my girl friend and guys

[keithy_19]

<p>She moved in with her dad (her parents are divorced) ltowards the end of the summer. She was really anxious of starting the new school year and she missed me a lot. So, I was talking to her on the phone tonight (as I do every night) and she was talking to her friend about all the guys that are talking to her and who like them. She was talking to her as I'm shocked on the other end. I eventually had to interject and say, &quot;ya know your boy friend is on the phone.&quot; She said that she knew and it wasn't a big deal. That she had no interest in these guys and they were all &quot;dorks&quot; and she loved me and only me. She said sorry a lot when she realized how much it effected me. She said she shouldn't have told me. </p><p>I have a very low self esteem and a&nbsp;terrible self image which has only gotten worse since I started school. I'm just worried I'm going to lose her. And I feel like I can't stop it. It'll start off with some kids liking her. And then she'll be lonely and something will happen. I just feel like complete and utter shit right now because of this...<img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/flush.gif" border="0" /></p>

[Fallon]

You just have to trust her bro.<br />

[keithy_19]

It's just so hard. I just can't help but feel there's someone better out there and she'll find him.

[Fallon]

<p>Who better than Keithy?</p><p><img width="240" height="180" border="0" src="http://www.obsessedwithwrestling.com/pictures/c/chriskanyon/08.jpg" />&nbsp;</p>

[keithy_19]

<p>I guess I'm so worried because she's the first person I've ever really, totally, loved who has loved me back. And I know that she does love me and I believe her when she says it. I'm just afraid that the distance will get to be to much and she'll just slip away.</p>

[PapaBear]

<p>You're probably still feeling guilty (though there's no reason to) about your last thread about the old girlfriend. Your current g/f felt confident to talk about the boys with you listening. That's a good sign that she's not interested in finding anyone else.</p><p>I'm the last person to tell someone else to work on their confidence issues, but you've admitted a self esteem problem. Your current g/f probably loves you very much. You had thoughts about an old g/f a couple of days ago. It's natural to do that. You're human. You'll be OK, man. You have more than some of us. Be happy.</p><p>PS.. it's important that you get your esteem issue under control. You don't want to push her away by constantly being affraid of losing her.</p>

<span class=post_edited>This message was edited by PapaBear on 9-19-06 @ 1:56 AM</span>

[keithy_19]

I don't know how to get my self esteem issue under control. And, I guess I'm feeling guilty. But, I just didn't know for sure she was talking to other guys. Like, I assumed but then I heard her. And it just hit me the wrong way. I'm over reacting I know. I just really care about her...

[Doctor Z]

<p>Just keep reminding yourself:&nbsp; High school is the worst 4 years of your life.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>8 years down the line, you'll have a good loff about all of it.&nbsp;</p>

[keithy_19]

It's funny how I'm out of high school and now I'm feeling worse than ever. I guess it's not surprising.

[narc]

What's the worst thing that could happen? she leaves you for another guy. But if that happens then she obviously wasn't the right girl for you anyway and you find someone else. <br><p>
But it doesn't sound like you should be worried about that. One of the joys of being with someone else is to enjoy the ride while you're with them. Life's too short not to. And if you really want to fuck things up, the best way to do that is to get all insecure. I know it's hard, but I truly believe that people's insecurities are what wreck relationships so frequently by getting in the way of trust and communication etc.

[Dirtybird12]

