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Don Stugots
03-30-2006, 08:16 PM
This post is for anyone that has lost someone close to them. This is for anyone that had to watch someone that they love wilt away right in front of their eyes and could do nothing to help.

If this post is incohernant babble or deamed to be inappropriate for this message board, then I offer my most sincerest apologizes.

Tell your loved ones that you love them. Peace in the streets.

On Monday my Grandmother, Grammy, went to the hospital with a terrible pain in her lower back. At 1.00 am my Mom left her in her room and she was upbeat, happy, feeling better, laughing. At 6.30 am Tuesday, my Mom gets a call from the hospital saying that Grammy had 2 seziures and is now non-responsive.

When I got there at 12.30 PM Tuesday, she was out for 6 hours in a coma. i started to ask questions and I was shocked that they knew nothing.

Now, tonight (Thursday), she is still in her coma or altered state of conscienceness as they hospital people feel more comfortable saying. She is now getting worse. Her kidneys are failing, she has developed phnemonia, she needed to have a blood line put in to get her blood pressure back to a normal. Plus the reason she had the back pain, bacterial meningitus thourgh out her spine and a possible heart attack. Needless to say that it doenst look good at all. If she does wake up there is no way to know what shape she will be in.

The best is they still dont know why or how this happened. They will not say why she is in her coma. All they will say is when visiting hours are up so that we can leave. Well tonight the secuirty guard got a little piece of my mind. I told him that when he sees me or my family in the room crying, saying a prayer, combing Grammy's hair it would be in his best interestes to just keep walking since I am in no mood for his rules. As far as he needs to know that when he sees me just think about the theme song to Laverne and Shirley "give us any rule we'll break it", and take his rules and shove em striaght up his ass or to try to toss me into hospital jail. He then apologized for his rudeness.

But now my family and I are faced with the fact that Grammy is not going to come home (barring a miracle). I knew one day that this would come to pass, since it is a part of life. You always think there is time. There will always be time. There will be one more day. You take the days for granted. You take the chances that you get to see or to talk to the people that you care about for granted. You dont mean to do it, you just do it, it is a part of life.

I love my Grammy. She helpes my mom raise my sister and me. She always told us right from wrong. She covered for me when I put a dent in the car, or came in late. She would always make me something to eat if I came home from work too late. She was just there when we needed her. She will never be forgotten by any of us, and she will always be loved. Words cannot express how much she means to me.

It is times like these you put things in prespective in your life. Does the mindless and endless pursuit for material items matter? Does the size of my truck matter? Is a big truck like mine necessary for everyday life? Does it matter what people think? Does the square footage of my apartment or house matter? Does it matter how big our wedding is? Does matter when or if we have kids? The answer to these questions are all NO.

None of those things really matter in the grand scheme of things. What matters is finding what makes you happy and going with it. Wheather it is music, your own business, music, comedy, etc. Do it with all the passion that you can muster. But, do it for yourself and not to please others or to compete wit others.

I pray tonigth that tomorrow morning when I go back to the hospital I will see Grammy sitting up in her bed smiling. I know that it is not possible, but I will pray for it anyway. I love you Grammy to me, your other grandkids, and your great-grandkids, you were the best and we will miss you more than you will know.

tele7
03-30-2006, 09:03 PM
<p>I will pray for that miracle as well.&nbsp; I went through the same thing a few years ago.&nbsp; Just by the way you speak of your Grandmother, I'm sure she's very proud of you.&nbsp; </p><p>Best Wishes</p>

WhistlePig
03-31-2006, 10:14 AM
It's a shame something tragic has to happen to put life in the right perspective.
At least you had this wonderful woman in your life for as long as you did, and she
had you. I'm sure she knew how much you loved her.
I'll be praying for a miracle as well. Take care, man.

Gvac
03-31-2006, 01:15 PM
<p>I know exactly how you feel about your grandmother.&nbsp; I lost mine on Christmas morning of 2002.&nbsp; One of the greatest injustices of life was having to witness my grandmother, who lived her entire life with pride and dignity, wither away to nothing and die in the most undignified way.&nbsp; </p><p>You're also right about our daily pursuit of silly materialistic things.&nbsp; Only when something awful happens do we realize what's truly important in life. &nbsp;</p><p>I'll wish for the best for your family, and I know I don't have to tell you to cherish the wonderful memories you have of your grandma. &nbsp; &nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p>

Bulldogcakes
03-31-2006, 04:16 PM
Good luck, Stugots. It happens to all of us. It's just part of living. <br />

Don Stugots
03-31-2006, 05:28 PM
thanks for the prayers and well whishes.
I am so sorry for the loss that you have flet in your lives.

