41 Days

[Mr. Pink 2]

Before i start, let me say that this is not a happy funny little post, so if you do not want to read what i have to say then i suggest you go to the "Men Suck!" messages or somthing like that. Before i start, let me give you a slight background on myself. Im 14 years old. my family is a working class family. I am a social misfit in my school, although as of late i have been much more social. In regard to my relationship status, i have NEVER had a girlfriend. Put it this way, in regards to the base system, right now, there are guys that have made homeruns, and i have not even drove by the field. Anyway, here gos with my rant....

In 6th grade, i was the anthesis of the prep. I never took baths, my hair was like a giant rats nest, i smelled like b.o. all the time. I never did school work, and i cussed constantly. So it was perfectly natural for people to think i was poor. And thats when i met the girl. I will not say her name, rather i will repersent her with the number 6. 6 was part of a group of prep girls who seemed to take pity on me, due to the constant ridicule from other students and the assumed lack of money. My science class used to leave the lunch room from a door that lead to the outside. I used to purposely lag behind so i would not be made fun of, but sometimes she would come over and talk with me. She would also give me part of her lunch since i also never ate at school.There was a point that i fell in love with her in 6th grade, but somthing happend. One of her friends,5 came down from a stair well and introduced me to a new way of torture that i had never experenced. She told me she loved me, than quickly ran up the stairs. Now, maybe i should have seen through this but i fell for it easily. She ended up playing me for a fool, humlitating me and making me look like a jackass. Of course, if you asked her now she would deny it all. She would also deny that she was a nerd type before she got contacts.
So i bascially still liked her for all of 7th grade, and eventily started to hate , and to this day i hate that bicth for what she did to me. So fast forward to 2 mounths from now, when my love for 6 rekindled. Nothing happed for a while, but a new bicth showed up to kill my chances.7
was another dumb prep girl who would try and ruin my chances like my other enimies. One day after p.e. i was hot and sweaty, and in the class afterword, there is a fan that has a fan proped up on a filing cabnit in the corner. 7s seat was right next to the fan. Me and two other guys stood right in frount of the fan to cool off, when she sat down and said "Stop stalking me!!!" So basically what happend was then she flipped out and therend to sue me. Now as of today, my love for 6 is stronger then ever, and i have made the ultimtae relazition. I have 41 days until 6 is gone from my life forever.41 days of school left. 41 days of them feeding crap to her about what kind of person i am, 41 days until i never get to look in
her eyes, 41 days. Now maybe i am being melodramatic, but think about it. The only girl i know who has never laughed at me. The only girl who has ever acted like she gave a damn about me. The feeling inside of me is no immature hornyness, I LOVE HER. I have little time to destroy the image they have crafted of me in her mind, a sick deperessed pervert.If i can never have her, never hold her in my arms,
never feel her soft lips on mine, then goddammit at the VERY LEAST i want her to think i was a decent person, that i cared aout this world, that i had morals, That I GAVE HALF A SHIT HOW SHE FELT!But what can i do???? I can only hope she can see through what they have made me out to be, and see what i really am.

[mikeyboy]

I hate to be so blunt, but these feelinga aren't going to
matter to you much in time. These kinds of feelings are
common at your age, and down the road, you'll realize
that you think you're in love with somebody when you
don't have a relationship with them, but really you are
idealizing that person. There are exceptions to this, I'm
told, but they are few and far between.

So this probably doesn't help right now, but your
feelings will most likely change, so try to remember
that.


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[Reephdweller]

Wow, I actually read this.

I'd say if you were both adults to try and pull her aside and tell her how you feel. Not for the idea that she'll melt in your arms, but for your own therapy. She most likely won't melt in your arms but you never know. I wouldn't write her a love note explaining it either. A lot of girls I've met like the direct guy approach. Not all, but a lot of them like it when you're right up front with them and honest about things. But this is where the difference between adults and young adults comes in. I don't know if 6 is mature enough to be someone to appreciate you expressing your feelings to her. That's why I think you should do it just for your own good. To know in your heart you told her all the things you've been thinking and feeling.

Seeing as how she tortured you though, I wouldn't expect her to be reciprocal. I could be wrong, but in my experience growing up, and in life I don't see it happening. Express yourself to her and then move on. There's plenty of other girls out there.

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[Iamnotatool]

Your 14? It only gets worse son, women got the all powerful thing we need. The coochie. Live long and suffer.

