can anyone tell me why??

[angeladi]

<p>So i have a couple of questions for all u mature users on this:&nbsp; for anyone that dosent know anything about me at all i am 20years old, and in the middle of a divorce, (nov.23 will be&nbsp;a great day) anyway i left my ex because he was really abusive mentally, physically, and emotionaly.... u name it he did it. i got fed up and well i left him after a year and a half of being married, we tried marrige counsling for about&nbsp;6 months and it just didnt work. he tried anger manegment and that didnt work for him either. his biggest issue was he was controlling, he didnt even like me speaking to my own family because he wud accuse my male cousins of being my &quot;boyfriend&quot; and so on. it was a hard relationship to be in because everything with him was a mind game, he would mess with me so bad mentally he would do everything from treat me like shit to take my son away for the day and not tell me where he was and just&nbsp;make threats&nbsp;to take him to mexico or somewhere so id never see him again, and to the extent that he would fuk with me so bad that he would tell me my uncle who was in iraq was dead that it was on the news, things like that. so after we split we didnt speak for about 2 months and in an odd way i was really happy and relieved, now all of a sudden hes back and threatning to take my son away and not give me any perental rights!! i know he says these thing just to mess with my head, but i cant help but stress out, i dont get why he cant just leave me alone?? i mean its done and over with so why does he have to keep coming back into my life just to mess with me, he just says that he will try to take my son away from me by using the fact that i have male friends and i go out sometimes, and things like that....... he shouldnt care i dont get why he wont just leave me alone, he has a girlfriend now i mean shes 16 and thats wrong as hell cuz hes gonna be 24 but whatever i could care less, i just dont get why he cant let me be happy, and stop trying to controll my every move!! wat do u do with people like that?? </p>

[narc]

He sounds like a charmer. If I were you, I'd go down to your local courthouse and swear out a civil protective order against him. That way if he violates that, he could get his ass thrown in jail. And violating would be contacting or communicating with you in any fashion - electronically, telephonically, anything.

<span class=post_edited>This message was edited by narc on 8-3-06 @ 11:58 AM</span>

[Sheeplovr]

<p><span class="postbody">for all u mature users on this</span></p><p>not on this message board&nbsp;</p>

[angeladi]

there is a restraning order in place, i didnt file it but the court ordered it saying &quot;he can live with me and my son, but he has been a threat to both of us so anything he does harass annoy, ect. he will go to jail&quot; he has violated it 2 times&nbsp;and gone to jail overnight, and then they dropped all the charges so hes was free to go!! it affected his military career though today is his last day in the coast gaurd he got discharged cause of all the stuff that happened with me and then some alcohol incedent that happened, so hes probably really hating me right now.

[newport king]

<p>it amazes me how some people live their lives. </p><p>ok you married this cat when you were 18 or 19, that was mistake number 1.</p><p>this isnt 1940, what was the rush?</p><p>he sounds like a fucking idiot and i'm pretty sure there was some clue to his mental instability before you married him, yet you went through with it. </p><p>now you have a child involved. so this guy is&nbsp;going to be in your life for the remainder of your life in some way shape or form.</p><p>he threatens you with all this shit? his girlfriend is considered statutory rape. so maybe he should mind his p's and q's.</p>

[narc]

I would get a lawyer nonetheless. You could probably find one that will take you for not that much money, if any at all. I'd at least go in for a consultation. And if he does try to contact you further, I would record it as much as you possibly can. Not to make you like Linda Tripp or anything.

[angeladi]

well its not only that see he got into my myspace account as well as another one of my marine friends and in to his email to see wat kind of&nbsp; things we talk about, he also got into my cell phone account and printed out my phone bills so that he could &quot;prove&quot; that i had a boyfriend cause i talk to this certain guy alot and then he did the same to his cell phone account. how? no clue, hes always been one of those nerdy computer hackers with way too much knowlage on how to get into peoples stuff i guess i can thank the ARMY for that!! the thing is i cant prove that he did it, i mean if he takes these things to court to try to get me for adultry then it will be clear that hes been doing illegal things to get in info, other wise i got nothing

[newport king]

<p>he is with a 16 year old. </p><p>btw, u have a myspace? what is it? i need friends.</p>

[angeladi]

<p>ok, look me up on myspace under this email :</p><p>a_a_enc@yahoo.com</p>

[narc]

Without getting too much into specifics, you should still see a lawyer down there to see whether you could do anything. Proof might not even come into the picture, necessarily. Here's a link to people who can either help you, or point you towards people who can:<br><p><a href="http://www.sdvlp.org/service_domesticviolence.htm">http://www.sdvlp.org/service_domesticviolence.htm</a></p><p>

[angeladi]

THANKYOU!!

