Arranged Marriages

[Reephdweller]

Do arranged marriages still exist in modern society, or have they gone away? Also was there ever a time when it was more the norm to have arranged marriages or has it always been some that only the rich or royalty engaged in?

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[kc7586]

i think in the middle eat there are still arranged marriages and i think in the past it wasnt just royalty that had them. it was how ever much the girl was worth in a dowry to someone, kinda like the highest bidder wins the girl. and it was up to her father who she married.

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[reeshy]

Go right down to Brooklyn, Some of the real old fashioned Hassidic Jews still believe in arranged marriages.

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[Reephdweller]

but in general in regular society, has it ever really been common?

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[FUNKMAN]

It seems to still be common in the Indian(hindu) culture. Alot of people i know at my job have had or will have arranged marriages. Some seem to be quasi-arranged, i heard them say that it was arranged but they made sure the person they were going to marry was physically appealing to them...



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[Death Metal Moe]

I went to an arranged marriage ceremony for my uncle back in '96.

Granted it was in Syria, but they are still around. But not around here as much because the USA is cool

I do have to say that most arranged marriages I've seen stay together. Now I'm not sure if that's because it "works" or if that culture might not agree with divorce. All I know is that most of them seem to work out. I have no data to back this up of course, and don't agree with that practice.

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[Arienette]

it was how ever much the girl was worth in a dowry to someone, kinda like the highest bidder wins the girl. and it was up to her father who she married.this is disgusting. on a similar note (but a tangent), if a girl was raped, the rapist would have to pay the girl's father, and then there would be a forced marriage. that's sure to be a lovely marriage.

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[kculG]

An addition to the indian arranged marrage: In modern society of indian(yes there is one), it is not really "arranged" mostly its two people wanting to getting married, the guy would go to his mother, and say, yo! I want to get married to this girl. The mother & father would go to the girls family and ask her hand in marriage. This go to hell, when the parent dont like the kid or for the better if they dont like the kid for being a drug addict or somthing. Then you just get kicked out the house. dowry is sorta gone too, but as many people say that its in the culture, instead of father getting all the gold and money, the married couple get a car or somthing to start of there married life.

This is only in a modern indian society, wont be true if you go to a villiage or somthing.



This message was edited by Gluck on 5-26-03 @ 10:31 AM

[FollowThisLogic]

Arranged marriages?

Looks like someone just saw the same Law & Order: Criminal Intent that I did the other night......

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[Reephdweller]

Arranged marriages?

Looks like someone just saw the same Law & Order: Criminal Intent that I did the other night......


Actually i thought of it while watching the movie Quills.

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[Jennitalia]

my mom has a japanese friend who had moved here to work for ibm. his family back in japan had given him a specific age in which he had to get married. he ended up having to move back to japan as he was set up in an arranged marriage, and from what my mom has said, they're both very much in love and very happy

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[HordeKing1]

The idea of marrying for love is relatively new. Even the idea of chivalry, was founded on the idea that the love was never consumated and the woman always unobtainable, almost a platonic type of relationship.

Many cultures, including some in the US continue to practice arranged marriages. My mom's Hungarian parents were wed in an arranged marriage. They met each other for the first time about a week before the wedding. They had a fantastic marriage - very egalitarian and modern - which is ironic considering the failure rate of marriage done in the name of love.

Many cultures that continue to practice arranged marriages give the woman power to veto the marriage for several reasons, the most liberal being that the guy is not phsyically appealing to her.

In the late 1990's (1998?), cult leader of the Unification Church, Rev. Sun Myung Moon, married off 1000's of his followers in a mass wedding ceremony held at Madison Square Garden. The couples had never met before. I wonder if they've joined other moonies taking the electric cool aid acid test, or if the marriages survive rather than choose that route.

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[A.J.]

I just met an Indian-American couple a few weeks ago who were arranged to be married.

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[TooCute]

n the late 1990's (1998?), cult leader of the Unification Church, Rev. Sun Myung Moon, married off 1000's of his followers in a mass wedding ceremony held at Madison Square Garden.

I used to babysit some of his kids.

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[GaryWyze]

<font color=purple>I know that this still happens with the Albanian-American community. I count several as childhood friends, and it's not uncommon for the family, upon a son's 18th birthday, to take him from house to house and have him chose his bride.

Without getting too far into it, let's just say that saying no isn't really an option.

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[jocefus]

a good friend of mine is getting married next year.. she was born in the us and doesnt really want to have a pre arranged marriage but her parents are very strict old skool indian and are demanding she goes through with it and keep with the tradition.. wish me luck as i fly to india to attend the wedding..

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[TheGameHHH]

this kid that I grew up with, Nazir Leka, was some sort of foreign decent and right out of high school he got married because his family set up an arranged marraige for him. my sister grew up and went to high school with one of his sisters (there was like 14 kids in the family) and sure enough right out of high school she was married off too.

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