My wife left me & took my daughter [Archive]

BoondockSaint

07-22-2006, 05:59 PM

Ah man, Bobo.  I'm sorry to hear that.  I hope everything works out for you.  And like Stugots said, if you just need to get shit off your chest or air shit out, shoot me a PM.  I'm more than willing to do what I can for a budday.  Good luck.

newport king

07-22-2006, 06:07 PM

like for good? or they went out somewhere?was anything leading up to this or you just found a "dear <strike>john</strike> bobo" letter?

mikeyboy

07-22-2006, 06:07 PM

I'm really sorry to hear that, Bobo.  We're here for you, buddy.

FUNKMAN

07-22-2006, 06:09 PM

sorry to hear it Bobo because i can tell you care about them probably more than anything else in your life. be strong and keep it together. i wish there was something i can do other than provide some sympathetic/encouraging words.   be mentally strong budday, i know you can do it!

narc

07-22-2006, 06:09 PM

That's terrible news. Hope you're able to work things out, and we're all thinking of you.

JustJon

07-22-2006, 06:23 PM

sorry to hear.  if there's anything we can do, let us know

Badinia

07-22-2006, 06:25 PM

I am so sorry and wish I could help.  Call your sponsor if you need to.  You have a really weird support system here, tell us what you need.

mendyweiss

07-22-2006, 06:29 PM

kris kringle wrapped in yogi berra  should not have sadness, thinking of you tonight.

Tall_James

07-22-2006, 06:29 PM

Bobo - you're in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.  Stay strong.

kellermcgee21

07-22-2006, 06:29 PM

i am a newbie when it comes to this board but i've heard you on R+F and read enough posts here to know you are a good guy...so i hope your doing alright and you keep your head up buddy.  as bad as it might be now it will get better eventually.

WhistlePig

07-22-2006, 06:30 PM

Oh Bobo I'm so sorry! Do you think maybe she was just pissed you went to NY for
the Ron & Fez thing? Maybe she'll cool off for a couple of days and be back. I hope
so, budday! Call your sponsor if you get tempted to numb your pain. Drugs &
booze will just make things worse.

Hottub

07-22-2006, 06:42 PM

Damn Bobo. If there is anything I can do to help, PM me. I give you my number. Even if it is just to shoot the shit, and try to sort things out.Your RF.net family is here for you. And it's times like these where we really can be a family!Stay strong!

Stankfoot

07-22-2006, 06:50 PM

Bobo - stay strong budday. I don't know the background but if you fall apart now it'll only make it worse. Hang in there. We're all thinking of you ...

Gvac

07-22-2006, 07:19 PM

As others have said, you know you've got the love and support of everybody here brother.  Drop a line if you need anything.

fezident

07-22-2006, 07:20 PM

Hey Bobo,Unbelievably, my marriage ended this week too.  While my wife didn't just pack up and leave...I can tell you that I was COMPLETELY blindsided by her "announcement" that our marriage was over. In other words...on some level, I know what you're going through.  Having said that, I'm treating this turn of events as an excuse to deal with all my problems HEAD ON.  Stuff I've been hiding from and avoiding, I am now looking at as challenges that I will overcome.  In a lot of ways, my wifes sudden decision has motivated me to improve my life.  To re-evaluate. To re-prioritize.  All that stuff that they talk about in meetings that I thought would never apply to me. My point is, maybe you can't do ANYTHING about the decisions your wife has made.  But, perhaps it can lead to something positive.  Perhaps. I remember reading something once that said "You can't change the direction of the wind....but you CAN adjust your sails".  I used to think that was just some poetic nonsense. Over the last seven days...I've realized that there's quite a bit of truth to it.  Best of luck to you.

Bossanova

07-22-2006, 07:27 PM

I am new to the boards as well.  We may not know each other but you are a fellow R&F buddy, and as far as I care that makes you family.  That is terrible to hera and I feel for you, as I am sure everyone feels for you.  We are all here for you.  Stay strong Bobo. 