<p>I know where u are brother.&nbsp; </p><p><br />Nothing will push a woman away faster than a self loathing insecure jealous guy.</p><p>She WILL leave you&nbsp; - if you do not show her confidence &amp; respect her enough to trust her.</p><p>The LAST thing you want to do is&nbsp;give her a reason to say &quot; I never should've told you&quot; - In time she will believe that you are not able to deal with the truth&nbsp;,,,so she&nbsp;won't bother telling you&nbsp;ANYTHING becuz of the way you&nbsp;react. </p><p>She will only put up with so much before she turns to someone else.</p><p>You could really be hurting her feelings by not trusting her or having any faith in her. One day you will wake up and she will be gone and out of reach. You will look back on the last five years and realize you were unable to enjoy her company/love becuz you were too much of a self centered, insecure,&nbsp;paranoid&nbsp;dude who spent the entire time waiting for the BOOM..instead of having fun and appreciating what you have TODAY. </p><p>It's all about today. One day at a time. Enjoy it. Try to treat her better than yesterday EVERYDAY. </p><p>LOVE - its the best feeling on earth ....when it works.&nbsp; and it's a slow death when it doesnt. But it IS WORK.</p><p>&nbsp;U wont just wake up one day with high&nbsp;self esteem. You have to &nbsp;earn it.&nbsp; You can do that by going to sleep each night knowing you treated the chick u love like a princess and made her smile. She will add to your esteem and give it back to you once she sees the change in you. .... </p><p>&nbsp;If she cheats on you - you will not die.&nbsp; If she leaves you - the sun will still rise and Ron and Fez and ronfez.net&nbsp;will be there to pull you thru the dark. You will meet someone else. </p><p><br />She is your first real love and right now it feels like the earth revolves around her... it doesnt. </p><p>it revolves around YOU. </p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p>

[sr71blackbird]

Make the self esteem issue a number one priority Kiethy, because women generally find low self esteem unattractive.&nbsp; Think about this: She will now be afraid to tell you things because of your reaction.&nbsp; You wont know if she does stuff/ has experiences with other guys etc.&nbsp; <br />Even though it hurts you to hear it, let her think nothing hurts you (women like &quot;bad boys&quot;, right?).<br />This way, you'll be in the loop, have the power to act as if nothing bothers you, which in tern increases your sexyness in her eyes.&nbsp; This all gives your self esteem a boost too!<br /><br />(Believe me, I know how hard it is to &quot;act&quot; this way.&nbsp; But it is all part of the game)

[Sheeplovr]

i wanna change your screen name to Keithemo 19<br />

[nate1000]

<p>Dude, </p><p>It's over, Johnny. Focus on&nbsp;looking around for the next victim, rather pining like a pus for&nbsp;the one who is quickly fading in the rear view mirror. Nothing helps the self esteem like a hot new piece.&nbsp;Move on. &nbsp;&nbsp;</p>

[walking joint]

chances are she probably will find someone else.&nbsp; sucks, but it happens.&nbsp;

[reeshy]

What Circus said.......you don't know what tomorrow will bring...so enjoy today...hell...you might wake up dead tomorrow and then it's all downhill from there anyway!!!!<br />

[grlNIN]

<p>&quot;I shouldn't have told you&quot; loosely translates to &quot;I'm purposely going out of my way to have you aware that guys are interested in me&quot;. All girls do it, whether they know it or want to admit to it.</p><p>You're also young and still in Highschool, relationships are hard enough as a mildly matured adult let alone at your stage &amp; adding distance...so just take it with a grain of salt.</p><p>If you feel she is deliberately trying to hurt your feelings or bruise your ego then just continue to call her out on it. Though, it's most likely nothing more than her crying out for your attention.&nbsp;</p>

[narc]

Weezer - "No One Else"<br>
My girl's got a big mouth<br>
With which she blabbers a lot<br>
She laughs at most everything<br>
Whether it's funny or not<br>
And if you see her<br>
Tell her it's over now<br><p>

I want a girl who will laugh for no one else<br>
When I'm away she puts her makeup on the shelf<br>
When I'm away she never leaves the house<br>
I want a girl who laughs for no one else<br><p>

My girl's got eyeballs<br>
In the back of her head<br>
She looks around and around<br>
You know it makes me sad to see her like that<br><p>

I want a girl who will laugh for no one else<br>
When I'm away she puts her makeup on the shelf<br>
When I'm away she never leaves the house<br>
I want a girl who laughs for no one else<br><p>

