Friend drunk dials me

[Alice S. Fuzzybutt]

<p>So Friday I made the mistake of answering the phone. It was a friend I've been trying to avoid. She was drunk and on her way to getting trashed. The phone conversation ending close to two hours later with her slurring &quot;I love you&quot; and her justifying herself getting drunk because she was molested as a child and wants to forget. She's 50 years old.</p><p>She always does this to me and I'm fed up. I don't like hanging out with her because she gets out of hand drunk, like she needs help in the ladies room pulling her pants back up.</p><p>Now she wants me to come and stay with her some future weekend. How do I get out of this?</p>

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[mdr55]

<p>Is she Hot???</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Have you told her how you feel
about her calling you and stuff. And told her to fuck off? Seems to me
like you're too nice and she knows that she can call you whenever to
have an ear to listen to.<br />
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[Death Metal Moe]

<font style="font-size: 9px" face="Verdana">quote: </font><p>Is she Hot???</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Have you told her how you feel about her calling you and stuff. And told her to fuck off? Seems to me like you're too nice and she knows that she can call you whenever to have an ear to listen to.<br /></p><br />An ear to listen to?&nbsp; Yea... wait what?

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[Death Metal Moe]

But seriously, you are a nice person Fuzzybutt.&nbsp; Maybe to a fault with your friend?&nbsp; No idea, but being upfront may be your best bet.&nbsp; If a friend says to her &quot;I don't think I want to see you that much anymore because of your drinking&quot; maybe it will make her stop and think.&nbsp;

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[JPMNICK]

<p>thats actually great advice from Moe. i think you should go somewhere down that line. You ignoring her is just going to make her fall deeper into drinking because she is going to think everyone ignores her. </p><p>&nbsp;</p>


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[Death Metal Moe]

<font style="font-size: 9px" face="Verdana">quote: </font><p>thats actually great advice from Moe. i think you should go somewhere down that line. You ignoring her is just going to make her fall deeper into drinking because she is going to think everyone ignores her. </p><p>&nbsp;</p><img src="http://home.comcast.net/~nickcontardo/rfnetjp.jpg" border="0" /> <br />Thanks, just my gut reaction.&nbsp; Only problem is everyone's problems with alchohol are different.&nbsp; Fuzzy knows her friend better than me and she may not react in a positive way to Fuzzy dropping an ultimatum.&nbsp; That's just how I would handle it.&nbsp; Also, after awhile, you have to identify that friends aren't healthy to keep around and cut some ties.&nbsp; I was forced to do it with a groupd of friends from my High School days.

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[mdr55]

<p>Here's what you do Fuzzy:</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Sit down with your
friend and discuss with her that you're concerned about her (her
drinking, the alleged reason for it, and that you want to help her but
you're tired of her bullcrap when she calls you when she's drunk). Tell
her that if she calls you when she's drunk that you'll just hang up the
phone on her (so that she knows you're serious) and that if she wants
to talk about stuff she has to be sober. Tell her that although you
like to help her, the help she needs is more than you can provide (you
might feel uncomfortable with some of the specific issues she might
share) but you'll support her in the process of getting help (be it the
AA fellowship or getting some alcohol/drug counseling). If she doesn't
want help or isn't ready, tell her to call you when she's ready to get
help. If not, tell her to have a nice life.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Let me know how it turns out.&nbsp;</p>

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[Death Metal Moe]

<font style="font-size: 9px" face="Verdana">quote: </font><font size="4">Caller ID?</font> <br />What,&nbsp; you'd just completely stop talking to a friend?&nbsp; Just drop them cold turkey?&nbsp; Sounds like Fuzzy's friend needs help, it's hard to just forget she exists.&nbsp; I don't think even I could be that cold.&nbsp; There would HAVE to be some final contact and a resolution or making them understand why we were parting ways.

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[Death Metal Moe]

He he, that's messed up.

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[Dougie Brootal]

<p>i agree with moe's honesty approach except sometimes if you tell someone that...</p><p><font size="1">&quot;I don't think I want to see you that much anymore because of your drinking&quot; ...</font></p><p><font size="1">i doesnt always have a positive effect.</font></p><p><font size="1">trust me.</font></p>

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[stickyfingers]

<font style="font-size: 9px" face="Verdana">quote: </font><font style="font-size: 9px" face="Verdana">quote: </font><font size="4">Caller ID?</font> <br />What,&nbsp; you'd just completely stop talking to a friend?&nbsp; Just drop them cold turkey?&nbsp; Sounds like Fuzzy's friend needs help, it's hard to just forget she exists.&nbsp; I don't think even I could be that cold.&nbsp; There would HAVE to be some final contact and a resolution or making them understand why we were parting ways. <br />More like...sorry I missed your call last night at 1:00 am. How are things going?

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[jax]

Do you&nbsp;hang out with her and enjoy her company when she's not drinking or is that the only time she calls?&nbsp; If you enjoy her friendship on some level, you can pick and choose what you are willing to particpate in.&nbsp; When she drunk dials say you're really not into a phone marathon just then and that you'll speak to her later.&nbsp; That way you can stay&nbsp;friends but not&nbsp;be&nbsp;burnt out on the depressing shit.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;Good luck.&nbsp; I had a similar experience.&nbsp;

[spoon]

<p>I'm sorry, did you just use the phrase &quot;dials me&quot;?&nbsp; When did Alice go Madonna and turn British?&nbsp; </p>

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[jax]

drunk dials/drunk dialing is as American as apple pie

[Steels]

<p>&quot;How do I get out of this?&quot;</p><p>I'm sure you'll come up with something.</p>

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[jax]

British would be rings me up pissed or something... piss telly's?

[ShelleBink]

<p>&nbsp;</p><font face="Verdana" style="font-size: 9px;">quote:</font><p>i agree with moe's honesty approach except sometimes if you tell someone that...</p><p><font size="1">&quot;I don't think I want to see you that much anymore because of your drinking&quot; ...</font></p><p><font size="1">i doesnt always have a positive effect.</font></p><p><font size="1">trust me.</font></p>

<p>&nbsp;</p><p>Agreed.&nbsp;</p><p>It could work, but I've also had to deal with negative effects of someone with a drinking problem.&nbsp; Only when this person had a liver problem did they open their eyes, and I'm forever grateful it wasn't more serious.&nbsp; If there is a drinking issue, there's potential for more underlying issues ((considering I don't know this person from a hole in the wall, I want to be as tactful as possible)).&nbsp; I hope she doesn't try to find the answers in the bottom of a bottle.<br /></p>

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[mdr55]

Fuzz. Does your friend work? If she does maybe her workplace has an EAP
that she can go to for assistance and they can refer her somewhere.<br />