how the fuck do you move on?

[Patches]

<p>Well, exactly like the question asks?&nbsp; Maybe part ! to my problem is being completely in love with my best friend.. </p><p>I'll make this short.&nbsp;</p><p>We hate each other now.. We both slept with other people.&nbsp; It sounds like an easy problem to solve but its not...</p><p>How the fuck do we part ways?</p><p>Oh, yeah... she is fucking gorgeiuous to boot.</p>

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[PapaBear]

<p>As someone who has moved on&nbsp;many times...&nbsp; All I can say is, it just happens.&nbsp; You experience misery. Sometimes, the misery lasts for a very long time. Sometimes, it doesn't. Eventually, you realise that you've moved on. </p><p>Once you've moved on, you sometimes experience doubts...&nbsp; You ask yourself, &quot;have I really moved on?&quot; You start thinking about the girl you broke up with 10 or 15 years ago...&nbsp; then some guy posts something on a message board, who has had a recent break-up...</p><p>That's when you realise, you're happy your pain isn't as new as his. Then you tell that guy, &quot;I feel your pain, bro. You aren't alone.&quot;</p><p>I feel your pain, bro... You aren't alone.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><img src="http://i6.photobucket.com/albums/y229/snowmaninva66/ingacopy.jpg" border="0" /></p><p>1 people are so scared of 9 people</p><p>WHATSOEVER... </p>

<font color=black>This message was edited by PapaBear on 10-19-05 @ 3:06 AM</font>

[The Jays]

If you let me have sex with her, I'll work on it.<br />


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[JamMaster]

<p>As a recent member of the break up club...all I can say is time will help you move on.&nbsp; And hopefully on that journey you will find someone else that makes you happy.&nbsp; </p><p>Its an aweful pain....but the great thing about the human brain is it forgets the feeling of pain when you are happy or feeling good again.&nbsp; </p>

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[bobrobot]

<p><strong>Time heals all wounds </strong></p><p><strong>Yeah, it's a cliche, but it's true!</strong></p><p><strong>and if you DON'T get over it, you get&nbsp;USED to it, </strong></p><p><strong>like the death of a loved one.</strong></p><p align="center"><img src="http://i2.photobucket.com/albums/y46/bobogolem/bobobigjoe.jpg" border="0" /></p><p align="center">If I got a biscuit, you get half ! </p>

<font color=black>This message was edited by bobogolem on 10-25-05 @ 8:14 PM</font>

[Mike Teacher]

<p>IMHO, Time doesnt do shit for many wounds, sadly.</p><p>So, you deal as you can, holding the wound in front of you as a pointed stick to remind yourself that you are alive, and&nbsp;use&nbsp;our wounds&nbsp;as&nbsp;remindrs and guides&nbsp;of what is, and what is possible, respectively.</p><p>&nbsp;</p>

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[mdr55]

<p>You don't and become a stalker. Then you ask yourself....a restraining order...how could you..you know I love you.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Then you scratch her car with your name on it.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p> And you wonder why they know it was you when the police come to get you.<br />
</p>

[samnyc]

You shouldn't move on.&nbsp; You can still fuck her even if you hate her.

[KC2OSO]

I dated the same gal for eight years through high school and
college.&nbsp; We got engaged a year after college and broke it off a
month before the wedding.<br />
It took a while to mentally part ways but I'm sooo glad we didn't get
married.&nbsp; People become habits.&nbsp; The things they often
unwittingly do for your ego become habit and feel good.<br />
Move on?&nbsp; You can move on if you want to but that's usually never
the whole story.&nbsp; It's more like limping away from the scene of
the accident.&nbsp; You lick the wounds and tell yourself magical
stories to reestablish the ego.&nbsp; To move on you'll need to break
the habits.<br />
<br />
So you both slept with other people.&nbsp; How did that happen?<br />
<br />
Or you you could just fuck casually.

