What should I do... need help please!

[Capt.DeathWish]

<p>I am a software subcontractor, and the manger for the contract I work for completely and intentionally blew me off tonight and wasted about 4 hours of my personal time. I'm not sure why, and I'm not sure how to respond when I get to work on Monday.<br /><br />My manager and I have had a fairly decent personal repotior outside of work, meaning we've gone out to bars together and hung out at his house partaking in some illicit substances (weed) a couple of times. As of yesterday he decided to stop smoking and offered to sell to me what he had in reserve. With most of my contacts of this sort gratefully forgotten and left in my past, I was inclined to take him up on his offer because I don't know if I'll have the opportunity to partake in this sort venture, especially for the high grade of product being offered at such a discounted rate.<br /><br />I implied that it wouldn't happen before the next pay period (Wednesday), due to tight finances, but circumstance it behooved me to make this transaction transpire sooner rather than later (wanted to get it for a friends birthday party).<br /><br />Before leaving work this afternoon we made loose arrangements to meet up after work this evening, make the deal, and be on our own separate ways.&nbsp; When this was discussed I gave him several opportunities to opt out, saying if he had any plans or any some such that it would not be a problem and I would go on my merry way. He gave no inclination that this was the case and told me to give him a call around 6:30 to make sure that everything was still cool.<br /><br />When I rang him up at the specified time and asked him what was up, he gave no verbal response that he had other plans or didn't want to do so, but I got the impression from his tone that he wasn't terribly thrilled to make things happen tonight. As I was already on the metro on the way to his house and about to be underground, he asked me to give him a call back in 10 minutes. I paid it no mind and continued on into the city (and thus farther away from my home).<br /><br />When I finally got off of the subway at the stop nearest his home, nearly 20 minutes later, I gave him a call and got no answer. I figured him in the shower or something, so I started the 25 minute walk to his house. 10 blocks later I called him again and left a message to let him know that if something had come up to give me a call so I could stop walking in the freezing ass cold and take my happy ass home, or to give me his house number because I couldn't quite remember what it was.<br /><br />12 blocks later I am at the heart of Adams Morgan in D.C., wondering what the fuck?? I decide to stop at a bar and get a couple of beers to see if he will actually call back. During this time get the sneaking suspicion that I am getting seriously blown off, and that kinda makes me irate. After about half an hour I decide things are a bust and it's time to just go home. While I decide to call his cell phone once more, this time with my number blocked, just to see if he maybe just left his cell phone at work or if he was ignoring my calls.<br /><br />He answers on the first ring.<br /><br />At first he thinks I am someone else and sounds jubilant, but upon hearing who it is his demeanor sours. He tells me some half concocted story about how he is with a friend and halfway out of the city and can't meet up with me tonight -- that he just forgot about that we were supposed to get together and that he is sorry he missed my calls (and the voicemail I left) because he was changing clothes (yeah, right).<br /><br />At this point I am furious. I know the only reason he answered his phone is because he didn't think it was me, and his half-assed lie about his plans seems incredibly fabricated, but due to our professional relationship I tell him that everything is all good, and that I hope he has a good weekend and hang up.&nbsp; Herein my problem lies.<br /><br />What do I do when I see him Monday morning?<br /><br />Do I dress him down for all of my time he wasted? Do I call him out on deliberately lying to me? Do I m

[Tenbatsuzen]

<p>Don't get me wrong, aren't people who smoke weed supposed to be mellow and laid back?</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>It's four hours of wasted time,&nbsp; big deal.&nbsp; As for the wasted money on the metro, well... I dunno.&nbsp; It's a drug deal gone wrong, I'm sure he had his reasons, I would be &quot;What the fuck?&quot; on monday, but I wouldn't be totally harassing him.</p><p>&nbsp;</p>

[Capt.DeathWish]

It's not the five bucks I spent on metro fare that bothers me, it's the fact that someone I trusted lied to me and wasted the majority of a perfectly good Friday night. I don't know about you, but I have better things to do on a Friday night than waste 2 hours riding a train for a whole lotta nothing.<br />

[mikeyboy]

Let it go.&nbsp; Things happen.&nbsp; Maybe somebody came over who he couldn't explain his illegal activities to.&nbsp; Maybe he got cold feet about getting involved in some illicit activity.&nbsp; Who knows?&nbsp; In the grand scheme of things it really doesn't matter and isn't really worth dwelling on.

