Relationship length and sex

[keithy_19]

Hi. To be totally frank in this thread, I am a virgin. I have never really done anything that sexual in my life. (You can start your laughing now if you feel so inclined.) Anyway, the point is I'm in a relationship with a girl that I love. She is a virgin just like me. We've been dating for three months (which isn't too long at all) and the question of sex has come up. I was just looking for opinions/experiences you have or have had about sex in a relationship and how long you should or you did wait.

[CYYYFYYY]

<p>&nbsp;</p><div>If the relationship is going well why rush the sex.&nbsp; Yea it is good but you can have plenty of fun just making out.&nbsp; Sex will complicate things especially since you are both virgins.&nbsp; Wait longer.&nbsp; If you are going well there will be plenty of time for sex.</div>

[keithy_19]

Yeah. I told her that I don't want any pressure on her. I'm willing to wait a long time if she wants.

[ShelleBink]

My experience:&nbsp; I wish I waited longer before losing my virginity.&nbsp; I lost it to a guy who I thought I loved and now we barely speak.&nbsp; Now I'm with someone I love and the sex is fantastic.&nbsp; When you and your girlfriend are ready, I'd go for it then.&nbsp; But don't get caught up with the &quot;well we've been together for 'x' amount of months, I guess we have to now.&quot;&nbsp; Hope this helps... <br />

[keithy_19]

<p>That did help. I know I'm ready. But I don't want to rush her or make her uncomfortable or anything. I think she might be ready too. We're going to have a serious talk about it soon. It's weird. I'm really ok if she doesn't want to any time soon. </p>

[CYYYFYYY]

Make sure when you do... use protection

[keithy_19]

Of course. I'll use protection and be very, vey careful.

[bobrobot]

<p><strong><font size="1">Relationship length and sex</font></strong> </p><p><strong><font color="#000099">Yes (Married), 9&quot;, &amp; yes (regularly)</font></strong></p>

[Sheeplovr]

<p>I miss Dr Drew fez</p><p>all these questions would be solved if xm had some kinda Dr Drew Show&nbsp;</p>

[suggums]

now that adam c is gone from loveline XM might as well go for dr drew and get him a new show and sidekick on the other side of the radio fence<br />

[sr71blackbird]

<p>Just be carefull:</p><p><img height="354" src="http://www.health24.com/images/_content/Male_female_intercourse.jpg" width="500" border="0" /></p>

[FUNKMAN]

education is fun...

[Marc with a c]

<strong>sr71blackbird</strong> wrote:<br /><p>Just be carefull:</p><p><img height="354" src="http://www.health24.com/images/_content/Male_female_intercourse.jpg" width="500" border="0" /></p><p>is that really what a girls bladder looks like? interesting.</p><p>also free porn. thanks</p>

[Gvac]

<p>Obviously there's no right or wrong answer.&nbsp; I think you'll both know when the right time is.</p><p>Trying to plan it reminds me of married couples I know who actually schedule &quot;sex nights.&quot;</p><p>I can't think of anything sadder than that. &nbsp;&nbsp;</p>

[grlNIN]

<p>I would just like to point out to everyone the brilliance that is &quot;the vagina grips the penis&quot;.</p><p>Please, carry on.<br />
</p>

[sr71blackbird]

Whats up with &quot;the clitoris retracts&quot; ?

[SatCam]

<hr color="cococo" align="left"></font>Whats up with "the clitoris retracts" ?<hr color="cococo" align="left">

It knows you're afraid...

<span class=post_edited>This message was edited by SatCam on 2-28-06 @ 8:35 PM</span>

[Snoogans]

<p>&nbsp;</p><p><span class="postbody">Now I'm with someone I love and the sex is fantastic.</span>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>i think that warranted being restated&nbsp;</p>

[FUNKMAN]

<strong>sr71blackbird</strong> wrote:<br />Whats up with &quot;the clitoris retracts&quot; ? <p>just pucker your lips over it and start sucking...&nbsp; it will come back out</p>

[Bulldogcakes]

<p>&nbsp;</p><strong>keithy_19</strong> wrote:<br /><p>That did help. I know I'm ready. But I don't want to rush her or make her uncomfortable or anything. I think she might be ready too. We're going to have a serious talk about it soon. It's weird. I'm really ok if she doesn't want to any time soon. </p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Constructive criticism. You're talking about &quot;not wanting to rush&quot; yet you've been seeing her for 3 months. Which in all honesty, is a pretty long time. You do, of course want her to be ready. But as the guy you are expected to be the one who initiates these things, and you're coming across as timid and nervous. Which is normal for a virgin, but try to get past it. Be confident. Confidence is very sexy. </p><p>Or think of it this way, you're spending months obsessing over something which will probably only last about 20-30 seconds. &nbsp;</p><p>No, forget that. That doesn't help. Forget that. I never said that. &nbsp;</p>

[torker]

<p> To be totally frank in this thread, </p><p>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; <img height="200" src="http://www.pillclinic.com/images/levitra.jpg" width="175" border="0" /></p>

[Snoogans]

<p><img width="184" height="184" border="0" src="http://www.reggaecd.com/upload_media/product_images/main/phpqxw6Az.jpg" /></p><p>pop some of this in her soda and bam, you are in....literally&nbsp;</p>

[towny]

Two&nbsp;crazy kids&nbsp;dry-humping...a slice of american pie, just adorable.&nbsp; Dont sweat it, just play it&nbsp;cool you're gonna wonder why you even worried about it in the first place.&nbsp; When she's ready throw on a rubber and enjoy.

