Would you rather be in a bad relationship or alone

[mdr55]

<p>Reading the cheating thread made me think of this.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Would you rather be in a bad relationship or would you rather be alone. And why.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Thanks for sharing.<br />
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[feralBoy]

<p>I was actually just watching &quot;A thin red line&quot;, and the best line in the movie is when the guy asks sean penn, &quot;Do you ever get lonely?&quot;, and sean penn's reply is &quot;Only around people.&quot;</p><p>I feel like that's what bad relationships are like.&nbsp; Atleast for me.&nbsp; I never feel as lonely and alone as when i'm in a bad relationship.&nbsp; So I was rather just be alone.&nbsp; I think most people go the opposite way though.</p>

[Lumber]

Alone...Jeffy won't tolerate Cheating, leeching Bitches.

[AnomalisticAnna]

ALONE. I have been so for over a year and I cannot remember being
happier. It's amazing what you allow yourself to be exposed to once the
burden and the bullshit is gone. Hell.. I never would've found R&amp;F
had I not ended an awful relationship. <br />

[PapaBear]

I'm much happier being alone than when I was in my 2 bad marriages. The lack of sex sucks, though.

[TokeOne]

<p>Alone for sure. You still have your friends and your beer or whatever you like to do to have fun. Bad relationships usually make you lose your friends and your beer. </p>

[TooCute]

This is even a question?

Oy.

[dereckfishboy]

Are we talking about alone as in "not in a relationship" or "not getting any tail at all"?

[Ogre]

Agreed, alone is the much better of the two choices.&nbsp; One is tension and &quot;trying&quot; to make things work.&nbsp; The other is a self assured feeling that you can get it done and you don't NEED as much as you thought you did...

[Coach]

<p>Alone..&nbsp;I have lost all trust in women after 2 horrible relationships.</p>

[goatman]

I think it depends on the amount of responsibility you have. three years ago, I would have said alone. now I have a house, a dog (who I love more than my wife), and a job that requires a lot of traveling. in my case it's not only cheaper to keep'er, but also more convenient. at this point, I can still do what I want, knowing that she'll leave me eventually, but at least I have a dog and house sitter for now.

[AnomalisticAnna]

<p>&nbsp;</p><strong>PapaBear</strong> wrote:<br />I'm much happier being alone than when I was in my 2 bad marriages. <font size="3">The lack of sex sucks, though.</font><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Ehh.. at least we have our sanity..?</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><br />
</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Oh, who am I kidding.</p><blockquote /><p>&nbsp;</p>

[Justice4all]

<p>Alone. I have been in horrendous relationships. (I am sure SOME of you remember foofie-foo)</p><p>It is not worth the heartache or hassle. I recently ended two dating situations, both very amicable. I was happy about that. It is when you end it with the &quot;oh YEA? well fuck you too!!&quot; that sucks.</p>

[FUNKMAN]

<p>pretty broad term &quot;bad&quot;...&nbsp;&nbsp; there are situations where one person sees something as bad and another as no big deal</p>

[Fezticle98]

What's the point of being in a bad relationship?

[narc]

<hr color="cococo" align="left"></font><strong>FUNKMAN</strong> wrote:<br><p>pretty broad term "bad"... there are situations where one person sees something as bad and another as no big deal</p><hr color="cococo" align="left"><p></p>
Funkman's absolutely right. And I'd need to know what the sex is like before I commit to anything. <br><p>
I'm really terrible at breaking up, but I'm fantastic at sticking to my guns once it happens.

[Doogie]

<p>I am sure SOME of you remember foofie-foo</p><p>Name droppper...</p>

[A.J.]

Alone again...naturally.