[Capt.DeathWish]

<p>While I understand that this situation really has no bearing on the outcome on my life, it still doesn't sit well with me to have someone just lie to my face and let them get away with it. This was someone I held in high regard that deliberately misled me and I happened to find out about it. </p><p>That, and I have trust issues with people, stemming from previous bad experiences, and am completely dissilliusioned with the people as a whole.</p><p>That being said, I really do appreciate the input and hopefully the advice I receive will help me choose my demeanour Monday morning.<br /></p>

[Doogie]

You lost my attention at software subcontractor. Try smoking some pot, that will chill you out.

[mdr55]

<p>So the dude didn't sell you the trees. Let it go. Maybe he smoked it for himself or flushed it down the toliet.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>The
fact that you went through all that stuff in the hope of getting some
and blaming the dude cuz it didn't happen, well that's a different
story. Besides you even stated that you felt something was up when you
were at the trainstop or something, you should have just turned back
home. But I guess the trees were calling your name.&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><br />
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[cupcakelove]

^{I don't see what the problem is.&nbsp; He didn't want to see you his pot, maybe he changed his mind.&nbsp; And as for the lost time, you were in the middle of Adams Morgan on a Friday night, boo hoo.&nbsp; You should have just went out and had a good time.<br />}

[MadMatt]

<p>This is the first time I've felt like a complete square on this board.&nbsp; </p><p>Isn't there a &quot;sorry dude, I flaked&quot; clause automatically built into pot deals?&nbsp; I would figure this might apply.</p>

[bobrobot]

<p><strong><font color="#000099">Forget it, Jake. It's Chinatown.</font></strong></p><p><img height="200" src="http://www.thrillingdetective.com/images/chinatownstill.GIF" width="470" border="0" /></p><p><em><strong><font color="#000099">&quot;You may think you know what you're dealing with but believe me, you don't.&quot;</font></strong></em></p><p><img height="311" src="http://www.thrillingdetective.com/images/2jakes.jpg" width="114" border="0" /></p><p>Tho I can't imagine&nbsp;someone pulling a more boneheaded move than doing a drug deal w/ an employee! If it&nbsp;went thru, you'd own his ass forever, being witness to him committing a criminal offense! </p>

[torker]

<p><strong><font size="1">What should I do... need help please!</font></strong> </p><p>Stay off the dope.</p>

[sr71blackbird]

You write like Shakespere dealing drugs!&nbsp; <br /><br />You could go in Monday and say to him in front of other people : &quot;Hey boss!&nbsp; What happened Friday night?&nbsp; Did you get rid of the pot?&quot;

[sr71blackbird]

<p> I don't know about you, but I have better things to do on a Friday night than waste 2 hours riding a train for a whole lotta nothing.<br /></p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Like getting wasted?</p>

[Justice4all]

<p>I understand what you are asking about. And yes I would bring it up with him. Privately. </p><p>Ask him what his problem was and why the sudden turn-around in his actions. He seemed pretty cool at first then he pulls this dick manuver. DEFINATELY tell him all the time you wasted to get to his house. Do NOT...however....re-offer to buy the weed off of him. Consider it a dead issue.</p><p>I would also back off from him about telling him if you smoke weed anymore. Just drop hints that you cut the stuff too. If he pulls a move like he did personally he might be the type to fuck you over professionally too. And with a drug record for a fireing that would kill ANY other jobs you might want to get.</p><p>Sorry man....you just need to distance yourself and pretty much treat him like a boss, not a buddy anymore. And let HIM prove to you that he deserves the friend treatment again, not the other way around.</p>

[fezident]

<p>I've had a few deals go south.&nbsp; </p><p>That whole business is shifty.&nbsp; Nothing you can do aboot it.</p><p>I had a dude that owed me a few bucks.&nbsp; Instead of paying back the cash, he offered to give me some Exstacy instead. I hadn't done that shit in, like, 10 years but, he was giving me a pretty sweet deal. 10 pills for 60 bucks (which is what I was owed)</p><p>I said okay.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>He came up with EVERY excuse imaginable.&nbsp; Really creative stuff.&nbsp; He dodged me for weeks.&nbsp; Told me he was going out to the ATM...then he wouldn't come back.&nbsp;It was in his&nbsp;other wallet (whatever <em>that</em> means).&nbsp;&nbsp;Yoda Yoda Yoda.&nbsp;</p><p>I'm never getting paid back or the pills.&nbsp; Whatever.&nbsp; I learned from it.&nbsp; It happens.</p>

[PhishHead]

anybody else reading this, felt like they were reading about someone talking about there significant other??&nbsp; I thought this guy was going to say &quot;we then met up and had man sex&quot; ....what the fuck dude...being lied to??&nbsp; He blew you off, big deal...he isnt your boyfriend or husband or some shit like that....everybodys friends blow them off, you just deal with it and say fuck it.&nbsp;&nbsp; Sorry for being rude, but this was just weird.<br />