I will be using this heartache to love a better life from here on out, and to be a better person.

The outlook today:

She is still in her coma. She is producing urine. She still looks bad. On Monday, we have a meeting set up on Monday with the team of Docs that are on her case. There we will meet the grief counsler that will help us with things. The counsler will also help us with the possiblilty of if she returns to us, what shape she will be in.

sr71blackbird
03-31-2006, 05:34 PM
Good luck, I hope everything turns out for the best! She sounds like a nice person and so do you, so she did good!&nbsp;

Don Stugots
04-05-2006, 06:03 PM
You all might be interested to know that tonight when I went to the hospital my grammy was awake!! AWAKE!! She looked at us and smiled as best she could. She will take a log time to recover, but she isnt leaving us anytime soon. I am not ashamed to say that as I am writing this I am crying because I am so happy. Thanks everyone for listening to me, and offering your well wishes and prayers. It means alot. thank you. I will keep you all posted as things develop.

Death Metal Moe
04-05-2006, 06:05 PM
<p>Wow, that's a completel 180 from where you were saying she was a few days ago.</p><p>I'm glad to hear things sound more optimistic.&nbsp; Good luck to you, your family and your grandma.&nbsp; </p>

Don Stugots
04-05-2006, 06:09 PM
In all honesty Moe, it didnt look good at all, and the docs were telling us to expect the worst, and that the odds were against to even come out. they were even talking to us about the food tube option, which as a family we said no way. My mom and sister even went so far as to pick out a burial outfit. it might seam mean, or cruel but that is what they were telling us to do.

Gvac
04-05-2006, 06:15 PM
Absolutely wonderful news, Stugots.&nbsp; Glad to hear Grandma is on
the road to recovery.&nbsp; When she's feeling better make sure you let
her know what a scare she gave everyone and how much you love her.<br />

WhistlePig
04-05-2006, 07:44 PM
This is great news! I'm so happy for you.

Alice S. Fuzzybutt
04-05-2006, 08:14 PM
<p>I'm so happy for you! Cherish this time. Be with her and have a good time! I never got to say goodbye to my dad. Spend as much time with her as you can!!!! You will appreciate this time as you get older.</p>

FUNKMAN
04-05-2006, 08:23 PM
truly a blessing and a joy for anyone to be able to share any time with a grandparent. hope all works out for the best...

Bulldogcakes
04-07-2006, 03:58 PM
<p><img width="350" height="226" border="0" src="http://www.celebration-of-light.com/fireworks/images/fireworks_image.jpg" />&nbsp;</p><p><img width="360" height="270" border="0" src="http://stuff.mit.edu/people/ec_mok/www/henry/2003%20song%20contest%20celebration.jpg" /></p>

Terragen
04-14-2006, 12:39 PM
<p>I find comfort in music, and in certain writings. Check out Joseph
Campbell's The Power of Myth, his general philosophy is enlightening,
as is his understanding of life and death and how to &quot;Follow Your Bliss&quot;</p><p>Also &quot;A Course in Miracles&quot; is supposed to be amazingly helpful. </p><p>/Just my 2 cents&nbsp;</p>

Don Stugots
06-05-2006, 05:24 PM
i got the news last night. On June 15th my Grammy is coming home!!! i was with her on Saturday and she is her old self, about 95% really but she is great.

Thanks to everyone here that prayed and sent their well wishes. Also, a lesson learned here: the docs at STATEN ISLAND UNI. NORTH DONT KNOW WHAT THEY ARE DOING. they had us making arrangements because she wasnt going to make it through the night. well after being in a different facility for only 3 weeks she is great. she is walking, talking, cursing up a storm.

thanks again to all.

mikeyboy
06-05-2006, 05:26 PM
That'e excellent news!&nbsp; I'm very happy for you.

FUNKMAN
06-05-2006, 05:30 PM
Very Nice Stugots!&nbsp;Continued Health!!!

tele7
06-05-2006, 05:36 PM
That's great news Stugots!&nbsp; Very happy for you and yours.

MadMatt
06-05-2006, 05:39 PM
<p><font size="1">I am very happy for you Stugots and wish your Grandmother all the best and continued recovery.&nbsp; </font></p><p><font size="1">Sorry I didn't catch this the first time around, but I am glad things are going well.&nbsp; My family went through something similar not too long ago, although the outcome was different.&nbsp; At least we got additional time.</font></p><p><font size="1">Remember to tell her you love her every chance you get.</font></p>

PapaBear
06-05-2006, 05:40 PM
I missed it the first time around, too. That's great news! Give her a great big RonFez.net hug.