[Don Stugots]

i have been a couple of bad relationships and i can honeslty say that alone is better.&nbsp; being with someone that doesnt like you for who you are or just wants to change you or wants you to be a soft spoken mutt instead of a crass, loud, cute, funny, pervert isnt worth my time.&nbsp;

[cupcakelove]

Alone.&nbsp; You should always be doing what brings you overall happiness in your life, and if you can't make yourself happy, then you will not be able find happiness in a relationship.&nbsp; Go it alone, discover what makes you happy, then work on building something serious.&nbsp; And have fun while you're figuring out what you need.<br />

[Keotok]

<hr width="100%" size="2" /><p> </p><strong>Coach</strong> wrote:<br /><p>Alone.. I have lost all trust in women after 2 horrible relationships.</p><p> </p><p>Should bomb squads start checking our <strike>packages</strike> mail?</p><p>(Changed 'cause some of you think from the gutter!)&nbsp;</p>

<span class=post_edited>This message was edited by Keotok on 9-27-06 @ 8:58 AM</span>

[Jennitalia]

i stayed in a &quot;relationship&quot; once because i didnt want to be alone.&nbsp; The thing is, i was completely miserable and felt more alone while i was with him than i was after we broke up.&nbsp; I guess i was used to having him in my life, having some type of stable routine, even though there were no romantic feelings (at least for me).&nbsp; i remember being really upset when we finally ended it, but i was actually grieving over the relationship prior to that in which i didnt allow myself to grieve, and after a day or two, i was actually just relieved it was finally done with .&nbsp;&nbsp; Next time i'm unhappy with something or someone, i'm out.

[AKA]

<p>I've done both - and alone is better. </p><p>It's a good question because how often do we see people stuck in bad relationships, partly out of a fear of being alone. I don't give Condi Rice much credit on anything, but her answer last week on 60 Minutes about not being obsessed with the idea of being married was kind of refreshing - how she would like to be married if she found the person she wanted to spend her life with, but that she basically wasn't looking to married just for that sake. </p>

[Skellington]

<p>^{<font size="3">I'd rather be alone than in&nbsp;a bad relationship.&nbsp; It took many bad relationships to truely appreciate being alone.&nbsp; No worries, no emotional stress, nothing to bitch at.&nbsp; But i guess everyone that is young goes through a phase that you 'need' to be with someone, and deal with a lot of shit and WON'T break up with someone.&nbsp; Once i hit 23/24 i just stopped caring and enjoyed my solitude.&nbsp; And now...i'm in a truely wonderful relationship and can appreciate it even more.&nbsp; I appreciate it so much, that i lifted my BJ ban.&nbsp; Giving roadhead is fun!</font>}</p>

[Furtherman]

<strong>wbskellington2</strong> wrote:<br /><p>^{<font size="3">&nbsp; I appreciate it so much, that i lifted my BJ ban.&nbsp; Giving roadhead is fun!</font>}</p><p>I just crashed.</p>

[ShelleBink]

Alone. Especially with all I've got going on, I wouldn't be able to handle a relationship, much less a shitty one.<br />

[Bill From Yorktown]

though it's been a lonely 2 years, it's better than being miserable in a bad relationship.&nbsp; At least I have some measure of control over my life.&nbsp; It's also shown me that I dont have to be miserable - if it isnt working and looks like it will never work, I can walk away...

[scorpion]

Alone.&nbsp;&nbsp; Its not worth staying in a bad relationship.&nbsp; You end up putting yourself through to much heartache for something that eventually will end anyway.<br />

[Doctor Z]

My right hand has never lied to me, so I'd rather be alone.

[keithy_19]

Alone. Being in a bad relationship is being alone but not being able to go and find something better.

[AKA]

<p>Sometimes this messageboard is like being both alone and in a bad relationship - but both&nbsp;in a good way.</p><p><img height="216" src="http://img382.imageshack.us/img382/4356/rockyhorror0720050063rn.jpg" width="288" border="0" /></p>

[jeffdwright2001]

<strong>PapaBear</strong> wrote:<br />The lack of sex sucks, though. <p>I never experienced many sex sucks in my first marriage, so being single wasn't that much difference.</p><p>I HATED being in a bad relationship, so being single was fine.&nbsp; There were times when I was just fine with only my self to blame for how I felt or what situation I happened to be in.</p>

[SatCam]

pretty broad term "bad"

pun intended?