[Jennitalia]

<font style="font-size: 9px" face="Verdana">quote: </font>People become habits.&nbsp;&nbsp; <p><br />That is so true.&nbsp; It's easy to stay in a situation because you're comfortable in it, but you may not be necessarily happy with it.</p><p>Give it some time to cool off, especially if you value the friendship.&nbsp; Sometimes making things happen can just backfire</p>

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If we couldn't laugh we would all go insane

[kindred]

<p align="left">My heart has recently broken too.&nbsp; I know time will help, but it just takes so damn long.&nbsp; Then again, sometimes you never get over that kind of love.</p>

[Wormwood]

<font style="font-size: 9px" face="Verdana">quote: </font><p><strong>Time heals all wounds </strong></p><img src="http://i2.photobucket.com/albums/y46/bobogolem/bobobigjoe.jpg" border="0" />If I got a biscuit, you get half !<font size="2">but it's left me some really ugly scars<br /></font>

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not if you were the last junkie on earth

[terryc35]

<p>The thing about a broken heart is not the being alone that kills you, it is the thought of that first time you run into her.&nbsp; How are you going to react then?&nbsp; Whether it is 2 weeks or two years later it all comes rushing back like a volcano of emotions.&nbsp; In the words of the great Dan Fogelberg, &quot;Just for a moment I was back in school, and felt that old familiar paa-ain.&nbsp; And as I turned to my way back home, the snow turned into rain.&quot;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Well, the snow doesn't have to turn into rain my friend.&nbsp; You have to kill her and dispose of the body as soon as possible.&nbsp; This way there is no chance of you meeting your old lover in the supermarket, when the snow is falling on Christmas Eve. If you kill her there is no way she can stroll behind you in the frozen foods and touch you on the sleave.&nbsp;&nbsp; Don't give her a chance to marry her an architect that keeps her warm and safe and dry.&nbsp; She won't love him anyway.&nbsp; Besides, who the hell wants to sit in a car in the parking lot of a liquor syore on Christmas Eve drinking a sixpack with some skank you used to think you loved, but is now just another middle-aged oveweight woman who you have zero in common with?!?!</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>You can avoid this whole painful grocery store ordeal if you just off her now.</p>

[Justice4all]

<p>Hey patch....I know this is going to sound redundant at this point, but for everyone who has a story on here, myself included, yours will have to play out for yourself. It is tough to move on when someone hurts you who you liked or loved at one point. </p><p>I for one would love to still be friends with all of my ex's (wife or GFs) but unfortunatly it does not always happen like that.</p><p>As stated before sure you hate each other now, but you might be friends again someday. Time does heal most (but sometimes not all) wounds. You will have your moment when you realized you moved on. It may not happen tomorrow, but it will happen and that is a promise.</p><p>Just remember that the next lucky guy you date (and he will be lucky to be with you) do not take whatever anger you have now out on him. One of the mistakes I have made it letting some of my relationships suffere for the sins of my ex wife. </p><p>Good luck. You can be strong and get past this. I wish I had something else that I could say.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>You will be ok.</p>

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"Did you catch all of that in your mouth??"
"You betcha!!!!!"
"That's disgusting"
"Shut up and keep sucking!"

[JesterOfSadness]

<p>Bro I know how you feel as well....hell not to long ago my g/f broke dumped me..and well I'm still currently trying to move on...yeah youll think about her and what went wrong...but eventually that time will come where you completely move on...</p><p>As I said man....I feel your pain</p>

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Sadness has returned...worse than before

[furie]

have sex with her sister. you'll feel better about yourself.<br />



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[TheGameHHH]

watch Swingers

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[Jennitalia]

<p>I dated a guy once and I liked him, but I was never in love with him. I tried several times to end things, but I've always been afraid of the unknown, and he was a nice guy, and at least I had something to do on weekends, and he never seemed to want to go away, so I stayed with him way much longer than I should have.&nbsp;&nbsp; I was upset for a couple of days when it finally ended for good, because, it's like you get used to somebody being there, and then, when he's gone, it does feel like a part of you is missing.&nbsp; With time I realized I never did love him and it was pointless to stay friends because there really wasn't any reason for it at all.&nbsp; When we did hang out it just reminded me of how awful our relationship was, and I kick myself because of that wasted time I'll never get back. </p><p><img alt="Image hosted by Photobucket.com" src="http://i19.photobucket.com/albums/b168/Jennitalia23/RFnetJenn.jpg" border="0" /> </p><p><a href="http://www.myspace.com/jennitalia23">Find me on MySpace and be my friend!</a> </p><p>If we couldn't laugh we would all go insane</p>

<font color=black>This message was edited by Jennitalia on 10-19-05 @ 6:06 PM</font>

[Patches]

<p>heh...thanks all... even the wise asses- if ya can't laugh at yourself a little, then whats the point?&nbsp; Anyway I do appreciate it... I'll probably be reading these a few times... good luck to everyone else who is broke down in Shitsville..</p>

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[JohnnyCash]

Its hard. My girlfriend of 8 years broke up with me 2 months ago. It was a total shock. I feel as bad today as I did the night I moved out. Time&nbsp;may help but&nbsp;being around people who care about you makes a world of difference. I left with nothing. No home, little money. I worked from home so alot of work was delayed for weeks and that meant no money coming in. If it wasnt for friends to help out I would have bottomed out hard. Two months later I have a job again and a home and everything in my life is how it should be-happy. Only its hard to enjoy anything because shes not here with me...I cant give you any advise because it still hurts.&nbsp;It still hurts alot...They say time makes it easier but I havent felt it yet...Hang in there. I know how you feel.