Please don't hold my huge nutbag against me, or I'll hold it against you that you have flapjack tits...

[kc7586]

i would say just talk to her and be friends with her. show her the real you like that. be yourself and if she doesn't like that then fuck her. good luck bud-day. :)

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[Mr. Pink 2]

just to clear this up, she is not like a P.O.A. she is just a decent person. Not that she is ugly or anything, its just apperence is not the main factor in why i love her.

[Mr. Pink 2]

Reefdwella, 5 was the one that fucked with me. 6 had nothing to do with it.

This message was edited by Mr. Pink 2 on 4-8-03 @ 9:36 PM

[Reephdweller]

she is just a decent person. Not that she is ugly or anything, its just apperence is not the main factor in why i love her.


pink, tell her how you feel. do it like a man, right to her face, don't do it in front of others though. if you can pull her aside for five minutes of her time and tell her your feelings for her. it'll take a lot of courage and strength but you'll feel better that you did it. my gut says that you'll be rejected, but you'll be stronger in life if you don't go in expecting to win the girl. just make it your mission to tell her how you feel.

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[Reephdweller]

Reefwella, 5 was the one that fucked with me. 6 had nothing to do with it.


sorry, i thought you were saying that 5 introduced 6 to a new way to torture you.

my bad.

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[Def Dave in SC]

Tell her how you feel. Dont tell how deeply you feel for her though, that could freak her out. Teel her that you've had feelings for her for a long time, and they keep getting stronger. Ask her if she has any feelings for you.

If she says no, it will suck, and you'll feel like sheeeit. Dont let it get to you. There are so many more girls in the world. Especially in High School


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[mikeyboy]

There are so many more girls in the world.


But not all of them bring you lasagna.


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[TheGameHHH]

But not all of them bring you lasagna.
Most of 'em just cheat on ya.


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[SoLost22]

alright Mr Pink, now I actually read your entire post; here's the deal in my opinion. I'm only 21 but that is still 7 years older than you so I have a bit more life experience. 41 days is nothing, your only 14 and it's most likely not worth it give up your heart for only 41 days. Basically fuck it man, there will be many, many more girls. I understand your puppy love, but you will love again, just don't stress it and try to move on.

"God looks after drunks, fools, and the United States."

[Uncle Smokey]

From what Im able to gather from your post, 6 has never been anything but decent with you, so while she may not fall into your arms upon hearing you express your feelings, she likely wont organize a group to stand follow you around pointing and laughing either. If I were you, I'd certainly express my feelings to her...not in a creepy, stalky way...but just to say that you care about her and would like to spend time with her once school is done. A small risk of your pride should be worth the possible benefits you envision, right?

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[Arienette]

, tell her how you feel. do it like a man, right to her face, don't do it in front of others though. if you can pull her aside for five minutes of her time and tell her your feelings for her. it'll take a lot of courage and strength but you'll feel better that you did it. my gut says that you'll be rejected, but you'll be stronger in life if you don't go in expecting to win the girl. just make it your mission to tell her how you feel.reef, i couldn't have said it better myself. listen to him, pink. and good luck

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[FUNKMAN]

well first of all hopefully you are practicing better hygiene :)

it's important!

keep reminding yourself that what you are doing is a big compliment towards her and that's a good thing regardless of the results...

keep reminding yourself that it "may not work out the way you want it" but being friends is cool and once she know's how you felt, she may have a change of heart as time goes on...



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[walking joint]

if you're anything like Kevin Arnold you and Winnie won't get married, but you will continue to write to each other til your old.

[Dewey]

I'd advocate the go-slow approach here, my friend. Just because the girl hasn't shit on you doesn't mean she loves you either. Try to engage her in some friendly conversation, and she will let you know if she likes you. If she gives you the go ahead, gently proceed with the friendship/courtship until you both feel more comfortable sharing your feelings with each other. The natural feelings and timing will emerge and blossom in time. 41 days is a lot of time, not a little, for this initial phase, and if it is meant to be it will continue past the end of the school year.

I'm concerned that if you go at her pouring your heart out, you may freak her out and make her run away. She may not suspect how much you like her and this may scare her. You'll be setting yourself up for rejection if you jump headlong into this. Give her a chance to warm to the idea that you like her, and to explore her feelings for you in a non-threatening way.

By the way, on all matters relating to women, ask Silera. She is the expert, and she will give you the straight scoop.

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[Johnny Fontane]

Young man, you're taking this girl way too seriously.

