Here I go again on my own..

[Patches]

<p>Like a drifter.... Scorpions rock.</p><p>Anyway, I had a conversation with this guy I know in some dive I hang out in the other night- and it turns out we both admitted we can't be alone- he is married, and doesn't even remember not having a girlfriend or wife, and over the last 8 years, I've had 3 girlfriends for a cumulative 7 years, and about 8 months.&nbsp; Ugh.</p><p>Anyway, as fate would have it, I ended up breaking up with my girlfriend just a few days later- and believe me- this one is sticking.&nbsp; So here I am, my dependent ass thrown back out there for the wolves..</p><p>Anyone else like that?&nbsp; Hate being on your own?&nbsp; Is it a complete dependency complex, or just enjoy sharing your life with someone?&nbsp; </p>

[Death Metal Moe]

<p>Not like that at all.</p>

[Plethora]

<p>&nbsp;</p><strong>Patches</strong> wrote:<br /><p><strong>Like a drifter.... Scorpions rock.</strong></p><p>Anyway, I had a conversation with this guy I know in some dive I hang out in the other night- and it turns out we both admitted we can't be alone- he is married, and doesn't even remember not having a girlfriend or wife, and over the last 8 years, I've had 3 girlfriends for a cumulative 7 years, and about 8 months. Ugh.</p><p>Anyway, as fate would have it, I ended up breaking up with my girlfriend just a few days later- and believe me- this one is sticking. So here I am, my dependent ass thrown back out there for the wolves..</p><p>Anyone else like that? Hate being on your own? Is it a complete dependency complex, or just enjoy sharing your life with someone? </p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Sadly, there is some section of my brain which is devoted to recalling that it was in fact <a href="http://www.80smusiclyrics.com/artists/whitesnake.htm" target="_blank">Whitesnake</a> that penned these poignant words.&nbsp; I believe it is somewhere near the part that can clearly recall the complete plots of every episode of Three's Company and Hogan's Heroes.</p>

[Patches]

<p>AH CRAP</p><p>With all this Hurricane (which I will rock you like) talk with the upcoming season, I might have got my Shit band off track... </p><p>And Moe, I have yet another friend (yeah, so far I am up to 2), who is the opposite as the first one..&nbsp; He has never had a girlfriend in his life- he's had plent of oppurtunities, but just prefers never seeing someone again a 2nd time.&nbsp; That can't be good either though, right?&nbsp; Petrified of any commitment vs. Petrified of being alone?&nbsp; There has to&nbsp;be a happy medium..</p>

[Don Stugots]

Patches, at different times in my life I was single and hated, single and loved it, married and hated it and married and loved it.

take comfort in being alone. make peace with yourself and everything around you. take a long drive somewhere grab some dinner and drive home. I have done it plenty of times. there is a diner up in poughkepsie that is nice on a sunday afternoon. once you start living for yourself and feeling good with being alone you will a better partner in a relationship.

I was a horrible husband and boyfriend and i was consumed with hate, self hate, and self doubt. Once i became at ease with myself and made peace with my demons I was a better man. i feel like i now can be a better husband than at any other time in my life.

[Alice S. Fuzzybutt]

<p>I know this is the first time I've ever really answered a post in my own forum, but I liked being married. I didn't necessarily like WHO I was married to, but I did like being paired up.</p><p>I'm sorry for your loss Patches. Things may be grey now but they will turn around. You'll meet a Ms. Patches soon.</p>

[MHasegawa]

<p>&nbsp;</p><strong>Patches</strong> wrote:<br /><br /><p>Anyone else like that? Hate being on your own? Is it a complete dependency complex, or just enjoy sharing your life with someone? </p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Hell no. Personally I like the feeling of only worrying and caring about myself, but im a pessimistic and cynical douche, i dont have strength in numbers.<br /></p>

[Patches]

<strong>Alice S. Fuzzybutt</strong> wrote:<br /><p>I'm sorry for your loss Patches. Things may be grey now but they will turn around. You'll meet a Ms. Patches soon.</p><p>Oh, it's quite alright- this was a long time coming, and I know this is going to be better for everyone.&nbsp; I&nbsp; just wanted to see who out there was like I am, and who is quite the opposite- just a jumping point for conversation on I guess...</p><p>And 'Ms. Patches' is pretty damn funny.</p>

[Death Metal Moe]

