I can't seem to stay happy

[keithy_19]

Its really a shame, but I can't seem to stay happy. Its messed up too because I'm 15 and I shouldn't be feeling bad. Yet I am. I dunno what it is. I mean, I guess I got things a little rougher then most 15 year olds, but I still shouldn't be upset. Is there anything I could do, or do any of you have any advice for me?

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[JohnnyCash]

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[schmega]

find things that you enjoy, and PILE ON. go hang our with your friends. and above all, stop wallowing in self-pity.

[sr71blackbird]

Describe what your feeling to your doctor, hw might be able to either help you with depression medication, or forward you to a psychotherapist. Its nothing to be ashamed about!!

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[Mike Teacher]

Its messed up too because I'm 15 and I shouldn't be feeling bad.


Keith my Brotha,

At 15 I would get worried if you WEREN'T feeling bad, at least a lot of the time.

I was a frigging mess at 15. And the worst part was, I actually thought I had a clue.

Physically you're still on the way up and out, so realize that if your body is changing, and it is, even if it's not noticable, it is most Definately changing.

The Steroid Shuffle is gonna continue for a while, as will the growth and evolution of body systems.

So That by Definition is going to mean feeling a lot of feelings that you will have little, or even no control over. Some will be for the very first time. This is Fifteen.

Christ I feel like this is coming off as Eugene Levy talking to Jason Biggs, but seriously, this Will happen.

Having said all of the above, realize that all of the above is a complete Generalization. I don't know you well enough to start drawing conclusions.

And if you're feeling a bit frazzled, go find the cool teacher. With hope you have at least one. I had some people come to me in my days and I hope I was a bit of a help.

And you have Us!!! WooooHOOOOO!!!

And I say it SO often now it's cliche, but I have to do it myself, I must remember:

I'm not starving
I have a toilet
I am not ina place of War
I have clean water
I'm not cold
I'm Sheltered
I'm not Seriously Ill

this puts you ahead of literally 3 billion people, just those. Half the world lacks some of those.

add the fact that you can read and write? You're in the top 90%.

You won the Life Lottery my man.

So did we all. Problem is, for some reason, we forget. And things go wrong.

And again, all of this means nothing if you are really feeling bad. If that is the case, don't make the mistake and not talk with someone.

You rock.



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[FUNKMAN]

try to be a little more 'care-free' and make a point to not take things 'too' seriously...

remember if you can't laugh at yourself then make fun of other people... that's just an o'l joke...

get more involved in things that you are interested in...

and most of all NEVER think that anyone is better than you!


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[shamus mcfitzy]

then beat it HARDER

but seriously, i probably hadn't felt "happy" (that's probably not an exaggeration either) for the last 4 years until just this year I saw this chick that i had lost contact with. For once I actually feel good and can say that I am a happy person. So.......go figure

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[JohnnyCash]

Same here shamus mcfitzy. I tried meds and everything but a great chick by your side is the best help out there.

Always remeber the Man In Black.

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A woman walks into a vets office with a limp parrot across her arms.
She says to the vet, "Doctor, I need you to look at my bird, she's frightfully sick."
"Lady," the doctor shot back, "Your bird is dead."
"How can you say that?! You didn't even look at her! Didn't even run a test!"
At that the doctor shook his head, looked into an adjacent room and beckoned a large labrador dog into the room. The dog walked up to the bird, sniffed, stared, and slowly sulked, shaking his head to the doctor.
Next the doctor waved a cat into the room. The cat walked up to the bird, looked the bird over, stared up at the doctor, and slowly shook his head.

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"$350?! You didn't even do anything but tell me the bird is dead!"
"Well ma'am, if it wasn't for the lab report and the cat scan, it would have cost you much less."

can't be happy all the time.
embrace the happiness you do fine.
listen to what everyone is saying on here, some good advice.
in the end, be strong and listen to yourself. whether you know it or not you will know what to do...be patient and be true.

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People aren't meant to be happy all the time.

Embrace your dark feelings.

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[monsterone]

Its messed up too because I'm 15 and I shouldn't be feeling bad.


yeah you should. it's called angst- if you're motivated to get a trench coat and a shotgun, call someone. otherwise, suck it up and keep your head down.