JPMNICK

07-22-2006, 07:29 PM

bobo so sorry to hear budday. keep it tight and do not delve into anything that you know you shouldn't. that is not the answer. maybe time is all that is needed, so just hang in there.

Hottub

07-22-2006, 07:33 PM

Damn. A left, right tonight.Fezident, the same goes for you budday. I am here if you want to reach out.You seem to have a really positive atitude during such a turbulent time.Stay strong, and WE are here for you!Jon

PanterA

07-22-2006, 07:33 PM

Bobo stay strong. We all know you're a great man.Feel free to let it all out, we're here to support you.

Ogre

07-22-2006, 07:35 PM

Bobo, there really are alot of people here that love you and care about you.  I am sure that you need some time to sort through this.  Remember when you are in need..here you have friends aplenty..indeed.  Cry it out, shout it out, joke it out...just get it out there, cause those kinds of feelings being stuffed down inside, can lead one astray.  Be strong brother we are all here for you.Fezident, you too?  I didn't see your post till i reread the thread.  If this is final, may the winds of change blow favorably in your direction as well.Bad things happening to good people, I hate this scene in life.

This message was edited by Ogre on 7-22-06 @ 11:41 PM

FezPaul

07-22-2006, 07:36 PM

Hang in there Bobo and Fezident.Hope things work out for both of you.

Don Stugots

07-22-2006, 07:38 PM

Hottub wrote: Damn. A left, right tonight.Fezident, the same goes for you budday. I am here if you want to reach out.You seem to have a really positive atitude during such a turbulent time.Stay strong, and WE are here for you!Jonsame for me to you fezident.

tele7

07-22-2006, 07:39 PM

You will be in my thoughts Bobo.  I hope it all works out for the best.

bobrobot

07-22-2006, 07:47 PM

Thanks, I am grateful 4 my family here!!!

This message was edited by bobogolem on 7-23-06 @ 3:25 AM

bobrobot

07-22-2006, 08:17 PM

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This message was edited by bobogolem on 7-23-06 @ 7:47 AM

PapaBear

07-22-2006, 08:37 PM

Bobo, you fall into the catagory of "guy I'd do almost anything for". I'm with everyone else here in saying, let me know if you need anything. Really. We love ya.

spot

07-23-2006, 03:27 AM

Very sad news Bobo, I'm very sorry for your troubles.

Dirtybird12

07-23-2006, 03:48 AM

At least she didn't take the banjo.  J/K buddy.  Sorry to hear about this.  Hang in there. <img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/innocent.gif" border="0" />Maybe she just needed a breather or something.

Coach

07-23-2006, 04:04 AM

Wholly Shit!My prayers are with you. I hope things can be resolved... Personally though, I would probably be looking to put an Amber Alert out by now. I don't claim that I know your situation...but I would have gone nuts and did that within the first hour of ANYONE taking my kid.

french bread pizza

07-23-2006, 04:48 AM

hope it turns out for the best bobo, whatever that may end up being.

jafter

07-23-2006, 05:07 AM

Bobo,   I just read the thread and you know if you need to talk let me know.  We are all here for you stay strong. 

Marc with a c

07-23-2006, 06:51 AM

stay strong bobo, you are a great guy.  everything will work out for the best.we're here for you buddy.

EliSnow

07-23-2006, 06:56 AM

I'm so sorry Bobo.  Make sure you gather your friends around you.  It'll help.

Justice4all

07-23-2006, 07:03 AM

Bobo good luck with everything and I hope it works out for you. I am sorry for what happened. I wish I could say more.

JimiMetal

07-23-2006, 07:35 AM

That sucks bobo the same thing happened to me, my wife and 2 daughters are in arizona, haven't seen my girls in a year

JimiMetal

07-23-2006, 07:44 AM

Hope things work out for the best

HeyGuy

07-23-2006, 09:06 AM

Sorry to hear that. Stay strong and do what you got to do to get to be with your daughter. It sucks, my parents divorced when I was 10 and they decided that even though they couldnt work things out, it was more important to stay close for me  and my brother. The eventually became like best friends and I couldnt have asked for better parents.Whatever you do try to do it all for your daughter. I'm sure you know that. Just know that allot of people on this board have been through things like this and are here to help you with your issues or to talk. Good Luck!

