Cell phone ethics?

[blancostupido]

Hey buddays, here's the thing:

I am friends with two people who have been going together for 5 years now (and live together). She is a mother of 2, divorced, no intention of getting married again, and he has never been married, and also about 6 years younger than her. Lately he's been acting like a total immature drunken idiot, accusing her of cheating, etc. The other day he deleted all her #'s on her cell phone. Needless to say, she was pissed and the next day he sobered up and kissed serious ass....bla bla bla...

The thing I have a problem with is that if I go out with him, he tells me that he would never cheat on her. Yet, he tells me he has acquired a few phone numbers of other women, go-go dancers, etc. "just to see if he can still get the digits," but won't use them. He is proud of that and when the 2 of them are out together, if another girl hits on him, he rubs it in her face. I have not told the girl about the phone #'s he has accumulated, but my suggestion to her is "well, maybe if he is accusing you of cheating, checking you cell phone, it's a case of pointing the finger at someone and having 3 others pointing back at you." IOW, overly accusing someone else of something you are doing yourself, to cover up your own insecurities.

So my question is: should I tell her what I know? (I consider myself closer friends with her then him, actually) Would I be a worse friend if I did not tell her?

I didn't know whether to post this here or in "The Couch" so please feel free to move it...and serious replies are ok, but I don't mind a little nyuk nyuk responses...

[guttersnipe]

overly accusing someone else of something you
are doing yourself, to cover up your own insecurities.


Good grief, does that sound familiar...

My advice is to stay the fuck out of the middle. One or
both of them will end up hating you. The most you
should do is tell the guy what he's doing is uncool.

There are kids involved. You don't want to be a
catalyst in anything that could mess up their lives.

~guttersnipe



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[Reephdweller]

I say blackmail your friend to give you the digits to the go-go dancers in exchange for not telling his girl about what you know.

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[sr71blackbird]

Steer clear of it. It sounds to me like you might dig this girl a little, but youll end up fucking your friendship up. Do you really want her baggage anyway?

[blancostupido]

Thanks for the insight. Tho I would hardly call her kids baggage, I wouldn't want to hurt anyone, as they've been nothing but great to me and my own kid....I'll take my friend on the side and say a few things next time he acts up.

[HordeKing1]

Stay out of it. (As far away from it as possible).

Tell your friend that you don't want to hear about these things as it puts you in an uncomfortable position.

EDIT: This doesn't have anything to do with cell phone ethics, but rather the way to handle a situation of conflicting loyalties.

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This message was edited by HordeKing1 on 5-25-03 @ 2:08 AM