If this girl is friendly with girls that are mean to you, stay the fuck away from her, forget about her. She's probably the same shit as the other girls.

Stop assuming she's terrific. Don't say anything to her, don't even say goodbye.


"Some day, and that day may never come, I will call upon you to do a service for me. But until that day, accept this justice as a gift on my daughter's wedding day."

[Iamnotatool]

if you're anything like Kevin Arnold


Who isn't or wasn't at least a little bit like Kevin Arnold?

Please don't hold my huge nutbag against me, or I'll hold it against you that you have flapjack tits...

[Crippler]

In 41 days grade school is over, and she isn't going to the same high school as you. Do yourself a favor...talk to her. Regaurdless of what (if anything) comes out of it, just make sure she has some idea of how you feel before school is done. At least that way, you'll be in her head. And should fate be so kind as to bring you two near each other again in the future, you'll be more than just a vague memory.

Although, as many others have said, there will be plenty more women in your future, there is nothing more mentally painful than regret. Humiliation may suck, but regret stays with you for a lifetime. If you get together for the rest of the school year, only to break up over the summer & never get together again in HS, at least you'll know you gave it a shot.

Who knows, maybe you keep in touch as friends for the first two years & give it another chance when you're both of driving age & separate High Schools doesn't matter anymore.

No matter what becomes of these feelings, never expressing them is the one sure way that they'll haunt you for a long time. Heartbreak is no fun, but once you've had love in order to cause heartbreak, you at least have a measuring stick to base your future relationships on. Unrequited love, however, is like herpes...you carry that shit around forever.

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[stickyfingers]

Man, you have nothing to lose....i was in the same boat 9 years ago (23 now)....and i did nothing about it. There is no more empty of a feeling than not knowing what could've been, especially when what is is nothing at all. Be honest but not too forward. Thank her for being a great person and tell her that you are gonna miss her when she is not around next year (don't mention that you've actually counted the days though)....unless she is constantly showered with affection from other guys she will probably remember this for quite some time....you gotta get the wheels in motion

I will tell you this much, I can name about 15 girls from 8th to 12th grade that i had feelings for but the one that i felt the strongest about stuck with me for quite some time and i regretted not taking action






"lemme tell ya sumpin" -CW

[toneburst20]

from what i've learned from high school till now is one thing.... drop the class system and whole prep/punk/whatever grouping thing... people are people and how they dress or what music they like ect. doesn't make the person.... once i stopped generalizing everything liek that i could see shit more clearly. Say somethign to her.... or stay silent and suffer. Welcome to life.



The light at the end of a tunnel...... is a train

[Orallo]

Before i start, let me say that this is not a happy funny little post, so if you do not want to read what i have to say then i suggest you go to the "Men Suck!" messages or somthing like that.


You lost me at "Before"

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[Arienette]

If this girl is friendly with girls that are mean to you, stay the fuck away from her, forget about her. She's probably the same shit as the other girls.

Stop assuming she's terrific. Don't say anything to her, don't even say goodbye.sounds like someone may have been burned themselves... look, no one's saying the two of them are going to run off into the sunset and live happily ever after. but it would probably benefit pink to say something, just so that he doesn't spend the next few years obsessing over "what could have been" like the way he's been obsessing over the girl for the past few. he's already said that she's the only one who's been constistently nice to him. while that doens't make for a life mate, there's no reason to assume that she's going to do the same bad things to him that the others have done

Young man, you're taking this girl way too seriously.additionally, when you're a little older (as i believe most of us who responded to this thread are), you have the perspective to say that he's likely taking this girl far too seriously. but remember back to when you were 14... would you have been able to hear someone telling you that? i'm sure that none of us would have listened to that and been able to realize that it's true. and i'm sure you remember how, as a teenager, you thought that you understood everything, and that adults just didn't get that you had the ability to appreciate these things. it's not to say that these feelings aren't genuine, but we know now that they will pass and be followed by many more over the next bunch of years. in time, pink will see this, too. but right now, he needs to do this. it's important to him.




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[Bama]

I had a "6" in high school. Never told her. Then went to college and met the woman of my dreams. Now I'm glad nothing happened.
Unanswered prayers can sometimes be a good thing.

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[Dewey]

the one that i felt the strongest about stuck with me for quite some time and i regretted not taking action


She'd have just laughed at you and told you to get lost, weenie-boy.

