Remnants from former relationships

[wilee]

I was cleaning up my place and came across a jacket I got from my ex-girlfriend from like 5 or so years ago. The relationship didn't end well and I pretty much got rid of all the pictures, notes and other things that reminded me of her (but apparently forgot about this). Don't think I'll get rid of it, I think I've gotten past it.

So when a relationship ends badly, do you go the same route? Or do you hang onto mementos of "the better times"?

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[high fly]

All I save is one pair of their underwear.

" and they ask me why I drink"

[Jack_Doff]

I always seem to save something but generally don't realize it. This item always seems to surface right when I think I've forgotten her. Then I have to go through the process again.

[Jennitalia]

for the most part, yes. i still have little notes from my first boyfriend. i have everything from my last boyfriend. the notes and cards and stuff are all packed away. still hurts to read through it all. i do have a painting that he made for me that's hanging in my apartment. i just like it a lot.
i dont hang onto stuff from guys i dated because there was no sentimental value and i really didnt want anything to remember them by. a guy made me a mixed cd and bought me a stuffed animal and hat...that's in the garbage now.

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This message was edited by Jennitalia on 12-8-03 @ 3:22 PM

[Furtherman]

This message was edited by Furtherman on 11-2-04 @ 1:19 PM

[curtoid]

I've been in two long term, pretty serious relationships, and when they ended I wanted nothing of of either of them at all.

Some stuff I tossed out, or gave as gifts (my brother and father both still wear sweaters that were given to me, that I regifted to them), or (as was the case with the last one), sold on e-bay.

Turns out I wasn't the only one either! About a year after the break-up, I was searching on e-bay and found something that looked like something I either had, or something I wanted - so I checked it out, and (sure enough) it was something I had given her, that she was selling under a different e-bay name!

There are still a couple of things I have held onto, though - time makes even nasty break ups a little easier, especially if you've moved on with your life.

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[wilee]

Right up until I took her pretty head.


That's the ultimate memento.


I still have stuff from relationships that didn't end badly, but this particular one I more or less wiped out completely when it ended.


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[JustJon]

All I save is one pair of their underwear.

" and they ask me why I drink"and he wears them everyday.

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[Arienette]

i still have some things. one ex used to write me letters everyday, and he wrote an entire book of poetry. years later, i would look at them, and it would still make me sad (even though i had ended things with him). i have a few other things from other boyfriends, as well. i haven't looked at any of them since i met my boyfriend. and i don't think that looking at it now would made me all that sad. when i move, i think i'll toss it all.

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[A.J.]

The only momentos I seem to keep are the emotional scars.

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[Arienette]

The only momentos I seem to keep are the emotional scars.aj, have you ever considered fronting an emo band? seriously.

i have never seen you, but i'm sure you'd look cute in the glasses.... girls dig that.

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[Justice4all]

It all depends for me. If there was an emotional attachment to it, like a Teddy Bear or a card or a letter, yes I would more or less likely throw it out.
The only thing I still have of any sentimentalvalue from a past relationship is my wedding ring. I keep it as a reminder to not make the same mistake again.
I had someone recently break things off with me, but I was not about to throw away the DVD's she left me. I consider them 'partng gifts'.
If it has practical use, like a good movie or a band you listen to, then why not keep it?
Could'nt hurt, unless they were all sappy love songs that you would dance or sing to each other.
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[mikeyboy]

I don't think I currently have anything from former girlfriends. Then again, I started dating my wife 11 years ago, so if I kept anything I probably would have discarded it by now. My recollection back to the time when I was dating other women is that I didn't hold on to stuff to which my only attachment would be emotional (such as letters, notes, cards etc.) If there was stuff I liked, like a watch, a shirt or CD, I'd hold onto it and mentally erase the emotional connection.

Now that I think about it, I probably do have some CDs from old girlfriends. I just think of them as CDS without attaching any sentimental weight to them.

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[furie]

it all goes. especially the pictures


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