[dereckfishboy]

So.... am I the only one here who has stayed in a horrible relationship because the sex was great?<br />

[narc]

<hr color="cococo" align="left"></font><strong>SatCam</strong> wrote:<br><hr color="cococo" align="left"></font>pretty broad term "bad"<hr color="cococo" align="left">

pun intended?<hr color="cococo" align="left"><p></p>
The sad fact is that regardless of relationship status, we live alone every single day and draw our last alone. Everything else is just bad poetry. <br><p>
The key thing is to enjoy yourself as much as possible while trying not to hurt other people.<br><p>
Have a nice day!!!

[keithy_19]

<p>So.... am I the only one here who has stayed in a horrible relationship because the sex was great?</p><p>Yes. You are a saint and a scholar. </p>

[narc]

<hr color="cococo" align="left"></font><strong>dereckfishboy</strong> wrote:<br>So.... am I the only one here who has stayed in a horrible relationship because the sex was great?<br /><hr color="cococo" align="left"><p></p> No, I stayed in a relationship because the sex varied from mediocre to fantastic with an occasional scary thrown in.

[keithy_19]

<p>The sad fact is that regardless of relationship status, we live alone every single day and draw our last alone. Everything else is just bad poetry. </p><p>I think I'm going to go break up with my girl friend and then slit my wrists. Thanks!</p>

[narc]

<hr color="cococo" align="left"></font><strong>keithy_19</strong> wrote:<br><p><hr color="cococo" align="left"></font>The sad fact is that regardless of relationship status, we live alone every single day and draw our last alone. Everything else is just bad poetry. <hr color="cococo" align="left"></p><p>I think I'm going to go break up with my girl friend and then slit my wrists. Thanks!</p><hr color="cococo" align="left"><p></p>
Sorry. I realize that sounded a little unnecessarily emo/goth. I don't think it's anything to be depressed about though. I think it's just the way it is.

[dereckfishboy]

<p>&nbsp;</p><strong>keithy_19</strong> wrote:<br /><p>&nbsp;</p>So.... am I the only one here who has stayed in a horrible relationship because the sex was great?<p>&nbsp;</p><p>Yes. You are a saint and a scholar. </p><p>&nbsp;</p><br /><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Well, I'm certainly not foolish enough to think that I'm the only guy who has put up with emotional rape in exchange for good sex, I was just curious to see how many other suckers there were. &nbsp;</p>

[keithy_19]

<p>Sorry. I realize that sounded a little unnecessarily emo/goth. I don't think it's anything to be depressed about though. I think it's just the way it is. </p><p>I was kidding. It was interesting though had you said everything was bad poetry, and yet the statement was very poetic. Bravo. And I mean that in all seriousness. </p>

[keithy_19]

Besides, if there is anyone on this board who is far to emo/goth, it's SatCam. He'd take offense maybe.

[GwEnYpOo]

<strong>Lumber</strong> wrote:<br />Alone...Jeffy won't tolerate Cheating, leeching Bitches. <p><img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/lol.gif" border="0" /></p>

[ShelleBink]

<p>&nbsp;</p><strong>narc</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>dereckfishboy</strong> wrote:<br />So.... am I the only one here who has stayed in a horrible relationship because the sex was great?<br /><p>&nbsp;</p> No, I stayed in a relationship because the sex varied from mediocre to fantastic with an occasional scary thrown in. <p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>....Scary?&nbsp;</p>

[keithy_19]

She would threaten to cut it off and sew it to his throat if the sex dissapointed. Thank God for Mickeys.

