Bob Impact
07-11-2005, 07:26 AM
My chick and I have been discussing (somewhat seriously) our potential wedding plans recently, and have hit somewhat of a snag. I’m a recent college grad and she has some time left before this becomes a serious issue, but we’re both the kind of people who plan way in advance. I am an Objectivist and as follows from that an atheist. She is a non-practicing Methodist with a VERY religious family. My only requests for a wedding are:<br /> <br />1) That we do not get married in a church. I refuse to let the church have “control” over my marriage, and I refuse to ask for their sanction for my marriage. Also, I would feel as if I was insulting her family and her religion by marrying in a church.<br /><p>2) God is kept out of my part of the service. I am not opposed to God coming up in the service for her, but I do not want to swear to a God I do not believe in for one of the most important moments in my life.</p> <br />She has no problem with these two changes, her grandfather is a minister who has no problem issuing the service in the manner we desire, but the rest of her family in not entirely thrilled about the idea, and is not too keen on her being with an Atheist in general. My family is split, very few who are religious practice, and they are more interested in seeing us do a traditional Sicilian wedding, which is most assuredly not what her Methodist family wants.<br /> <br /><p>So, do we do the wedding we want, the one her family wants, or the one my family wants?</p>