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[stickyfingers]

She'd have just laughed at you and told you to get lost, weenie-boy.


probably, but you would be surpised how much ass you can get with a nickname like weenie-boy




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[Reephdweller]

probably, but you would be surpised how much ass you can get with a nickname like weenie-boy



yeah but you're counting man ass.

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[Johnny Fontane]

it would probably benefit pink to say something, just so that he doesn't spend the next few years obsessing over "what could have been" like the way he's been obsessing over the girl for the past few.


Arienette, we don't have all the facts. We don't know what (if any) relationship exists between Pink and this girl.

Can he realistically call her on the phone or e-mail her? Does he have lunch with her or study with her? Can he hang out in a group with her?

If there are walls that prevent them from getting together as friends, there is no real hope for romance, so why bother?


"Some day, and that day may never come, I will call upon you to do a service for me. But until that day, accept this justice as a gift on my daughter's wedding day."

[Arienette]

johnny, your point is well taken. only pink knows what his relationship with this girl is like. the impression that i got from his post was that they have been friends for a couple of years now. if that's the case, then i say he should go for it. again, not go for it in the hopes that things will work out, but just for peace of mind. rejection is a bitch, but not knowing is far worse.

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[Reephdweller]

Can he realistically call her on the phone or e-mail her?


whatever he does though, don't ever express your love to a girl via email. its one thing if you've already done it. but you never establish your feelings for a chick via email. at least it's been my experience to be direct and up front with a girl. sure you get rejected from time to time, but overall i find girls to like a guy who tells them right to their face their feelings.

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[Raven]

i fell in love with her in 6th grade, but somthing happend.


Um hate to rain on your prade but what can you know about love in the 6th grade? Love for mom n dad and a pet ok, but deep world ending love i think not.
As for her she seemed like a b for play'n you that way, there are more fish in the sea and you'll find yours (+ a bath helps :) )

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[Mr. Pink 2]

we are not really good friends now, but there are avinues i can take to speak with her, through one of my friends. now im not going to get him to tell her that i like her, just as a bridge to get back to speaking with her. She sometimes acts weird around me, but not like in a disgusted way. It seems she thinks more when we talk. or like someone who talks to there idol. and i do take baths now, so that is covered. we used to talk a lot now that i think about it.

[Arienette]

avinueswow.

i also found it funny that when you put "avinues" into dictionary.com, "avenues" doesn't even come up as a choice. stellar.

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[Reephdweller]

and i do take baths now, so that is covered.


just so long as you're covering the bases champ.

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[Johnny Fontane]

She sometimes acts weird around me, but not like in a disgusted way.


This is all the information I need to know.

Kid, leave this girl alone, she's not into you, trust me. Also, give her a break...it's an imposition when you put her on the spot with your feelings. So forget all this "a man's got to do what a man's got to do" nonsense.

This girl was sweet to you when everyone else was a bitch...fine, that's all you need. She gave you something to eat ; wonderful, she's a sweetheart. But she's not into you.

If you really care about this girl, leave her alone. If you want, you can thank her for being a kind person, but keep it short and sweet. Don't put her in a position where she has to reject you. Be a gentleman, put your ego aside and move on.



"Some day, and that day may never come, I will call upon you to do a service for me. But until that day, accept this justice as a gift on my daughter's wedding day."

[billyio]

I think you should definitely talk to her and see where you stand with her...as a friend,potential gf,or if she doesn't like you. It cannot hurt to hear how she vocalizes what she thinks about you and how she perceives you. If she doesn't like you, she will continue to be weird or cold toward you,and then you'll know if you should just move onward. Take a chance though. Don't regret it. However, if things don't work out, there are countless other girls for you to like again. Good luck!

See Ya!

[Johnny Fontane]

now im not going to get him to tell her that i like her, just as a bridge to get back to speaking with her.


(1.) This girl already KNOWS that you like her, and if she liked you back, believe me, you would know about it.

(2.) Get back to speaking with her? Come on now, there is nothing there, no chemsitry, nada. You give her the creeps.

(3.) Her friends think you're a loser...right or wrong, that's the perception. She does not want to associate with a guy that is perceived to be a loser. Is that fair? No. But life is not fair.

(4.) You fucked up. You managed to earn a reputation as a loser in elementary school. Take steps to ensure that you are not perceived the same way in high school.



"Some day, and that day may never come, I will call upon you to do a service for me. But until that day, accept this justice as a gift on my daughter's wedding day."