Please don't believe her<br>
She says that for anyone<br>
And if you watch her go...<br>
Watch her, watch her, watch her, would ya?<br>

[angelinad128]

<p>You have mentioned it before how you to have stuck together and gotten through some bad times. Trust her when she says they are dorks and don't mean anything. You knw she loves you.</p>

[Furtherman]

<p>You are out of high school?&nbsp; You're seperated by how many miles?&nbsp; Are you starting college?&nbsp; Her too, in another school?&nbsp; </p><p>If so....&nbsp; she's on her own somewhere else.&nbsp; Just be there for her, but don't expect too much.&nbsp; </p><p>Say hello to some girls in your school.&nbsp; </p>

[grlNIN]

<p>Wait, Keith's in college now?</p><p>When the hell did that happen?<br /></p>

[Jennitalia]

<div>Our li'l Keithy's all grown up!&nbsp; </div><div /><div>Even though you're both out of school (or at least you are), you are both still young, and it is really hard to maintain a long distance relationship, especially at your age.&nbsp; She's in a new environment, meeting new people, and probably likes the attention of the other boys.&nbsp; I mean, who wouldn't?&nbsp; It doesn't mean that she doesn't love you anymore.&nbsp; It's just a part of life.&nbsp; I remember how hard and emotional it was for me when I went to college and was separated from my boyfriend at the time.&nbsp; We both cared / loved each other, but it was just bad timing; we both had our lives to live, which meant living out new and exciting experiences.&nbsp; As hurtful as it was at the time, I still look back at that period with great fondness, and I wouldn't change anything for the world.&nbsp; Except to make him still alive.&nbsp; Try not to let this dig into you.&nbsp; As hard as it may be, you need to go out and meet new people also.&nbsp; And I don't mean meet as in get a new girlfriend.&nbsp; It's important to meet new people and form bonds with them, not just on the internet.&nbsp; But, keep the communication open with your girl, let her know how you feel, but don't lay on the jealousy constantly.&nbsp; As mentioned before, it'll only turn her off and push her away.&nbsp; Hang in there, bud.</div>

[Jujubees2]

<p><a href="http://arts.hkbu.edu.hk/~spalmquist/srp/gallery/40seagull3.jpg"><font size="2">If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, it's yours. If it doesn't, it never was.</font></a><br /><font size="2">- anonymous<br /></font></p><p><font size="2">Or you could just hunt it down and shoot it!</font></p><img height="196" src="http://arts.hkbu.edu.hk/~spalmquist/srp/gallery/40seagull3.jpg" width="225" border="0" />

[blakjeezis]

Jealousy is an absolute monster, dude. There is no more destructive force between two people.&nbsp; And I'm not saying don't be jealous. We all get jealous at times, but you gotta control that shit, keep it inside otherwise it will devour you and your relationship. It's time to make a decision, my young friend. Either be confident enough to know that your chick is with you and only you, make her and yourself miserable and crazy until you drive her away, or end the relationship and don't get in another one until you're ready to believe in yourself and it. Anything else is just begging for massive heartache, hours of depression and soul-searching, and sleepless nights. I promise you, I know. <br />

[Dirtybird12]

kill her.

[Don Stugots]

<hr color="cococo" align="left"></font><strong>keithy_19</strong> wrote:<br>I don't know how to get my self esteem issue under control. And, I guess I'm feeling guilty. But, I just didn't know for sure she was talking to other guys. Like, I assumed but then I heard her. And it just hit me the wrong way. I'm over reacting I know. I just really care about her...<hr color="cococo" align="left"><p></p>

[Doctor Z]

My bad... I thought you were still in HS.

[Jujubees2]

<p><font size="2">Of course Keithy, you could just follow the advice given to me by a wise man once</font></p><p><font size="2"><em><strong>&quot;Don't sweat the petty stuff.&nbsp; Pet the sweaty stuff.&quot;</strong></em></font></p>