Enabler

07-23-2006, 11:30 AM

Damn. We dont know each other, Bobo or Fezident, but like others have said my thoughts and best wishes go out to you. You never know how life is going to turn out or what shitstorm is waiting around the next corner. Keep your heads up boys!   

suggums

07-23-2006, 11:54 AM

ditto for everything that's already been said, except if anyone said mean stuff cause i read kinda fast.love yous bobo and fezident, hang in there and keep us posted if we can help at all

patsopinion

07-23-2006, 12:05 PM

wow there are some good ppl on this board.

Cybersoldier

07-23-2006, 12:14 PM

I'm sorry to hear that man, but I think you might to consider calling the police, you we're divorce when this happened? And if not you unless she got sole custosy(sp?) of your daugther your wife doesn't have the right to pick up and leave.

Don Stugots

07-23-2006, 12:37 PM

patsopinion wrote: wow there are some good ppl on this board.   how dare you call us such names.

bobrobot

07-23-2006, 01:15 PM

patsopinion wrote: wow there are some good ppl on this board.   There are GREAT ppl here!!!  FYI, I talked to my daughter on the phone today, & made arrangements to talk to her twice a day (morn & nite) while we work on the situation, & I know where they are, so there has been some progress made. But I owe my sanity, such as it is, to everyone here, Thank you!!!

This message was edited by bobogolem on 7-23-06 @ 5:23 PM

JPMNICK

07-23-2006, 01:33 PM

bobogolem wrote: patsopinion wrote: wow there are some good ppl on this board.   There are GREAT ppl here!!!  FYI, I talked to my daughter on the phone today, & made arrangements to talk to her twice a day (morn & nite) while we work on the situation, & I know where they are, so there has been some progress made. But I owe my sanity, such as it is, to everyone here, Thank you!!!This message was edited by bobogolem on 7-23-06 @ 5:23 PM great news. Seems like good progress was made today, so just take it one day at a time and the situation will rectify itself. Just keep yourself on the straight and narrow to not give anyone any ammo against you. You are a good man and it will work out for you.

blakjeezis

07-23-2006, 02:14 PM

Jeez, Bobo, that's awful, man. Hopefully everything will turn out for the best. It's good that you know where they are and that you're in contact with your daughter. Like everyone else has said, we're only a couple of mouse clicks away if you need anything.

cougarjake13

07-23-2006, 02:31 PM

you never mentioned where they went too, hopefully they didnt go far or move out of statehope all works out in the end for you<img height="100" src="http://home.comcast.net/~bob80/RFnetCougarJake13.jpg" width="300" border="0" />

Kathleen From The Bronx

07-23-2006, 02:48 PM

Bobo, really sorry you're going through this.... Bri and I are around if you need anything, we'll be thinking about you pal.-k

Snoogans

07-23-2006, 02:58 PM

bobogolem wrote: patsopinion wrote: wow there are some good ppl on this board. There are GREAT ppl here!!! FYI, I talked to my daughter on the phone today, & made arrangements to talk to her twice a day (morn & nite) while we work on the situation, & I know where they are, so there has been some progress made. But I owe my sanity, such as it is, to everyone here, Thank you!!!

This message was edited by bobogolem on 7-23-06 @ 5:23 PM thats all you need Bobo. My dad left when I was like 4 and he never called, never tried to contact me or anything. Part of me always hated him for it, cause a big part of me just wanted to talk to him. As long as you keep showing your daughter you wanna be there for her, she won't ever let you down, and your wife will appreciate it more then you think

Bulldogcakes

07-23-2006, 03:06 PM

Best wishes Bobo. Hope everything works out for you.

GwEnYpOo

07-23-2006, 03:40 PM

wow bobo , i know we havent really talked much but i know you're a great guy , and you dont deserdve that bullshit , but atleast you get to see your kid now . damn if someone tryed to take me kid from me i'd fuckin shoot them . you're kind , by now i would have popped the bitch in the face.