<strong>Patches</strong> wrote: <p>And Moe, I have yet another friend (yeah, so far I am up to 2), who is the opposite as the first one..&nbsp; He has never had a girlfriend in his life- he's had plent of oppurtunities, but just prefers never seeing someone again a 2nd time.&nbsp; That can't be good either though, right?&nbsp; Petrified of any commitment vs. Petrified of being alone?&nbsp; There has to&nbsp;be a happy medium..</p><p>I think you're right about that.&nbsp; We certianly shouldn't live a completely solitary life either.&nbsp; Yes, a happy medium would be nice but as we all learn, life isn't anywhere near perfect and that happy medium is usually out of reach.</p><p>I do know that some people need to be alone and some need to be with others.&nbsp; I personally enjoy spending time with my friends and family but I also NEED my alone time.&nbsp; Just the way I am.</p>

[angelinad128]

I'm going through something like that right now. And like Alice said, I too loved being married, just not who&nbsp;the person I was with was turning into. I'm single after 4 years. It's great for awhile, but it is much better doing things as a double rather than a singlel.&nbsp; Some people don't get it that you can be in a relaitonship &amp; have plenty of &quot;my time&quot;.&nbsp;

[Death Metal Moe]

<strong>angelinad128</strong> wrote:<br />I'm going through something like that right now. And like Alice said, I too loved being married, just not who&nbsp;the person I was with was turning into. I'm single after 4 years. It's great for awhile, but it is much better doing things as a double rather than a singlel.&nbsp; Some people don't get it that you can be in a relaitonship &amp; have plenty of &quot;my time&quot;.&nbsp; <p>Yea, going places all alone does suck sometimes.&nbsp; And or course it does get lonley and old.&nbsp; But then there's other end of the spectrum where&nbsp;some people latch onto their boyfriend/girlfriend, have no life outside them and are dependent on them.&nbsp; That sucks too.&nbsp; It's like some people don't even develop their own personalities sometimes.&nbsp; Very weird.</p>

[Jennitalia]

i'm the same way.&nbsp; i just hate the thought of being alone, even though i tend to be a bit of a loner.&nbsp; for some reason, when i'm in between boyfriends, i tend to worry that i'll never find somebody.&nbsp;&nbsp;i even stayed with a guy for about 3 years because even though i was unhappy, i thought it was better than being alone.&nbsp; quite pathetic.

[Don Stugots]

<hr color="cococo" align="left"></font><strong>Death Metal Moe</strong> wrote:<br><strong>angelinad128</strong> wrote:<br />I'm going through something like that right now. And like Alice said, I too loved being married, just not who the person I was with was turning into. I'm single after 4 years. It's great for awhile, but it is much better doing things as a double rather than a singlel. Some people don't get it that you can be in a relaitonship & have plenty of "my time". <p>Yea, going places all alone does suck sometimes. And or course it does get lonley and old. But then there's other end of the spectrum where some people latch onto their boyfriend/girlfriend, have no life outside them and are dependent on them. That sucks too. It's like some people don't even develop their own personalities sometimes. Very weird.</p><hr color="cococo" align="left"><p></p>

i was pretty comfortable being alone. the only thing i could never get over was going to the movies by myself when i was single. for some reason it would irk me. But being comfortable with myself when single did take time.

[A.J.]

Anyone else like that?&nbsp; Hate being on your own?&nbsp; <p>&nbsp;</p><p>Nope.&nbsp; I prefer it.</p>

<span class=post_edited>This message was edited by A.J. on 5-16-06 @ 12:24 PM</span>

[jeffdwright2001]

<p>The best part about being alone is you get to talk to yourself. <img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/wacko.gif" border="0" /></p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Of course, in my first marriage I spent the better (or worst)&nbsp;part of 7 years talking to myself.</p>

[angelinad128]

<strong>Jennitalia</strong> wrote:<br />i'm the same way.&nbsp; i just hate the thought of being alone, even though i tend to be a bit of a loner.&nbsp; for some reason, when i'm in between boyfriends, i tend to worry that i'll never find somebody.&nbsp;&nbsp;i even stayed with a guy for about 3 years because even though i was unhappy, i thought it was better than being alone.&nbsp; quite pathetic. <p>No, Not pathetic at all. Very understanable</p>

[angelinad128]

<strong>STUGOTS1</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>Death Metal Moe</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>angelinad128</strong> wrote:<br />I'm going through something like that right now. And like Alice said, I too loved being married, just not who the person I was with was turning into. I'm single after 4 years. It's great for awhile, but it is much better doing things as a double rather than a singlel. Some people don't get it that you can be in a relaitonship &amp; have plenty of &quot;my time&quot;. <p>Yea, going places all alone does suck sometimes. And or course it does get lonley and old. But then there's other end of the spectrum where some people latch onto their boyfriend/girlfriend, have no life outside them and are dependent on them. That sucks too. It's like some people don't even develop their own personalities sometimes. Very weird.</p><p>&nbsp;</p>i was pretty comfortable being alone. the only thing i could never get over was going to the movies by myself when i was single. for some reason it would irk me. But being comfortable with myself when single did take time. <p>Actually going to the movies by yourself is fun. LOL That's the only place where commenting out loud &amp; by yourself is safe! </p>