[torker]

<strong>PhishHead</strong> wrote:<br />anybody else reading this, felt like they were reading about someone talking about there significant other??&nbsp;<br /><p><img height="200" src="http://www.thurrock.gov.uk/democracy/images/scrutiny_07.jpg" width="300" border="0" /></p>

[torker]

<p><em>Can I buy some pot from you?</em></p><p>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; <img height="72" src="http://hulce.com/AllPhotos/MoviePhotos/AnimalHouse/Pix/PintoPotThumb.jpg" width="50" border="0" /></p>

[bobrobot]

<p><img title="I'm Waiting For The Man" height="426" alt="I'm Waiting For The Man" src="http://i2.photobucket.com/albums/y46/bobogolem/VU1.jpg" width="500" border="0" /></p><p>I'm waiting for my man<br />Twenty-six dollars in my hand<br />Up to Lexington, 125<br />Feel sick and dirty, more dead than alive<br />I'm waiting for my man<br /><br />Hey, white boy, what you doin' uptown?<br />Hey, white boy, you chasin' our women around?<br />Oh pardon me sir, it's the furthest from my mind<br />I'm just lookin' for a dear, dear friend of mine<br />I'm waiting for my man<br /><br />Here he comes, he's all dressed in black<br />PR shoes and a big straw hat<br />He's never early, he's always late<br />First thing you learn is you always gotta wait<br />I'm waiting for my man<br /><br />Up to a Brownstone, up three flights of stairs<br />Everybody's pinned you, but nobody cares<br />He's got the works, gives you sweet taste<br />Ah then you gotta split because you got no time to waste<br />I'm waiting for my man<br /><br />Baby don't you holler, darlin' don't you bawl and shout<br />I'm feeling good, you know I'm gonna work it on out<br />I'm feeling good, I'm feeling oh so fine<br />Until tomorrow, but that's just some other time<br />I'm waiting for my man </p>

[Capt.DeathWish]

My apologies for my lengthy and rather melodramatic diatribe about what a douche my boss is. By the time I got around to posting I was knee deep in a bottle of irish whiskey and had been stewing on it for a couple of hours without the benefit anyone around I could just turn to and say &quot;Hey, my boss is a dickface&quot; and be done with it. By putting it to print for people who's opinions I respect yet know nothing about me, I managed to completely overanalyze the situation and was unnecessarily verbose, coming off like the creepy girlfriend who flips her shit when you forget to call. For that I humbly ask you not to judge too harshly as this is not indicative of my normal behavior.<br /><br />After a good nights sleep I can say that I readily know that with transactions of this nature things easily go awry, as they have for me many times in the past. I don't know why this one in particular got under my skin, but all said and done sometime shit happens. No point in making a big deal about it.<br /><br />Now, with this embarrassingly awkward introduction out of the way, I will slink back into the comforts of the ronfez.net shadows along with my fellow lurkers to re-emerge when this particular thread is gratefully forgotten.<br /><br />Good day sirs.<br /><br />B.A.C. 20229 <br />

[angelinad128]

Go in on Monday &amp; let it slide. He is your boss not just a regular co-worker. Do what you need to do &amp; fuck him.&nbsp;If he is a real man, he will talk to you about him being a dick.

[sr71blackbird]

<strong>Capt.DeathWish</strong> wrote:<br />My apologies for my lengthy and rather melodramatic diatribe about what a douche my boss is. By the time I got around to posting I was knee deep in a bottle of irish whiskey and had been stewing on it for a couple of hours without the benefit anyone around I could just turn to and say &quot;Hey, my boss is a dickface&quot; and be done with it. By putting it to print for people who's opinions I respect yet know nothing about me, I managed to completely overanalyze the situation and was unnecessarily verbose, coming off like the creepy girlfriend who flips her shit when you forget to call. For that I humbly ask you not to judge too harshly as this is not indicative of my normal behavior.<br /><br />After a good nights sleep I can say that I readily know that with transactions of this nature things easily go awry, as they have for me many times in the past. I don't know why this one in particular got under my skin, but all said and done sometime shit happens. No point in making a big deal about it.<br /><br />Now, with this embarrassingly awkward introduction out of the way, <strong><font color="#663333">I will slink back into the comforts of the ronfez.net shadows along with my fellow lurkers to re-emerge when this particular thread is gratefully forgotten.<br /></font></strong><br />Good day sirs.<br /><br />B.A.C. 20229 <br /><p>You should keep posting, you write very well!&nbsp; Seriously.&nbsp; </p>