warning--youre young..theres plenty more heartache down the road.

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[grlNIN]

seems the little lady has answered her own question. Congrats! But, a word of warning--youre young..theres plenty more heartache down the road.




So ive been told but id rather not think about this current feeling resurfacing anytime in the near future

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[DC Reed]

Is it ok to walk away from a situation such as this while i still have some dignity or am i just giving up too easily??


If he's still bitching about you, the obviously hes a pretty low piece of shit. If he can't take no for an answer, he deserves to be left in the cold. Don't let him fuck with your world cause he's mad he was a self-centered prick and wasn't good enough for you.

And dont let him make you feel like the "bad guy," thats his role right now. Let the kid have it and offer him a cup of shut the fuck up.

Your right, its fourth grader stuff, and he's a big boy, he needs to take some responsibility.

Sorry, im very tired, not feeling good and pretty pissed, so im a bit on edge.



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[HordeKing1]

GRLNIN - You're in a difficult and messy situation that's causing you all sorts of grief.

I would not be surprised if you viewed the actions of your "best friend" as a great betrayal. It certainly appears that she is not as good a friend as you had thought.

Your ex, chooses to believes her lies and yells at you about things you never said (or that were taken out of context).

Your friend does not respect you. Worse, she is determined to drive a wedge between you and your ex. Chances of a reconcilliation with him, and even just being friends are slim to none. You also want to avoid this "friend" even though she was formerly your "best friend" as the relationship is not worth saving. I'm sure you'll agree that leaving a best friend relationship is hard, but she has shown her true character. You'd be doing yourself a diservice if you stayed around any of these people.

You ask if it's "OK to walk away?" It goes way beyond that. Run for the hills and don't look back. You do not need or want such people in your life.


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[ozzie]

yeah, that, what HordeKing said, zacklee!

Good Luck,


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wow...and i thought you guys were gonna last longer than J. lo and Ben

God bless you

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[grlNIN]

wow...and i thought you guys were gonna last longer than J. lo and Ben

God bless you



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[phixion]

if youre out of high school get out of this 90210 crap!!!!!!!!!!
its bullshit
fuck everyone and get high
thats why i wake up every morning

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