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[reeshy]

Describe what your feeling to your doctor, hw might be able to either help you with depression medication, or forward you to a psychotherapist. Its nothing to be ashamed about!!


Wrong answer!!! That's the problem with our society!!! As soon as I feel a little depressed, I'm advised to run to my doctor and drop some pills!!! It's been my experience that medication helps in the short run but many people feel that medication is the ultimate answer...they're only aids for a short time!!

You're a teen-ager!! You're going to feel this way!! It's normal!! I'm not saying don't seek advise but don't run to the pharmacist the first time you get these feelings!!!

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[shamus mcfitzy]

Describe what your feeling to your doctor, hw might be able to either help you with depression medication, or forward you to a psychotherapist. Its nothing to be ashamed about!!


it's probably not serious, but it may be. I know that I should've done something about my depression/issues. Instead I talked to a shrink once recently and he seemed horrified with the number of psychosises (sp?) I have.

But I'm sure that Keith's problems are just angst. He should probably just deal with it as normal. Not everyone is as screwed up as me :)

[sr71blackbird]

Wrong answer!!!


Well, your right. I only gave that advice in case there was something else other than normal growing pains for the guy. Its always better if you can work your way around your anxieties on your own and not become dependent on any substance to get your through it. Part of the greatness of overcoming this on your own without any medication will be that you survived this and proved to yourself that your stronger than your anxieties and from that youll grow stronger as a man and be admired by those around you. These feelings are normal at 15 though, but if you do find yourself consumed with more dire compulsions, please seek help beyond yourself.

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[hyperspace]

don't start worrying about nothing till you hit 27. enjoy yourself!!!

[keithy_19]

I don't know if this makes a difference, but I think it does. Right around my 14 birthday I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis which is really weird. Its not something a teenager usually gets. The doctors told me that people with ms often get depressed because they feel helpless because there's no cure. I always have that in the back of my mind. I'm really tired of doing a shot every night. I know I have to...but still...

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[sr71blackbird]

keep your chin up kid! Look at all the people who answered..we all went though shit too. Not MS in my case, but hardships too. We just buried my mother in law yesterday, and I saw grown men bawling their eyes out and I know that, as Mike Teacher says, there are others out there worse off than me, and they deal with it, so we have to pull ourselves up by our boot straps and work it out on our own. At least you have this! Imagine some kid in Cambodia with MS right now with depressive issues? What are his options? His parents need him to help plow the fields and he cant! They cant feed him without his help...there is always someone worse off then you, and if THEY survive, than so too can YOU... Chin up!
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[Billy Staples]

Hey

I don't usually do this, give advice on the board and stuff, but I have a little experience in this area.

Yes there are people worse off in the world than you are. I know from where Mike the T comes, but that doesnt help the way you are feeling right now.

Talk to someone, anyone, guidance counselor, parent, teacher, school psychiatrist, even a best friend or your doctor even if you have to tell your parents its for something else.

Being a teenager is rough, life can be rough, trust me...an old cliche but a good one, if it doesnt kill us it makes us stronger. No, you don't have to be on meds (like some of us, but some of us do, because we waited too long and let things get out of control).

If I knew now what I knew at your age, i have to think my life would have turned out a lot different. Better or worse, who knows but definitely different.

Just remember, part of what you are going through is normal. Besides, what really is Happiness...one cannot expect to be all smiles and giggles all the time....that is what I always thought....if life wasnt some kind of a party, than I wasnt happy.

Hang in there bro, lots of people here to help or talk too, but for yourself, talk to someone on a personal level. I know parents can be tough, but there has to be someone....find him or her and ask for a minute of their time and see if what you are going through is normal or not.

Best of luck and stay in touch

Billy

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[keithy_19]

First off, I just wanna say thanks to everyone who replied to this thread. The feed back has really helped me.

Secondly, I'm feeling better about myself. I don't know exactly what did it. Probably the fact that I was getting sick of being sad and feeling bad. So i'm feeling better. But thanks again. :)

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[Reephdweller]

I'm very happy for you Keith, best of luck to you.

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