need help with 10 month relationship

[ChildofFez]

ok i need some help if you guys could..I have been in this relationship with this girl for 10 months and lately for maybe the past month of so we have just been getting into constant fights and getting on each others nerves very easily and we have come so close to breaking up with each other many times but when it comes to zero hour we just can't do it we even had a long discussion how it would be best for both of us to break up but we just can't do it for some reason, granted we do have a lot of good times but the bad times are really bad Ie:screaming, crying, yelling, hurt feelings. and we just don't know what to do we want to break up but we really want to stay together too, and you can feel how strong the love is but it gets to be too emotionally draining on both of us. yet like i said we can't picture ourselves without each other and usually not 2 days go by where were not together. so if anyone can help please i would be much appreciative. if you need anymore info don't hesitate to ask.

"I like Crazy Jen Cuz she sounds easy"

This message was edited by ChildofFez on 12-13-04 @ 4:27 PM

[kevcala]

If the bad times outnumber the good times, it might be best to call it quits.

People don't usually change too too much over time, so if you're fighting tons now, chances are you'll be fighting tons in the future. Don't get me wrong, couples fight and work things out, it's a fact of life, but if the fights are a majority of the time spent together, it might be time to take a break.

Nobody likes break ups. Having someone there is comforting, and alot of time it feels like anyone is better than no-one. They wouldn't be called break-ups if they were easy. You have to think about your future and the future of the relatonship. Do you see things changing? Can you live with the fighting for possibly the rest of your life? (I know you're not marriage age yet, but it happens sooner than you'd like to think.) Just picture yourself in 10 more months with things the way they are, are you happy?

Remember this is just my opinion, take it for what it's worth.

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[Tenbatsuzen]

Give yourselves some space.

Some time off will allow you to reflect.



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[Jennitalia]

Kev hit the nail on the head. Life's too short to be in a relationship where you're fighting all the time, or just aren't happy. The longer you stay in it, the harder it will be to let go. And yes, it's very hard to get over a break up, or even end things when you still care about the person. But it really does get easier. You may also be surprised on how much happier you may be without this person.
Breaking up is like pulling off a band aid...you have to rip it off quickly. It'll hurt for a couple of seconds, but afterwards, you'll feel a great sense of relief.
I wouldn't recommend "taking a break", because it gives you a sense of false hope about the relationship.

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[furie]

sleep with her sister. every thing will be ok.


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[Iamnotatool]

I dunno, Ross Gellar seemed to enjoy "taking a break"

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[FUNKMAN]

and you can feel how strong the love is


it sound to me like you are confusing love with something else

it's hard for me to believe that you truly love each other when you argue constantly... it sounds like you are more 'addicted' to each other and can't let go

like Jen said 'if i read her right' you have to go cold turkey and move on with your lives seperately

if you have to see each other just due to living near each other or having mutual friends then just be respectful and civil to each other...

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[CYYYFYYY]

Heck even if the good out numbers thae bad bad. It should not be close. IT should be alot of t good and a little bad. Yep I sound like I am 2. I am also not in a relationship.

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[MHasegawa]

Cut her off, no female is worth any headache or ulcer.

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[ChildofFez]

thank you all for your help you all made very much sense and i shall take all of it into consideration...thank you again

"I like Crazy Jen Cuz she sounds easy"

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Watch Eternal Sunshine and relate it to your current situation.

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This message was edited by angrymissy on 12-14-04 @ 9:16 AM

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Watch Eternal Sunshine and relate it to your current situation.


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[ChildofFez]

it's actually really funny you guys mention eternal sunshine it was the only movie that we had rented to watch and never got through it at all becuz it was a mix of fighting and making out and ended up taking it back early

"I like Crazy Jen Cuz she sounds easy"

This message was edited by ChildofFez on 12-14-04 @ 10:49 AM

[IamFogHat]

Sounds like somebody needs some strange.

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[Tenbatsuzen]

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This message was edited by Tenbatsuzen on 12-14-04 @ 6:11 PM

[Bulldogcakes]

Child, what you're going through happens to everyone sooner or later. The things you love at first can drive you nuts later. Try to deal with things not when your both upset, but the next day when you've both calmed down. Make an effort to understand her complaints, then tell (not yell) her yours. If this doesn't work, do like Furie said and fuck her sister.
Might be your last chance to before she dumps your ass.

BTW If you're under 24, just break up. You're too young for this bullshit.

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[ChildofFez]

Well Big ass late update...I Broke with the girl in question yesterday...it was a little rough but we ended on good terms and I'll tell You have never been so happy about it the only thing i feel bad about is letting the relationship go on so long and that I'm so happy about ending it with her I'm mean i havn't been this happy in such a long time, ehhhh I hate realtionships....but thank you guys for all your help.

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[ihaveabadmonkey]

Buy a boat and take her "fishing"

[Bulldogcakes]

The two best parts of a long term relationship
#1 First time you screw
#2 Last time you see each other

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Buy a boat and take her "fishing"



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