Why do women bring up old stuff

[LingRLonger]

When arguing with a woman why do they bring up stuff from 2 years ago that they never confronted you on before?

[reeshy]

Because they want to make you a better man???

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[Death Metal Moe]

Cause they got that Sweet Poontang, and know that you'll put up with a lot of shit before you leave them.

What a world.

Nevermind that stupid shit. Women love arguments, and love to be difficult. It's a form of attention for them. End of story. But we need to worry about this shit 1st! We must....

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[HordeKing1]

LingRLonger - The problem from 2 years ago was never addressed and resolved satisfactorily.

Often, it is counterproductive to bring up old disputes during an argument, but most people (YES, MEN TOO) are at least a bit irrational when arguing.

When you are both calm and at peace and not arguing about anything, have your wife make a list of things that bother her from the day she met you, that have not been resolved. You make such a list as well. Agree that you're not going to argue about the list, but will listen to each other and attempt to understand the other's point of view.

After the list is read and you've exhaustively discussed every previously unresolved topic and tried your best to see things from each others eyes, agree that you will never mention the things on the list again. As of that moment everything is a clean slate.

Most of all, you guys have to learn to communicate effectively, and to see things through the other's perspecive.

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[TomPoo]

Why do women bring up old stuff


HK brings up a real good point about "unresolved" issues. Unresolved issues always have a way of reufacing when arguments occur.

However, if the girl brings up shit that had been settled, and she is still using it against you, CALL HER OUT ON IT!!! DON'T LET HER MANIPULATE YOU LIKE THAT!!!

But also, woman never want you to forget your mistakes, so we don't make them again. And what is worse, we make more than we even know.

And on top of that, the old shit they bring up is usually real minor insignificant shit that you never thought twice about!!!

Woman have an incredible attention to detail, especially for the people they love the most.

Hopefully any girl that can remember all the bad shit from years ago can also remember the good shit as well. If not, then you just have a vengeful, spiteful bitch on your hands.



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[HordeKing1]

Arguments that were settled should not be brought up. That's the point of the "clean slate."

TOM wrote: "And on top of that, the old shit they bring up is usually real minor insignificant shit that you never thought twice about!!!"

That's part of the problem. To you it might be insignificant, to her it might be of the utmost importance; Not necessarily becasue of the act itself but because of what it means or represents to her.

Of course, woman don't have a monopoly on this. Men are just as likely to do it.

Sometimes these arguements can be constructive, as they can clear the air and revitalize the relationship. For that to happen, both partners must have an open mind and be sincerely dedicated to themselves. Converesely, these arguments, if not constructive can just mire the relationship in quicksand, halting it or dragging it down past the point of no return.

Men have to take responsibility for the relationship as well as women. No party in a fight is totally blameless...

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[TomPoo]

That's part of the problem. To you it might be insignificant, to her it might be of the utmost importance; Not necessarily becasue of the act itself but because of what it means or represents to her.


Holy S!!!! DON't I know it!!!!

I understand the fact that something insignificant to me might be important to her because of what it means or represents.

HOWEVER, If it is something on a personal level, how is a guy suppose to know that!??!?!

For example, I was dating this girl my sophmore year of college. On Valentines day we went to dinner at this Italian restaurant, when I asked her what she wanted she said "Lets get what we got on our first date!!!"I was like WHAT THE F!!! I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT WE ATE?!?!?!

So she gets mad at me. Now here is my point,

I understand that for some reason she remembers what we ate and it means something to her... but for her to get MAD that I don't share the same memory that way is F'd up. And now that I have made this mistake... I am sure I won't hear the end of it.

Not to mention, everytime we went out to eat after this I was taking notes in case I get a pop quiz... uuuhhh... (as you can imagine this relationship did not last long.)

HK, I think this all goes back to a statemnet eith you or Heckler said a while ago, "Women are crazy, men are stupid"

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[HordeKing1]

TOM - Great memory! But the statement I made was slightly different:

"Women are crazy, men are insane."

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