This message was edited by GwEnYpOo on 7-23-06 @ 7:45 PM

suggums

07-23-2006, 03:50 PM

bronx gwenny

Tenbatsuzen

07-23-2006, 04:01 PM

Bobo, as I'm not privy to your family/marriage/personal situation, the only piece of general advice I can give is to take active steps in protecting any joint assets, especially bank accounts. We all want the situation to work out for the best, but they can get mighty ugly mighty quick.

thepaulo

07-23-2006, 04:18 PM

Bobo knows my life has been a shitstorm for years.....and I am going to pray for him....I have a feeling his problems will get better.....these are outside influences and they will go away.....everyone knows I'm a complete co-dependent asshole with gail and use to dealing with insanity....my situation will never change but I think the insanity that has descended on Bobo can be pushed away....push it away...push it away

HeyGuy

07-23-2006, 10:26 PM

thepaulo wrote: Bobo knows my life has been a shitstorm for years.....and I am going to pray for him....I have a feeling his problems will get better.....these are outside influences and they will go away.....everyone knows I'm a complete co-dependent asshole with gail and use to dealing with insanity....my situation will never change but I think the insanity that has descended on Bobo can be pushed away....push it away...push it away I dont think praying will do anything. You need to be proactive, like someone else said check your bank accounts and make sure you protect yourself and your child. I really hope everything works out for you. You seem like a good guy on here. But dont sit around, do what you got to do asap. I hope your kid is ok and hopefully she doesnt understand or see any of the bad things that are going on!

This message was edited by CampoNJ on 7-24-06 @ 2:26 AM

Alice S. Fuzzybutt

07-23-2006, 11:17 PM

I am so sorry to hear about this Bobo. I think you are a great guy. You don't deserve this. Get a lawyer to protect your bank accounts and your (possible) shared credit. She may have already closed out your bank account. Don't let her screw up your credit. I have no other advice.

Reephdweller

07-24-2006, 05:51 AM

Bobo, I'm so sorry to hear this, It seems from what I'm reading that you're making some headway as far as communicating with your daughter. Though I'm sure this is putting you though some seriously stressful times. I hope everything works out for you. Like some of the others have said, definitely get some legal assistance and protect yourself financially.  You and your daughter will be in my thoughts buddy.

Dougie Brootal

07-24-2006, 05:56 AM

sorry to hear it bobo. i read this thread yesterday and i wasnt sure how to respond but now i think ill just say that i hope it works out for ya and youre in all of our thoughts!

Furtherman

07-24-2006, 06:13 AM

I hope everything works out and you two can work it out.  Keep your chin up Bobo.

A.J.

07-24-2006, 06:36 AM

Good luck Bobo.

ChimneyFish

07-24-2006, 10:55 AM

Bobo & fezident, I can't imagine what you guys are going through. My best wishes, and as it's been said repeatedly, I'm here if you need an ear.And Bobo, from what I can put together from hearing you on the radio and posting, you're involved in the program.While I'm not involed anymore, it helped to get me through some of the toughest times of my life. As someone else said, stay straight. The worst possible thing to bring into this fucked up situation, would be for you to let it take you again.I might not be the best person on the board to talk about the insanity, but I've been there and back, so I'm here.The best, for both of you.

AKA

07-24-2006, 11:22 AM

Love ya, Bobo.

JimiMetal

07-24-2006, 11:33 AM

great news. Seems like good progress was made today, so just take it one day at a time and the situation will rectify itself. Just keep yourself on the straight and narrow to not give anyone any ammo against you. You are a good man and it will work out for you. Very true !!!

ADF

07-24-2006, 11:58 AM

Things'll work out for you, Bobo.  You're a good guy.

dereckfishboy

07-24-2006, 12:29 PM

Keep those spirits up, Bobo. As long as you are a good father (and I'm sure you are), there's no one that'll keep you from your daughter. Wives come and go, but the love you have for that little girl will follow you to the next life. Good luck, and I hope you feel better soon :)

Dirtybird12

07-24-2006, 03:41 PM

On a lighter note - need a roomate?we could be the dysfunctional odd couple. Ohhh the glorious music we could make together.  This is how paul and john started ya know....