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Thank You Reefdwella

[FUNKMAN]

<p>maybe Todd can help</p><h1><table cellspacing="0" cellpadding="0" width="100%" border="0"><tr><td>*&nbsp; <table cellspacing="0" cellpadding="0" width="100%" border="0"><tr><td><font face="Arial" size="4">Can We Still Be Friends<br />&nbsp;</font></td><td width="120">&nbsp;</td></tr></table><div /></td></tr><tr><td>* <table cellspacing="0" cellpadding="0" width="100%" border="0"><tr><td valign="top" width="20">&nbsp;</td><td valign="top"><font face="Arial" size="3">We can&rsquo;t play this game anymore<br />But can we still be friends<br />Things just can&rsquo;t go on like before<br />But can we still be friends<br />We had something to learn<br />Now it&rsquo;s time for the wheel to turn<br />Grains of sand, one by one<br />Before you know it, all gone<br /><br />Let&rsquo;s admit we made a mistake<br />But can we still be friends<br />Heartbreak&rsquo;s never easy to take<br />But can we still be friends<br />It&rsquo;s a strange, sad affair<br />Sometimes seems like we just don&rsquo;t care<br />Don&rsquo;t waste time feeling hurt<br />We&rsquo;ve been through hell together<br /><br />Can we still get together sometime<br />You know life will still go on and on and on<br /><br />We awoke from our dream<br />Things are not always what they seem<br />Memories linger on<br />It&rsquo;s like a sweet, sad old song </font><br /></td></tr></table><div /></td></tr></table></h1><img src="http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v53/monster6sixty6/guests/fm2_sig.jpg" border="0" />

<font color=black>This message was edited by FUNKMAN on 10-19-05 @ 9:34 PM</font>

[JohnnyCash]

<p>If Todd&nbsp;doesnt help, Hank Sr. always does. </p><p><strong><u>Why Dont You Love Me</u></strong></p><p>Well, why don&rsquo;t you love me like you used to do<br />How come you treat me like a worn out shoe<br />My hair&rsquo;s still curly and my eyes are still blue<br />Why don&rsquo;t you love me like you used to do.<br /><br />Ain&rsquo;t had no lovin&rsquo; like a huggin&rsquo; and a kissin&rsquo;<br />In a long, long while<br />We don&rsquo;t get nearer or further or closer<br />Than a country mile;<br /><br />Why don&rsquo;t you spark me like you used to do<br />And say sweet nothin&rsquo;s like you used to coo<br />I&rsquo;m the same old trouble that you&rsquo;ve always been through<br />So, why don&rsquo;t you love me like you used to do.<br /><br />Well, why don&rsquo;t you be just like you used to be<br />How come you find so many faults with me<br />Somebody&rsquo;s changed so let me give you a clue<br />Why don&rsquo;t you love me like you used to do.<br /><br />Ain&rsquo;t had no lovin&rsquo; like a huggin&rsquo; and a kissin&rsquo;<br />In a long, long while<br />We don&rsquo;t get nearer or further or closer<br />Than a country mile;<br /><br />Why don&rsquo;t you say the things you used to say<br />What makes you treat me like a piece of clay<br />My hair&rsquo;s still curly and my eyes are still blue<br />Why don&rsquo;t you love me like you used to do.</p>

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[newport king]

<p>ok, here's what you do. go out with friends. meet new and interesting people and you'll realize she wasn't all you made her out to be. being back on the dating circuit can be fun. good luck sir.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>and whatever you do, try not to think about the new guy thats banging her like crazy and him having a bigger penis than you.</p>

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[Death Metal Moe]

<p>Time doesn't heal wounds, it just hardens your heart until you can deal with the pain.&nbsp; That's why people get cynical and hateful.&nbsp; It really takes all your will power to NOT let the horrible things in your life harden your heart and make you hate the beautiful things in this world.</p><p>You dont want to be that bitter old man cursing at young people in love and hating everything around him, do you?&nbsp; I don't know how you deal with things, but keep that in mind as you do.</p>