[KC2OSO]

Have him murdered.<br />

[angeladi]

HA HA HA HA, if only it was legal!!! lol ur not the first person to say that, but at the end of the day hes a piece of shit and i do wish he was dead at times cause off all the shit hes done to me, but then again, hes the father of my son and in my little ones eyes hes still daddy and he loves him, i couldnt do that to my son........... but if i didnt have a little one id def think about it, just kidding<br />!!! lol

[angeladi]

<p>here is my myspace page link, for you</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><a href="http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=78630767&MyToken=970823f0-20ec-4dbe-8953-7c98b421132b">http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&amp;friendid=786 30767&amp;MyToken=970823f0-20ec-4dbe-8953-7c98b421132b</a></p>

[Meatball]

and for the love of god, go get some counseling. Find out why you chose him, what was lacking in yourself and how to live a lifetime with a psychopath in your life (as your childs father). Your going to need a steroidal dose of self-esteem in order to live a good life.

[SatCam]

<strong>angeladi</strong> wrote:<br><p>here is my myspace page link, for you</p><p> </p><p><a href="http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=78630767&MyToken=970823f0-20ec-4dbe-8953-7c98b421132b">http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=78630767&MyToken=970823f0-20ec-4dbe-8953-7c98b421132b</a></p><p></p>

Unprivate your account, or atleast post your pics in this thread!!!!! JESUS CHRIST!!!

[Don Stugots]

<strong>Sheeplovr</strong> wrote:<br /><p>&nbsp;</p><span class="postbody">for all u mature users on this</span> <p>&nbsp;</p><p>not on this message board&nbsp;</p><p>i refuse to respond to this post due to this persons blant racism against us immature users on this message board.&nbsp; how dare you madam!</p>

[mikeyboy]

<strong>STUGOTS1</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>Sheeplovr</strong> wrote:<br /><p>&nbsp;</p><span class="postbody">for all u mature users on this</span> <p>&nbsp;</p><p>not on this message board&nbsp;</p><p>i refuse to respond to this post due to this persons blant racism against us immature users on this message board.&nbsp; how dare you madam!</p><p>The immature are a race?</p>

[FUNKMAN]

<p>hope things work out for the best</p><p>the reality is woman are murdered almost every day by their estranged boyfriend or husband just for the sole fact that the guy cannot stand for the woman to be happy, or even think that she is happy without him. the guy is so fucking miserable that he wants the woman to be miserable as well &quot;misery loves company&quot;</p><p>just keep your distance, go on with your life, but never let your guard down...</p><p>i have a close friend, his sister was seperated from her husband and she was dating another man. her estranged husband let himself into the house, shot and killed the guy in the bed, chased her downstairs, shot her in the eye and head, then he called the police right before he killed himself</p><p>there are some really mentally disturbed men out there </p>

[Don Stugots]

<strong>mikeyboy</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>STUGOTS1</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>Sheeplovr</strong> wrote:<br /><p>&nbsp;</p><span class="postbody">for all u mature users on this</span> <p>&nbsp;</p><p>not on this message board&nbsp;</p><p>i refuse to respond to this post due to this persons blant racism against us immature users on this message board.&nbsp; how dare you madam!</p><p>The immature are a race?</p><p>yes we are.&nbsp; maybe you arent aware of us but we are around Ceasar.</p>

[narc]

Hey Mikeyboy, do you think I should put a link to this thread on my resume?

[jeffdwright2001]

<strong>mikeyboy</strong> wrote:<br /><p>The immature are a race?</p><p>Well, most of us race to be the most immature.&nbsp; Does that count?</p>

<span class=post_edited>This message was edited by jeffdwright2001 on 8-4-06 @ 10:03 AM</span>

[foodcourtdruide]

