So I saw this girl tonight

[keithy_19]

<p>First off, let me give some background. I used to be head over heels for this girl. I was so into her and in the end, she kind of broke my heart. At lest, the most painful thing I've experienced regarding a relationship in my short and overall pointless life. </p><p>So fast forward to about a year later. I'm in a great relationship, which has endured a lot of outside complications, which has lasted me over nine months. Well, tonight I got out of work at 8:30 and the girl who I used to be involved with called me. She wanted me to go to this festival thing in her town, and I said I'd see if I could make it. I in all honesty didnt think I'd go, but I thought it may be fun and it would be nice seeing her. So I called up my friend and we both went. Turns out we got lost and we ended up going to her house to say hi. I saw her, and it was nice. It wasn't as awkward as it could have been and it was nice seeing her. But now, I'm feeling shitty again. Like, everything from the past is kind of being brought right up to the front of my mind again. I just don't understand why seeing her is making me feel this bad. I'm in a happy and healthy relationship but I'm now feeling the feelings I had back with the first girl. That I was no good, worthless, not worth anyones time.</p><p>I guess I just felt like getting this off my chest. It's been bothering me all night. It just seems like the perfect way to top off a perfectly dissapointing week. </p>

[PapaBear]

I feel for ya' bro. As much as I was hurt by (and also hurt) my second wife, I still feel like crap every time I see her. I know you didn't marry this girl, but it's pretty much the same thing. You feel the pain, you get over it, and when you've completely forgotten about it, it happens again. It happens whether you're currently in a good relationship or not. True love never dies. Sucks, doesn't it?

[keithy_19]

<p>True love never dies. Sucks, doesn't it? </p><p>Especially when she never loved me back. I rememebr her clearly telling me that &quot;I cared about her more than anyone ever had&quot; and then she went and got some other guy. I don't really get why that happened. But I blamed it on myself. I still have that mentality. </p>

[mdr55]

<p>Like you said, you're in a great relationship now. Don't look back.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Do
you feel bad for seeing this girl because of &quot;what coulda been or
coulda might happened&quot; or do you feel bad cause the girl you're with
doesn't know you went to see this &quot;old flame&quot; and you feel bad?&nbsp;</p>

[MilkmanDann]

<p>Those situations are the worst, still dealing with one myself. You gotta keep in mind she might be doing that shit because she knows you felt that way about her and she needs a temporary ego boost at your expense. You act aloof about it suddenly you become more attractive, its ridiculous the way it works. In the meantime, your poor girl in the good relationship gets forgotten and suffers and she shouldnt.</p>

[Bulldogcakes]

<p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><strong>Burblefrump</strong> wrote:<br /><p>Those situations are the worst, still dealing with one myself. You gotta keep in mind she might be doing that shit because she knows you felt that way about her and she needs a temporary ego boost at your expense. You act aloof about it suddenly you become more attractive, its ridiculous the way it works. In the meantime, your poor girl in the good relationship gets forgotten and suffers and she shouldnt.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Ding ding ding!</p><p>Classic bad relationship, constantly pulled in and left feeling bad about it after. And if you'll just play some game (&quot;act aloof&quot;, etc) it gets better. Games dont work, sooner or later you'll go back to being who you are, and it wont work again. <br /></p><p>Also, if you love ANYONE so much that you lose yourself, something is wrong. You want that person to &quot;fix&quot; something about you or your life, and stuff like that you can only do yourself. Never works out. &nbsp;</p><blockquote /><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p>

[Bulldogcakes]

<p>&nbsp;</p><h1><a title="Doobie Brothers Lyrics" href="http://www.lyricsfreak.com/d/doobie+brothers/">Doobie Brothers</a> &rsaquo; <a title="What A Fool Believes Lyrics" href="http://www.lyricsfreak.com/d/doobie+brothers/what+a+fool+believes_20042480.html">What A Fool Believes</a></h1><p>&nbsp;</p><p>He came from somewhere back in her long ago<br />The sentimental fool dont see<br />Tryin hard to recreate<br />What had yet to be created once in her life<br /><br />She musters a smile<br />For his nostalgic tale<br />Never coming near what he wanted to say<br />Only to realize<br />It never really was<br /><br />She had a place in his life<br />He never made her think twice<br />As he rises to her apology<br />Anybody else would surely know<br />Hes watching her go<br /><br />But what a fool believes he sees<br />No wise man has the power to reason away<br />What seems to be<br />Is always better than nothing<br />And nothing at all keeps sending him...<br /><br />Somewhere back in her long ago<br />Where he can still believe theres a place in her life<br />Someday, somewhere, she will return<br /><br />She had a place in his life<br />He never made her think twice<br />As he rises to her apology<br />Anybody else would surely know<br />Hes watching her go<br /><br />But what a fool believes he sees<br />No wise man has the power to reason away<br />What seems to be<br />Is always better than nothing<br />Theres nothing at all<br />But what a fool believes he sees...</p>

[Gaia]