[Bulldogcakes]

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[ChrisTheCop]

<p>must be my age, i thought the thread was gonna be about how sex diminishes as a relationship goes on. which is my current problem. </p><p>everyone has a first time, and very few of us ended up with that partner for life. to think your 1st time was a waste since youre not still with that person is silly. the reason you and your partner are so good at sex now is because of those earlier partners. </p><p>my advice for keith19 would be a combination of the others above: wait til it feels right, but when it does, seize the day! you are the man, and unfortunately women still expect us to make the 1st move, no matter what they state to the contrary. and again, dont hype it up so much in your mind. sex is an expression of how you feel for that person today, not a promise that that feeling will last forever. </p><p>and remember:</p><p><img height="380" src="http://www.digitalobjective.com/images/holder/safety.jpg" width="351" border="0" /></p>

[A.J.]

<strong>sr71blackbird</strong> wrote:<br />Whats up with &quot;the clitoris retracts&quot; ? <p>Is that like &quot;The Dude abides&quot;?</p><p><img height="299" src="http://www.sptimes.com/2005/04/10/images/FLO_1_tf10dude_211401_0410.jpg" width="199" border="0" /></p>

[keithy_19]

<p>But as the guy you are expected to be the one who initiates these things, and you're coming across as timid and nervous. Which is normal for a virgin, but try to get past it. Be confident. Confidence is very sexy. </p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>I actually think I'm coming off as confident. I'm the one who brought it up. I'm the one who is staying very calm about it, no matter what she says. I'm being very mature and I'm actually proud that I'm handeling it this well. </p><p>Three months is a long time. Especially for us. We've been in previous relationships and it's never lasted or went anywhere. But with us, it's different. It's a good different though. </p><p>We talked today about it and we both agree that having sex is a big deal. Right now it is, in our relationship anyway. She feels that sex will do one of two things. Either 1) Bring us closer together, or 2) Pull us apart. I have a feeling that we will just become closer, since we have through everything we've already done. But I guess I'll never really know until the time comes. </p>

[Bulldogcakes]

<p>&nbsp;</p><strong>sr71blackbird</strong> wrote:<br />Whats up with &quot;the clitoris retracts&quot; ?<p>&nbsp;</p><p>Fuck the clitoris. <br /></p><blockquote /><p>&nbsp;</p>

[curtoid]

<blockquote style=""><strong>keithy_19</strong> wrote:<br />Hi. To be totally frank in this thread, I am a virgin. ... I'm in a relationship with a girl that I love. She is a virgin just like me.[/quote]<blockquote style=""><br />[/quote]<blockquote style="">Wait? Her name is &quot;Frank&quot; too?[/quote]<blockquote style=""><br />[/quote]<blockquote style="">Serious answer - there is no magic date on a calendar saying that you are old enough, or too young, or that you have to have dated someone for a certain amount of time - just doesn't work like that. Stop focusing on the virgin label - don't let that be a brand be what makes you make the decison. If there is any doubt with either of you then it's more than likely a good idea to ask yourselves why the doubt.[/quote]<p>&nbsp;</p>

[landarch]

<strong>sr71blackbird</strong> wrote:<br />Whats up with &quot;the clitoris retracts&quot; ? <p>That's why I can't ever find the damn thing!!</p>

[Arienette]

<p>everyone has a first time, and very few of us ended up with that partner for life. to think your 1st time was a waste since youre not still with that person is silly. the reason you and your partner are so good at sex now is because of those earlier partners. this is pretty much exactly what i was going to say.&nbsp; no one's ever completely ready for or sure about anything in life.&nbsp; you do your best.&nbsp; </p><p>i don't think that three months is really such a long time when you're young and a virgin.&nbsp; i think it's good that you guys are getting to know each other first.&nbsp; but everyone is too concerned too early with true love and thinking that they are going to be with the person they lose their virginity to forever.&nbsp; if you are respectful of one another, are safe, and enjoy the experience, i don't think it can be viewed as a mistake.&nbsp; </p><p>more importantly, once you get your first time out of the way, you'll probably realize that it wasn't as big of a deal as you always imagined it would be.&nbsp; it's a milestone, but it's not everything.</p>

[natedawg2471]

<p>Miss Fez Van Vainey</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>If your chick is a little nervous, I'll go first to ease the tension</p>