Death Metal Moe
06-05-2006, 05:41 PM
Just wanted to add to the Congrats man.&nbsp; Great news.

OGC
06-05-2006, 05:49 PM
<p><font face="times new roman,times,serif" size="3">That is fantastic news. I am sure you will make good use of the &quot;bonus&quot; time that your Grandma has gotten. </font></p><p><font face="times new roman,times,serif" size="3">My Dad was in the hospital recovering from colon cancer surgery last fall when the Dr told us that he would be amazed if my Dad had another year left. They were pretty much buttoning him up so that we could take him home and make the best of the time he had left. </font></p><p><font face="times new roman,times,serif" size="3">Well, here we are at about 8 months and my Dad&nbsp; is feeling better than he has in years and the Drs are amazed. Of course there are no promises or guarantees, but he is livving each day to it's fullest and I know I certainly am cherishing the time I am able to spend with him that I didn't expect to have.</font></p><p><font face="times new roman,times,serif" size="3">It is a corny old saying but life really is too short to sweat the small things, have fun, tell people you love them, and live each day as if it is the last.</font></p>

Don Stugots
06-05-2006, 05:54 PM
<hr color="cococo" align="left"></font><strong>richg0404</strong> wrote:<br><p><font face="times new roman,times,serif" size="3">That is fantastic news. I am sure you will make good use of the "bonus" time that your Grandma has gotten. </font></p><p><font face="times new roman,times,serif" size="3">My Dad was in the hospital recovering from colon cancer surgery last fall when the Dr told us that he would be amazed if my Dad had another year left. They were pretty much buttoning him up so that we could take him home and make the best of the time he had left. </font></p><p><font face="times new roman,times,serif" size="3">Well, here we are at about 8 months and my Dad is feeling better than he has in years and the Drs are amazed. Of course there are no promises or guarantees, but he is livving each day to it's fullest and I know I certainly am cherishing the time I am able to spend with him that I didn't expect to have.</font></p><p><font face="times new roman,times,serif" size="3">It is a corny old saying but life really is too short to sweat the small things, have fun, tell people you love them, and live each day as if it is the last.</font></p><hr color="cococo" align="left"><p></p>


the whole situation has change how i see things in life.

MATT sorry to hear that things didnt work out for your family. i will be lighting a candle for you and yours in the AM in St. Pats. i go every Tuesday since my grammy was in the hospital.

MadMatt
06-05-2006, 06:03 PM
<font size="1">Thanks Stugots, that is very kind of you.&nbsp; Your family is in my prayers as well</font> <img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/smile.gif" border="0" />

Gvac
06-06-2006, 12:55 PM
<p>Wonderful news indeed, Stugots.&nbsp; </p><p>I hope you and your family are blessed with many more years with your Grandmother. &nbsp;&nbsp;</p>

Friday
06-06-2006, 07:11 PM
<p>Hey...</p><p>&nbsp;I just found this thread and I want to send you
tons of hugs ... belated considering what you went through... but the
latest news is fantastic.&nbsp; </p><p>Sometimes we get more time that
we expect... take every moment as a gift.&nbsp; Enjoy the little
things... absorb every detail of them... and make the most of every
day.&nbsp; Life really is a gift.&nbsp; And sometimes it takes
something like this to remind us. &nbsp;</p><p>Best wishes to Grammy for continued recovery and smiles!&nbsp; :)</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>~ Tracey Lynne&nbsp;</p>

gozzy91
06-07-2006, 01:40 PM
<p>So my bitch dumped me b/c i farted!</p><p>WTF!&nbsp; Can u believe this petty broad????&nbsp; Over something stupid like that.&nbsp;&nbsp; That's childish right????&nbsp; We were hitting it off having sex, unfortunately one slipped out and she just pulls off and gets dressed can u believe that?</p><p>What's ur take?</p>

gozzy91
06-07-2006, 01:44 PM
<img title="fart" height="200" alt="fart" src="http://www.lifeisajoke.com/pictures373_html.htm" width="317" border="0" />

cougarjake13
06-07-2006, 02:03 PM
<strong>gozzy91</strong> wrote:<br /><p>So my bitch dumped me b/c i farted!</p><p>WTF!&nbsp; Can u believe this petty broad????&nbsp; Over something stupid like that.&nbsp;&nbsp; That's childish right????&nbsp; We were hitting it off having sex, unfortunately one slipped out and she just pulls off and gets dressed can u believe that?</p><p>What's ur take?</p><p>was it an earth shattering kaboom ??? </p><p>maybe she only likes cleveland steamers and golden showers</p><p><img src="http://home.comcast.net/~bob80/RFnetCougarJake13.jpg" border="0" /></p>