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[tele7]

<font style="font-size: 9px" face="Verdana">quote: </font><p>Time doesn't heal wounds, it just hardens your heart until you can deal with the pain.&nbsp; That's why people get cynical and hateful.&nbsp; It really takes all your will power to NOT let the horrible things in your life harden your heart and make you hate the beautiful things in this world.</p><p>You dont want to be that bitter old man cursing at young people in love and hating everything around him, do you?&nbsp; I don't know how you deal with things, but keep that in mind as you do.</p><img src="http://scripts.cgispy.com/image.cgi?u=njdmmoe" border="0" /> <a href="http://www.unhallowed.com/">www.unhallowed.com</a> <a href="http://thebigsexxxy.blogspot.com/">One Big SeXXXy Blog</a> <a href="http://www.myspace.com/deathmetalmoe">Death Metal MySpace</a> DTN Well said DMM!&nbsp; I still hate midgets and Jewel though.<br />

[newport king]

well said moe. don't hate everything in life. just that bitch that tore your heart out and stomped on it like you meant nothing to her.

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[Death Metal Moe]

You might not even end up hating her.&nbsp; Dont just to any conclusions just yet about future plans.&nbsp; But if it IS over, you need to accept that.&nbsp; I won't give you the &quot;move on&quot; or &quot;bang anything you can&quot; bullshit, but acceptance is important.

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[Dirtybird12]

<p>Ask this guy - </p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><img height="337" src="http://www.digitalbranch.net/b2/wp-content/kurt_cobain3.jpg" width="268" border="0" /></p>

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[Lumber]

Patch...What Teach, Jenn &amp; Moe have stated so far, I am a strong believer in...As fucked up as it may sound,&nbsp;she is your teacher. Look at it that way. We are all here to learn. This DOES Not make her a bad person or you. Wish her well &amp; give yourself daily affirmations. Your good people...

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[Steels]

<font face="Verdana" style="font-size: 9px;">quote:</font><p>IMHO, Time doesnt do shit for many wounds, sadly.</p><p>So,
you deal as you can, holding the wound in front of you as a pointed
stick to remind yourself that you are alive, and use our wounds as
remindrs and guides of what is, and what is possible, respectively.</p><p> </p>

<img border="0" src="http://members.aol.com/miketeachr/esig" /><br />These
are such wise words.&nbsp; I feel the same way but never quite put it
in that context.&nbsp; I really like this short yet insightful post.<br />


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[Lumber]

It all comes down to Self Esteem &amp; Self Assurance. If you feel that way bro, you need work... It`s all about self. Not about &quot;Meism&quot;....Time to start lookin` deep Bro`...We`re not all hard guys..&nbsp; Sorry I did`nt quote the post...<img src="http://scripts.cgispy.com/image.cgi?u=jtodd" border="0" /> Patch...THIS POST IS NOT ABOUT YOU dude...

<font color=black>This message was edited by Lumber on 10-20-05 @ 1:21 AM</font>

[FUNKMAN]

<p><font size="1">We`re not all hard guys</font></p><p>except when we're in the &quot; I Love Ass &quot; thread</p>

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[Dirtybird12]

<p>ask this guy </p><p><img height="577" src="http://www.fatass.com/humor/oj/oj_spy2.jpg" width="384" border="0" /></p>

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[nate1000]

<p>With the next one. </p><p>&nbsp;</p>

[nate1000]

Although, I do like the F her sister idea.

[ShelleBink]

<font face="Verdana" style="font-size: 9px;">quote:</font><p>I
dated a guy once and I liked him, but I was never in love with him. I
tried several times to end things, but I've always been afraid of the
unknown, and he was a nice guy, and at least I had something to do on
weekends, and he never seemed to want to go away, so I stayed with him
way much longer than I should have. I was upset for a couple of days
when it finally ended for good, because, it's like you get used to
somebody being there, and then, when he's gone, it does feel like a
part of you is missing. With time I realized I never did love him and
it was pointless to stay friends because there really wasn't any reason
for it at all. When we did hang out it just reminded me of how awful
our relationship was, and I kick myself because of that wasted time
I'll never get back. </p><font color="black" /><br />Well
said, I've had this happen a few times before too.&nbsp; Just to add to
it, if I didn't spend my time with that person, I wouldn't be who I am
today; nor would I be grateful of what I have found in the person I'm
with now.<br />

[FUNKMAN]

time may heal the wound but you'll always miss the gash

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