Always happy but never satisfied

[Jasmines Song]

HK,

I have this problem all the time where I am happy for the moment but never satisfied. I am worried how that would effect someone in the long run. I totally understand that it's good for a moment. It's nice to describe someone as ambitious and determined. But, in the long run, I am worried that my fear of settling will cause me to run in circles.

Ugh, I know it's a tough question but it's been on my mind for days...

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This message was edited by Jasmines Song on 2-7-03 @ 10:43 PM

[Reephdweller]

I know what you're saying. I had the same problem...and still do to some extent. For me it was more of a self esteem issue. What I've done over the last few years is make challenges for myself that would cause me to have to do lots of different things that I never did before. Whether it was building something, or repairing something, eliminating debt, getting in shape...things like that. Doing these things has helped me a lot to feel more satisfied. Sometimes I'll need to be reminded, but generally I am more satified in life.

I don't know if that relates to your situation, but you may want to look into finding the root of what is causing it. It may take some soul searching, but if you do find out why, and you're able do things to help the situation, I think ultimately down the road you will feel more satified.

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[Jasmines Song]

You're right. My only problem is that I get very selfish when it comes to challenges...I don't care who I hurt along the way just to acheive my goal. Once I am focused...then everyone better watch out. So, just to "protect" everyone I kind of lay back when it comes to things that I want only because I hate burning bridges. It's not like these people bring me down...I just get tunnel-vision.

Ugh...it's frustrating...only because I have the "itch" for something new in my life.

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This message was edited by Jasmines Song on 2-8-03 @ 1:05 PM

[ladygodiva]

damn it - i ruined it

This message was edited by ladygodiva on 2-8-03 @ 2:18 PM

[ladygodiva]

sometimes that itch makes for a really shitty situation. you never know if fulfilling whatever you need at the moment is just a way of immediate gratification. it's hard to determine if you'll ever reach contentment or if its just human nature to always be in search of something better. <P>

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[Jasmines Song]

sometimes that itch makes for a really shitty situation. you never know if fulfilling whatever you need at the moment is just a way of immediate gratification. it's hard to determine if you'll ever reach contentment or if its just human nature to always be in search of something better. <P>
LG- <P>
I completely agree with you. This is where I am stuck. Part of me feels like I am settling and then part of me feels like I have the best that I can have for the moment...so that means I should be content. <P>
I just feel like there is always more out there for me... <P>

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[IRISjr]

It sounds confussing, but interesting. Im a in a few ways the same.

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[HordeKing1]

JASMINES SONG - Let me see if I can rephrase your concerns. Let me know if I understand them correctly (but I'm going to go ahead with a partial analysis now).

1. You're happy but not feeling fulfilled because you're ambitious and believe there may be something better.

2. You fear that your ambition may prevent you from being happy with what you have.

3. You also feel, perhaps a bit guilty about the juxtoposition of items 1 and 2 and have partially resolved this guilt in two ways:

A. You've developed a cushioning layer of feelings around you, saying that your ambitions are selfish and that you must hurt someone to get what you want.

B. But that's not satisfactory to you. So you've developed a further guilt - a guilt that prevents you from taking action to further your ambition and to negate the fear of hurting others by "protecting" others from your ambition.

Because of this you end up NOT doing what you feel you should to get ahead.


I'm going to jump all the way ahead now. The ideal state of being is to be happy with what you have and to appreciate it, while simultaneously striving to reach your fullest potential. There's nothing wrong with having your happiness and still looking for more. It doesn't mean you're unhappy. It doesn't mean that you're trying to hurt anyone. It just means that you recognize what you have and strive for more.



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