advice?

[angeladi]

so i have this "friend" in my life right and hes a sweet guy and all, and he wants to be my boyfriend, only problem is he loves to drink and party, and well i dont like that about him, but hes willing to change and drop the friends that he has, stop getting drunk and well streighten out............. but is it worth it?? i mean do guys really change for a girl or do they just lie and say the do?? HELP?????????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! he knows cause i told him i dont want him to change for me he needs to change for him, and he says he wants to for him and because he says he dosent want to "Miss his Boat" whatever that means, and he dosent want to loose me, what do u all think??

[terry1979]

<strong>angeladi</strong> wrote:<br />&quot;Miss his Boat&quot; whatever that means <p>that means when he misses his chance for something....he is drawing a parallel to actually&nbsp;being scheduled to be&nbsp;on a boat to depart to or from some place, then running late for some reason or another and having the boat leave without him to the possibility of being too late for your heart and hence not getting a chance to be in a relationship with you.</p><p>don't mention the help...anytime.</p>

[PhishHead]

<p>Between the grammatical and spelling errors, my eyes have popped out of their sockets. </p>

[KC2OSO]

<p>He sounds like a winner.&nbsp; Go for it!</p>

[angeladi]

is that a sarcastic remark &quot;sounds like a winner&quot; or r u being serious?

[Death Metal Moe]

Do you really want a guy with issues like this around your kid?

[Jennitalia]

<p>im sure his intentions are good, but most likely he wont change for you. Or, he'll just do it behind your back.&nbsp; you cant get people to change into who you want them to be.&nbsp;</p><p>why dont you just get to know this person a little more before you dive into a relationship.&nbsp; i mean, just last week you were writing about how heartbroken you were over a guy you were seeing.&nbsp; You dont need to have boyfriend to be happy.&nbsp;&nbsp; A boyfriend/relationship won't guarantee you happiness.</p>

<span class=post_edited>This message was edited by Jennitalia on 7-18-06 @ 1:34 PM</span>

[Furtherman]

<p>Same advice as last time - BE ALONE FOR A WHILE.&nbsp; </p><p>I mean c'mon - what kind of soap-opera life are you living?&nbsp; Relax, you are young.&nbsp; </p>

[Jujubees2]

<p>Like the old saying:</p><p>A man marries a women hoping tat she'll never change</p><p>A woman marries a man hoping she can change him.</p><p>Neither ever happens.</p>

[PhishHead]

<strong>Death Metal Moe</strong> wrote:<br />Do you really want a guy with issues like this around your kid? <p>She has a kid???&nbsp; I think I might have an aneurysm.</p>

[angeladi]

well first of all he wouldnt be around my son&nbsp;, because to this day no other guys have met him and they wont, i dont believe in bringing other guys around him, he has a father he dosent need to be confused at all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! as far as a boyfriend it sounds mean but i dont want one and he knows it. but he still wants to try, i cant controll that.

[PhishHead]

Couldn't you control it by just saying I don't want a boyfriend right now?&nbsp; If he really respects you and wants to be with you he won't push the issue any further.

[terry1979]

<strong>angeladi</strong> wrote:<br />&nbsp;as far as a boyfriend it sounds mean but i dont want one and he knows it. but he still wants to try, i cant controll that. <p>why?&nbsp; You can't say no?&nbsp;&nbsp;Give Moe your number, maybe he can finally get laid and stop being so damn self-ritgheous....</p>

[Jennitalia]

well then if you dont want a boyfriend, why are you stringing him along?&nbsp; And, why should he change for you if you say you don't want a boyfriend right now?&nbsp; Why all these relationship questions then?&nbsp; Two in a week, regarding two different guys.&nbsp; This may sound harsh, but you really need to grow up, build some self confidence, find out&nbsp;who you are&nbsp;and get your priorities in life straightened out.

<span class=post_edited>This message was edited by Jennitalia on 7-18-06 @ 2:01 PM</span>

[Furtherman]

Exactly.&nbsp; If you don't want one then why are you even asking advice?&nbsp; Straighten yourself out now or in a few years you'll be every man's headache.&nbsp;

[angeladi]

nevermind then, u guys are honest, but kinda mean,except for <div><span class="name"><font face="verdana" color="#000000" size="2"><strong>Jujubees2</strong></font></span></div>&nbsp;i should have signed on to this thing, but thanks anyways&nbsp;

[Furtherman]

<p>From what you write us darlin, it's obvious you need a little tough love.</p><p>No one likes a mirror held up to thier face, but trust us, one day you'll thank us.</p>

[Death Metal Moe]

I don't want your thanks or your hatred.&nbsp; You asked us for advice in a public forum a 2nd time.&nbsp; We gave it.

<span class=post_edited>This message was edited by Death Metal Moe on 7-18-06 @ 2:45 PM</span>

[angeladi]

ok,

[Death Metal Moe]

I also don't want you to go away from the board feeling like we ganged up on you.&nbsp; We do wish you the best, and everyone here gave you their honest opinions in hopes you would do the right thing.&nbsp; But as you know ultimately, only you know what will make you happy.

[walking joint]

you sure have alot of guys in your life.&nbsp; i thought i was in the same thread as last time or that 3 years have passed and that other guy was back.&nbsp;

[angeladi]

<p>WALKING JOINT: </p><p>i dont get it, what do u mean u were in the same thread, and 3 years passed?</p>

[PhishHead]

ok, this poster has got to be a sham.

[angeladi]

wat do you mean a sham?

[terry1979]

<strong>angeladi</strong> wrote:<br />wat do you mean a sham? <p>He is implying that you are fake, or &quot;not real&quot;.&nbsp; </p>

[terry1979]

<strong>angeladi</strong> wrote:<br />wat do you mean a sham? <p>He is implying that you are fake, or &quot;not real&quot;.&nbsp; </p>

[PhishHead]

thanks Terry, i was unable to think of anything that was not mean.

[angeladi]

how am i fake? i dont see any reason for anyone to say that. confused as hell, that i am but fake i dont think so, and as far as u not being able to come up with anything that wasnt &quot;mean&quot; what the hell did i ever do to you???? u have no reason to be mean to me,

[Jennitalia]

doesn't seem like she's the brightest bulb.

[terry1979]

relax hunny, no one is being mean.&nbsp; We're just fucking with you.&nbsp; I think it will help you a lot if you stop taking yourself so seriously, and writing a soap opera about every guy that goes in/out of your life.&nbsp; Just bring things down a notch and let us get to know you.&nbsp; For instance we know your 20, you have a kid, and you get way too attached to people way too fast.&nbsp; What else is there to know?&nbsp; Stop making every&nbsp; post so serious.