[Patches]

<strong>Jennitalia</strong> wrote:<br />i'm the same way.&nbsp; i just hate the thought of being alone, even though i tend to be a bit of a loner.&nbsp; for some reason, when i'm in between boyfriends, i tend to worry that i'll never find somebody.&nbsp;&nbsp;i even stayed with a guy for about 3 years because even though i was unhappy, i thought it was better than being alone.&nbsp; quite pathetic. <p>Actually, she said the reason was a really bad chicken francese recipe <img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/laugh.gif" border="0" />&nbsp; kidding, of course.</p><p>Anyway, I am kind of looking forward to not being attached for a while.&nbsp; It could be fun- there is some things liberating about it..&nbsp;There is going to be TONS of shit I am going to miss&nbsp; of course, and I am sure I'll get pretty sad now and again, but that's life I guess.&nbsp; </p>

[Don Stugots]

i was with someone that i almost married just so i wouldnt be alone. UUGGGHHH did i hate myself when i was with her. she hated anything i liked. she hated when i made jokes even. that bitch. it is the worse feeling in the world. i am so happy that i found myself and in turn found my chick. i have never been so happy in my life. not to brag about out. it took alot of work on my part to get through my insecurities and accept my short comings (not what you think pervs), but once i did i saw such a change in myself and in how people treated me.

[Patches]

<strong>STUGOTS1</strong> wrote:<br />i was with someone that i almost married just so i wouldnt be alone. UUGGGHHH did i hate myself when i was with her. she hated anything i liked. she hated when i made jokes even. that bitch. it is the worse feeling in the world. i am so happy that i found myself and in turn found my chick. i have never been so happy in my life. not to brag about out. it took alot of work on my part to get through my insecurities and accept my short comings (not what you think pervs), but once i did i saw such a change in myself and in how people treated me. <p>Some of that sounds disturbingly familiar... wow...</p>

[Don Stugots]

<hr color="cococo" align="left"></font><strong>Patches</strong> wrote:<br><strong>STUGOTS1</strong> wrote:<br />i was with someone that i almost married just so i wouldnt be alone. UUGGGHHH did i hate myself when i was with her. she hated anything i liked. she hated when i made jokes even. that bitch. it is the worse feeling in the world. i am so happy that i found myself and in turn found my chick. i have never been so happy in my life. not to brag about out. it took alot of work on my part to get through my insecurities and accept my short comings (not what you think pervs), but once i did i saw such a change in myself and in how people treated me. <p>Some of that sounds disturbingly familiar... wow...</p><hr color="cococo" align="left"><p></p>


you are not the only one. once in awhile i still feel it and i dont go to certain functions. my chick understands and doesnt give me a hard time about it, but i make sure that it doesnt get out of hand.

[reeshy]

<p>I am alone through no choice of my own...yet it ain't bad!!!!!</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>When I lost my wife...I thought the world had come to and end...but it didn't!!!</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Things slowly got better....I haven't met anyone to match my wife but I have some people in my life that add to it....and I get laid now and then too!!!!!!</p>

[Ogre]

<p>I am terrified of growing old alone.</p>

[narc]

Even if I'm with someone, I need my time alone, or I go nuts, and unfortunately take it out on them, or start quoting Skynyrd. I'm also pickier than I should be. I usually don't go for most girls. So lots of time alone. I don't want to go through the rest of life alone, but I also don't want to fuck up my life and someone else's life horribly by choosing wrong.

[Don Stugots]

<hr color="cococo" align="left"></font><strong>narc</strong> wrote:<br>Even if I'm with someone, I need my time alone, or I go nuts, and unfortunately take it out on them, or start quoting Skynyrd. I'm also pickier than I should be. I usually don't go for most girls. So lots of time alone. I don't want to go through the rest of life alone, but I also don't want to fuck up my life and someone else's life horribly by choosing wrong. <hr color="cococo" align="left"><p></p>

tell me about, one ex wife, and one ex finance, we broke it off 4 months beforee we were to get married. she had a huge drinking problem. i am lucky now, my chick is cool, we ever known each other for a long time before we even dated. she knows everything about me so there was nothing to hide from her. she also knows how i need my alone time to just decompress and work out my anexity. i did luck out on this one.

[Furtherman]

<strong>narc</strong> wrote:<br />Even if I'm with someone, I need my time alone, or I go nuts, and unfortunately take it out on them, or start quoting Skynyrd.&nbsp; <p>Tuesday's gone with the wind darlin'!</p><p>What?</p><p>Oooh that smell!</p><p>What smell?</p><p>A Southern man don't need him around anyhow!</p><p>Who?</p>