Married People's Opinion NEEDED?!

[fiestygal]

I JUST POSTED THIS IN ANOTHER THREAD BUT I WOULD LIKE SOME FEEDBACK REGARDING THIS SUBJECT??

my best friend (who lives in pa and just bought a home in pa) just got married yesterday at regina pacis church in flatbush brooklyn and had the reception at El Caribe country club- also in brroklyn...im scared that i wont see her no more since she is married now..she is only 22...i barely got to see her when she was single...is it normal for single friends to feel left out when their friends get married???

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[mikeyboy]

is it normal for single friends to feel left out when their friends get married???


yes

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[FUNKMAN]

usually the friend will begin to feel left out when the couple start getting serious and there is less and less time for the friend...





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[Arienette]

my sister just got married two weeks ago, and i completely understand how you feel. it's completely normal. you're both just going to have to make more of an effort now to see one another than you did before. my sister and i have been doing that thus far, and it's working out pretty well. i'm sure your friend misses you, too.

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[Iamnotatool]

Actually, I spoke to your friend, she don't even like the guy she married. She only married him to get away from her stalker friend. Not sure who she was talking about (hint, hint)


Just kidding, I'm sure she misses you...

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[furie]

i wont see her no more


wow.

anyway, in answer to your question, yes


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[walking joint]

so you really don't need married peoples opinion. you need the opinion of people whose close friends were recently married.

i'll give my opinion anyway. i'm 27 and married for about 2 years. for sometime now i realized i'm not going to stay close with most of the people i was friends with growing up. so i decided to stay close to the few really good friends i had and if by chance i stayed close to others than fine. I figured the older i got the further i would start to live away from these friends so i knew i wouldn't see them as much. but a phone call or even the one or two times a year i see these people is enough for me. when together its like we see each other everyday and nothing has changed. you actually come to appreciate seeing them alot more. i miss them sometimes, but i have a whole new part of my life starting. being my family is all still close they are really my best friends now. i grew up with 3 sisters and 2 brothers all close in age and we are all starting new families at the same time and its kind of exciting for us.
being a guy could also be why i feel this way. my wife talks to her close friends at least once a week on the phone. I hardly ever talk on the phone to my friends, but i know they are there if i need them. and i know the second they are coming to town they will call me so we can hang out...and that's good enough for me.

[JustJon]

You think you're losing communication a day after the wedding??? Wait till she starts having kids!

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[SuperClerk]

I guess it's normal to feel that way. But it depends on the person and the couple. I've been married for 3 years, and I've remained close with most of my friends.



BTW, El Caribe sucks ass.

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[high fly]

Try to hold back on the jealousy.
For a while you probably won't see her much, but don't sweat it, it'll change in a few, mebbe several months.

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[sr71blackbird]

Single folk need to move on when married people get on in life. I know it hurts, but what else can you do? They chose to make that arrangement and now they have to live with it. Try not to lure her back to a single persons lifestyle, if you want her marriage to succede.


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[fiestygal]

im not jealous...im just afraid she will not want me as a friend anymore....this is my FIRST friend who has gotten married....i just need advise on how to handle myself around her adn her husband..i feel now i cant be myself

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[Arienette]

....i just need advise on how to handle myself around her adn her husband..i feel now i cant be myselfit is really not as big a deal as you're making it out to be. presumably, you've spent time with your friend and her husband before they were married.. it's really not all that different. just be yourself. she obviously liked that person. dont worry so much, it'll be fine. really.

i just got off the phone with my sister for the fourth time today. hee hee.

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[Meatball]

your relationship will defenitly suffer. To what extent depends on how close you were before she got married and how important it is to BOTH of you. any relationship is as strong as its weakest member. Your friends have a new life now and will make new friends with other couples. If you and she try really hard - it could survive. I would recommend telling her your fears and concerns about losing her friendship. It could help her see things from your perspective.



see this recent article about it.


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This message was edited by Meatball on 9-2-03 @ 11:55 PM

[fiestygal]

ok..so like today i was pretty bummed about the whole situation...im afraid if i tell her how i really feel she'll think of me as crazy or something..she is away for 3 weeks on her honeymoon...i dont wanna ruin her wedded bliss with my concerns...i just dont wanna be a bother to her or anyone for that matter

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[Arienette]

she is away for 3 weeks on her honeymoon...i dont wanna ruin her wedded bliss with my concerns...well, i think it goes without saying that you shouldnt tell her any of this while she's away on her honeymoon. give her a call when she gets back, and see how it feels. if you're still concerned, then tell her.

and who the hell goes on a three week honeymoon? damn, that sounds nice

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[Furtherman]

She got married at 22? No worries - in a couple years she'll be divorced and you'll have all the time you'll need to hang out.

[Katylina]

Hmmm... maybe you'll come and hang out with me more often now.

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[fiestygal]

hey kat isnt that a form of kiddie porn..lol..huddla!

and to furtherman- screw you for that post...im happy she is married and her husband (wow that was weird to say) is very nice...and shell probably come back preggers from her honeymoon

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[Jennitalia]

..and shell probably come back preggers from her honeymoon



then you'll never see her

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[Furtherman]

Her husband is a great guy? Good! Good for her. But she is 22. That's way too young to get married in my opinion.