Gvac

07-24-2006, 04:05 PM

ThePointer

07-24-2006, 04:35 PM

Bobo   Though the news sounds bad, it seems some progress is shining through.  You have contact with your daughter and  know she is alright.  As others said  just  look at your financial setup to protect yourself.  If there is anything I can offer you, Just let me know

bobrobot

07-24-2006, 06:13 PM

CircusFreak wrote: On a lighter note - need a roomate?we could be the dysfunctional odd couple. Ohhh the glorious music we could make together.  This is how paul and john started ya know....I may end up homeless & destitute, but I'll be happy to share my hovel w/ ya!<img height="300" src="http://www.culturechange.org/RedwoodClearingscan2jpg.jpg" width="420" border="0" />

Dirtybird12

07-24-2006, 06:31 PM

bobogolem wrote: CircusFreak wrote: On a lighter note - need a roomate?we could be the dysfunctional odd couple. Ohhh the glorious music we could make together.  This is how paul and john started ya know....I may end up homeless & destitute, but I'll be happy to share my hovel w/ ya!<img height="300" src="http://www.culturechange.org/RedwoodClearingscan2jpg.jpg" width="420" border="0" />I smell a hit reality show brewing....at least I think thats what I smell

bobrobot

07-24-2006, 07:02 PM

CircusFreak wrote: bobogolem wrote: CircusFreak wrote: On a lighter note - need a roomate?we could be the dysfunctional odd couple. Ohhh the glorious music we could make together.  This is how paul and john started ya know....I may end up homeless & destitute, but I'll be happy to share my hovel w/ ya!<img height="300" src="http://www.culturechange.org/RedwoodClearingscan2jpg.jpg" width="420" border="0" />I smell a hit reality show brewing....at least I think thats what I smellI may have taken a dump in the guitar, mistaking it for a chamber pot!

TheRealEddie

07-24-2006, 07:14 PM

Dear Bobo, <img width="468" height="351" border="0" src="http://www.stargatefan.com/fandom/cards/images/Card98.jpg" /> your pal,eddie

FUNKMAN

07-24-2006, 07:24 PM

bobogolem wrote: CircusFreak wrote: bobogolem wrote: CircusFreak wrote: On a lighter note - need a roomate?we could be the dysfunctional odd couple. Ohhh the glorious music we could make together.  This is how paul and john started ya know....I may end up homeless & destitute, but I'll be happy to share my hovel w/ ya!<img height="300" src="http://www.culturechange.org/RedwoodClearingscan2jpg.jpg" width="420" border="0" />I smell a hit reality show brewing....at least I think thats what I smellI may have taken a dump in the guitar, mistaking it for a chamber pot!no wonder why it sounds like shit...haha   <img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/tongue.gif" border="0" />

Dirtybird12

07-24-2006, 07:28 PM

Poop Loops.<img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/dry.gif" border="0" />

BrownTown

07-24-2006, 08:10 PM

I'm blown away by this, Bobo. Stay strong & have faith that things will work out, brother.

ShelleBink

07-25-2006, 01:04 PM

I'll pretty much echo the sentiments by all of the buddays.  I'm here for you in any way I can be...

bobrobot

07-30-2006, 04:32 PM

After not having seen her for 11 days, my daughter is back home w/ me!!! I am going to do everything in my power to see that it stays this way & I really want to thank all of you for the positive support you have given me. In all honesty, I'm not sure I would've gotten through this without your help & messages of hope, I am grateful beyond words. When I started this thread, it was an act of sheer desperation, I even felt shame at having done it. I knew full well that I left myself open for all manner of ridicule, yet all I received was kindness & sympathy. Thanks & I love you all!!! <img height="269" src="http://www.ebsqart.com/Art/5805/293063/WingedHeart_275_275.jpg" width="275" border="0" />

fezident

07-30-2006, 04:34 PM

Congrats to you and your daughter. Stick together and just keep on keepin' on.   Again, congratulations.