<strong>angeladi</strong> wrote:<br /><p>So i have a couple of questions for all u mature users on this:&nbsp; for anyone that dosent know anything about me at all i am 20years old, and in the middle of a divorce, (nov.23 will be&nbsp;a great day) anyway i left my ex because he was really abusive mentally, physically, and emotionaly.... u name it he did it. i got fed up and well i left him after a year and a half of being married, we tried marrige counsling for about&nbsp;6 months and it just didnt work. he tried anger manegment and that didnt work for him either. his biggest issue was he was controlling, he didnt even like me speaking to my own family because he wud accuse my male cousins of being my &quot;boyfriend&quot; and so on. it was a hard relationship to be in because everything with him was a mind game, he would mess with me so bad mentally he would do everything from treat me like shit to take my son away for the day and not tell me where he was and just&nbsp;make threats&nbsp;to take him to mexico or somewhere so id never see him again, and to the extent that he would fuk with me so bad that he would tell me my uncle who was in iraq was dead that it was on the news, things like that. so after we split we didnt speak for about 2 months and in an odd way i was really happy and relieved, now all of a sudden hes back and threatning to take my son away and not give me any perental rights!! i know he says these thing just to mess with my head, but i cant help but stress out, i dont get why he cant just leave me alone?? i mean its done and over with so why does he have to keep coming back into my life just to mess with me, he just says that he will try to take my son away from me by using the fact that i have male friends and i go out sometimes, and things like that....... he shouldnt care i dont get why he wont just leave me alone, he has a girlfriend now i mean shes 16 and thats wrong as hell cuz hes gonna be 24 but whatever i could care less, i just dont get why he cant let me be happy, and stop trying to controll my every move!! <strong>wat do u do with people like that??</strong> </p><p>I'm surprised your original plan of marrying him didn't work.</p>

[angeladi]

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<span class=post_edited>This message was edited by angeladi on 8-4-06 @ 10:33 AM</span>

[SouthSideJohnny]

<font size="2">Angeladi is in a bad situation, and she's getting some good advice here from Narc, but I am laughing my ass everytime Narc posts serious advice to this difficult situation . . . and then I look to the left and see Dennis Hopper gassing up and the word &quot;fucktard&quot; above it.</font>

[angeladi]

<p>&quot;Narc&quot; is giving good advice and i am very greatful. and i am taking his advice, i filed yesterday for a court order so i DONT have to tell him where i live, and i dont have to give him my phone number, and when he wants to see my son he can meet in a public place to pick him up, i want to get supervised visitations, just cause i worry that he&nbsp;will try to take him&nbsp;away.....&nbsp;but i heard here in CA its real hard to do that, the courts apperenty dont like to take any rights away from the parents, but i wonder if the fact that the own filed a restraning order saying hes a &quot;threat&quot; to my son and I comes into play at all, i really do hope so.</p>

[Fezticle98]

<p>Good idea with the restraining order. If he does try to contact you, keep a record of all occurences, just a written record of dates, times, etc.</p><p>If you have a lawyer, he might be able to contact your ex's commanding officer if he continues to cause trouble. I know that the military is desparate for bodies now, but they still get annoyed when their people start causing problems.</p><p>In custody cases, probably 95% of the time they side with the mother and will give the father only visitation rights, whether supervised or unsupervised. Just make sure you have your shit in order, job or&nbsp;school, stable place for the kid to live, no drugs, etc. And for God's sake, don't mention that you listen to Ron &amp; Fez/take advice from the lunatics on their message board. <img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/smile.gif" border="0" />&nbsp;</p>

[narc]

<hr color="cococo" align="left"></font><strong>SouthSideJohnny</strong> wrote:<br><font size="2">Angeladi is in a bad situation, and she's getting some good advice here from Narc, but I am laughing my ass everytime Narc posts serious advice to this difficult situation . . . and then I look to the left and see Dennis Hopper gassing up and the word "fucktard" above it.</font><hr color="cococo" align="left"><p></p>
Hey! I can't help my mod quote. And are you going to tell me Blue Velvet was something other than a serious movie? <br><p>
I actually used to do something akin to this for the past year, and I hope to in the future, so it's not that much of a stretch, Frank Booth notwithstanding.

[angeladi]

<p>&nbsp;&quot;he might be able to contact your ex's commanding officer if he continues to cause trouble. I know that the military is desparate for bodies now, but they still get annoyed when their people start causing problems.&quot;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>i actually did this along time ago, BUT TODAY WAS HIS LAST DAY IN THE MILITARY!!!&nbsp; he got kicked out of the Coast Gaurd....... for all the problems with me (the times he was arrested) and then he got cought having a party on goverment property with a bunch of minors drinking like his 16 year old girlfriend and some other coasties that were under age and hes gonna be 24 in dec, so that was the final straw to them. wats crap is they are totaly hooking him up with lettin him go under a &quot;DISABILITY&quot; WICH THEY CALL &quot;ALCOHOLISM&quot; SO HE GETS AN HONARABLE DISCHARGE!!!! THATS BULLSHIT</p>

[KC2OSO]

This guy's a real prince.&nbsp; What possible benefit will your son derive from being exposed to this douche bag?<br />

[angeladi]

NONE AT ALL!!! the way i see it the less influence that he has on him the better!!! I dont want to be responsible for letting another stupid piece of shit woman beater into the world!!!!!&nbsp; I THINK ID KICK MY OWN SONS BUTT IF I EVER FOUND OUT HE LAID A HAND ON ANY FEMALE