<p>Burblefrump and Bulldog cakes are sooooo right. You ARE in a good relationship right now....and THAT'S what matters. </p><p>Think about it.....yeah, you cared for this girl more than anyone else, and she even said so....but like you have probably heard a million times before, she&nbsp;WAS NOT&nbsp;worth your time or effort; NOR DID SHE DESERVE YOU, &nbsp;if she went and got another guy. ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT.</p><p>ALWAYS REMEBER THAT YOU HAVE A GREAT GIRL WHO IS THERE FOR YOU, AND WHO DOES&nbsp;CARE FOR&nbsp;YOU, WHO PERSERVERED THE &quot;OUTSIDE COMPLICATIONS&quot; TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU. &nbsp;</p><p>It took me a really long time to&nbsp;get over the ex....the whole time I was feeling sorry for myself and&nbsp;&quot;ooohhh boooo hoo....he doesnt love me anymore&quot;....but meanwhile I had a damn fucking good guy, right there holding my hand. Now I look back and think...what the fuck is wrong with me....all this time I could have been completely enjoying this person 100% , but instead I was worried about other shit.&nbsp;</p><p>Sure, you say you will never forget&nbsp;that love or love someone else the same, you are right, you cannot totally erase someone from your&nbsp;mind, nor can you love two people the same, because everyone is different, therefore the love you feel for the next person is totally different form the one before. I&nbsp;wish I could make you understand....it really does lessen over time.&nbsp;I'm sure you have also heard that this is just one of the many trials of life....it's your decision what you take out of it....so take something that you WANT to carry with you for life, not what you dont. This hardship and others to come will mold you into the man that you will be someday. So take this and tear it apart...analyze&nbsp;it and realize YOU didnt do anything wrong....</p><p>It's been a year since you have seen or been&nbsp;with this girl, so why the fuck is she&nbsp;calling you? Think about it, she's probably one of those females who did what she did just to feel better about herself because she has no substance, and now, because she feels like being &quot;important&quot; again, or she feels like having &quot;power&quot; over someone, so decides to call you. That's fucked up.</p><p>When she calls; be aloof, but never go see her. If it was a relationship that was short and sweet and amicable, then I would say theres no harm in seeing her, but it wasnt. She hurt you, Dont put yourself in the company of someone who makes you feel worthless, because you arent.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p align="justify"><font face="Arial"><font size="3">Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.</font>&nbsp;<br />&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</font></p>

[Jujubees2]

<font size="2">I had a girlfriend who I thought was the perfect match for me and I was head over heels for her.&nbsp; For a while things were good but then she started pulling away until she dropped the bombshell on me that she was never in love with me and that I lacked self-confidence (which was probably true - but getting dumped doesn't do much to help that).&nbsp; Of course,&nbsp;I didn't want to believe it right away so&nbsp;I kept hoping things would work out, even when she moved to another state.&nbsp;<span style="font-size: 10pt; color: black; font-family: verdana">Every time I saw her it was excruciating.</span></font><font size="2"> <p><font size="2">Then I had lunch with one of her best friends.&nbsp; At the end of lunch, the friend told me &quot;You deserve someone better and there is someone better for you out there.&quot;&nbsp; Well it took over five years but she was right as I found my current wife of 13 years.</font></p></font>

[GwEnYpOo]

<p>aww , keithybobeefy!!</p><p>listen , i know how you feel , i was in your position last year and i wound up losing the relationship i was in and contact with the person i was previousely involved with . it sucks . but seriously , focus on the girl you're with now , make your relationship the best you could be , and if you really eant to forget about the girl from the past just focus on how you would feel if you lost the girl you were with now . </p><p>i broke up with my boyfriend not to long ago&nbsp; and i KNOW that it was because i didnt make that relationship the best it could be , and i lost him because of that . i dont care what anyone says , i loved him with all of my heart and recently i just say him walking down the street with some beautifull girl . i felt like i was gonna die of heartache when i saw that . i wanted to go rip the girls hair out just for being near him. imagine what you would feel like if your girl was walkin down the street with another guy. maybe that will help you appreciate how much you feel for this girl . thats what happened with me , but it was to late for me .</p>

[Dirtybird12]

<strong>Bulldogcakes</strong> wrote:<br /><p>&nbsp;</p><h1><a title="Doobie Brothers Lyrics" href="http://www.lyricsfreak.com/d/doobie+brothers/">Doobie Brothers</a> &rsaquo; <a title="What A Fool Believes Lyrics" href="http://www.lyricsfreak.com/d/doobie+brothers/what+a+fool+believes_20042480.html">What A Fool Believes</a></h1><p>&nbsp;</p><p>He came from somewhere back in her long ago<br />The sentimental fool dont see<br />Tryin hard to recreate<br />What had yet to be created once in her life<br /><br />She musters a smile<br />For his nostalgic tale<br />Never coming near what he wanted to say<br />Only to realize<br />It never really was<br /><br />She had a place in his life<br />He never made her think twice<br />As he rises to her apology<br />Anybody else would surely know<br />Hes watching her go<br /><br />But what a fool believes he sees<br />No wise man has the power to reason away<br />What seems to be<br />Is always better than nothing<br />And nothing at all keeps sending him...<br /><br />Somewhere back in her long ago<br />Where he can still believe theres a place in her life<br />Someday, somewhere, she will return<br /><br />She had a place in his life<br />He never made her think twice<br />As he rises to her apology<br />Anybody else would surely know<br />Hes watching her go<br /><br />But what a fool believes he sees<br />No wise man has the power to reason away<br />What seems to be<br />Is always better than nothing<br />Theres nothing at all<br />But what a fool believes he sees...</p><p>Never really notcied the lyrics before. </p><p>Thanks for posting that. </p><p>Great song. ...now</p>

[keithy_19]

I know that I should jsut focus on my relationship now. It's just tough to forget your past. I'm not going to mess up what I have now for some other girl. Unless of course that girl is named Gwenypoo. <img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/rolleyes.gif" border="0" />