Fallon

07-30-2006, 04:38 PM

Good to hear Bobo!

FUNKMAN

07-30-2006, 04:43 PM

Glad to hear the good news budday!  <img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/bye.gif" border="0" />

Dougie Brootal

07-30-2006, 04:54 PM

hey buddy, thats great! im so happy to hear it. take care bro.

Don Stugots

07-30-2006, 05:25 PM

Bobo,i just saw the post.  good for you bro!

narc

07-30-2006, 05:31 PM

It's always nice to hear a happy ending Bobo. Couldn't have happened to a better guy.

PapaBear

07-30-2006, 07:57 PM

That's great Bobo!And on a side note... it's good your daughter isn't an infant. If she was, I would be worried about Fez stealing her.

Lumber

07-31-2006, 02:13 AM

Good things happen to Good people BoBo! Good for you!

samnyc

07-31-2006, 03:27 AM

but she's just a little girl!

bobrobot

07-31-2006, 06:04 AM

Congrats on ringing the bell at the top of the asshole pole!!!<img src="http://i2.photobucket.com/albums/y46/bobogolem/hi-striker_big.jpg" border="0" />

KC2OSO

07-31-2006, 06:19 AM

Great news! We're here for ya pallie.

Jujubees2

07-31-2006, 06:22 AM

Bobo,That's GREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEAT News!<img height="215" src="http://www.sportcentric.com/vsite/vimagesite/images/jpg/0,11410,5061-0-68131-0-custom138869,00.jpg" width="247" border="0" />

This message was edited by Jujubees2 on 7-31-06 @ 10:22 AM

ShelleBink

07-31-2006, 06:46 AM

YAY!!!!!

Tall_James

07-31-2006, 06:48 AM

Bobo - its nice to hear you happy.  I'm glad your daughter is back, hug her extra tight and give her an extra scoop of ice cream after dinner!

torker

07-31-2006, 12:43 PM

Good news, pop.<img height="162" src="http://newsfeed.tcm.ie/images/people/asiaquakedaddyAP.jpg" width="142" border="0" />

WhistlePig

07-31-2006, 01:11 PM

That's great news Bobo! Hug her tight! I hope you and your wife can work things
out for the sake of your daughter.

Enabler

07-31-2006, 01:21 PM

Really glad to hear the good news Bobo. Not sure why I care so much...but I do. Congrats man! Now dont let her out of your sight.

bobrobot

07-31-2006, 03:17 PM

fagenabler wrote: Really glad to hear the good news Bobo. Not sure why I care so much...but I do. Congrats man! Now dont let her out of your sight. <a href="http://www.buddhasvillage.com/BuddhasVillage/teachings/lz_practising.htm" target="_blank">I think it's cuz U have a good heart!!! Thanks!!!</a><a href="http://www.buddhasvillage.com/BuddhasVillage/teachings/lz_practising.htm" target="_blank"><img height="250" src="http://www.gangesindia.com/catalog/images/Dsc00993-Wd-Smile-Bhud-Smal.jpg" width="200" border="0" /></a>

FUNKMAN

07-31-2006, 03:20 PM

bobogolem wrote: fagenabler wrote: Really glad to hear the good news Bobo. Not sure why I care so much...but I do. Congrats man! Now dont let her out of your sight. <a href="http://www.buddhasvillage.com/BuddhasVillage/teachings/lz_practising.htm" target="_blank">I think it's cuz U have a good heart!!! Thanks!!!</a><a href="http://www.buddhasvillage.com/BuddhasVillage/teachings/lz_practising.htm" target="_blank"><img height="250" src="http://www.gangesindia.com/catalog/images/Dsc00993-Wd-Smile-Bhud-Smal.jpg" width="200" border="0" /></a>maybe he watched alot of<img height="350" src="http://images.amazon.com/images/P/B0002UE28Y.01-A9UGHYQQDYS31.LZZZZZZZ.jpg" width="222" border="0" />                        <img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/smile.gif" border="0" />