[Don Stugots]

<strong>dereckfishboy</strong> wrote:<br />So.... am I the only one here who has stayed in a horrible relationship because the sex was great?<br /><p>oh no.&nbsp; i was in a relationship with a friend of my sisters for abut a year that was destructive but the sex was great.&nbsp; she did everything (we were going to have a threesome but we just didnt get to it) and loved it but she had a drinking problem and would need to be pulled out of bars to avoid getting arrested or worse.&nbsp; she was going down in flames and i was going with her as long as&nbsp;my got my rocks off.&nbsp; until she sobered up.&nbsp; she wasnt as much fun in bed sober as when she was drinking.&nbsp; </p>

[narc]

<hr color="cococo" align="left"></font><strong>ShelleBink</strong> wrote:<br><p> </p><strong>narc</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>dereckfishboy</strong> wrote:<br />So.... am I the only one here who has stayed in a horrible relationship because the sex was great?<br /><p> </p> No, I stayed in a relationship because the sex varied from mediocre to fantastic with an occasional scary thrown in. <p> </p><p> </p><p> </p><p>....Scary? </p><hr color="cococo" align="left"><p></p>
Let me see if can demonstrate using allegory. <br><p>
You know how there are areas out west that some company or another wants to open up to strip mining? Some of them might be untouched or environmentally sensitive, and you don't necessarily want strip mining going on there because it would cause a lot of pain to the larger ecosystem. Well sometimes the company that wants to mine there just keeps trying to get a mining permit, and it drags on for a long period of time. And just when you thought they've given up, they ask again. <br><p>
That's what I mean by scary.

[ShelleBink]

<p>&nbsp;</p><strong>narc</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>ShelleBink</strong> wrote:<br /><p> </p><strong>narc</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>dereckfishboy</strong> wrote:<br />So.... am I the only one here who has stayed in a horrible relationship because the sex was great?<br /><p> </p> No, I stayed in a relationship because the sex varied from mediocre to fantastic with an occasional scary thrown in. <p> </p><p> </p><p> </p><p>....Scary? </p><p>&nbsp;</p>
Let me see if can demonstrate using allegory. <br /><p>
You know how there are areas out west that some company or another wants to open up to strip mining? Some of them might be untouched or environmentally sensitive, and you don't necessarily want strip mining going on there because it would cause a lot of pain to the larger ecosystem. Well sometimes the company that wants to mine there just keeps trying to get a mining permit, and it drags on for a long period of time. And just when you thought they've given up, they ask again. <br /></p><p>
That's what I mean by scary. </p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Allegories suck.&nbsp;</p>

[Don Stugots]

<strong>ShelleBink</strong> wrote:<br /><p>&nbsp;</p><strong>narc</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>ShelleBink</strong> wrote:<br /><p>&nbsp;</p><strong>narc</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>dereckfishboy</strong> wrote:<br />So.... am I the only one here who has stayed in a horrible relationship because the sex was great?<br /><p>&nbsp;</p>No, I stayed in a relationship because the sex varied from mediocre to fantastic with an occasional scary thrown in. <p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>....Scary? </p><p>&nbsp;</p>Let me see if can demonstrate using allegory. <br /><p>You know how there are areas out west that some company or another wants to open up to strip mining? Some of them might be untouched or environmentally sensitive, and you don't necessarily want strip mining going on there because it would cause a lot of pain to the larger ecosystem. Well sometimes the company that wants to mine there just keeps trying to get a mining permit, and it drags on for a long period of time. And just when you thought they've given up, they ask again. <br /></p><p>That's what I mean by scary. </p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Allegories suck.&nbsp;</p><p>i am allegoric to cat hair but this is not the thread to discuss that.</p>

[Don Stugots]

<strong>STUGOTS1</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>ShelleBink</strong> wrote:<br /><p>&nbsp;</p><strong>narc</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>ShelleBink</strong> wrote:<br /><p>&nbsp;</p><strong>narc</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>dereckfishboy</strong> wrote:<br />So.... am I the only one here who has stayed in a horrible relationship because the sex was great?<br /><p>&nbsp;</p>No, I stayed in a relationship because the sex varied from mediocre to fantastic with an occasional scary thrown in. <p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>....Scary? </p><p>&nbsp;</p>Let me see if can demonstrate using allegory. <br /><p>You know how there are areas out west that some company or another wants to open up to strip mining? Some of them might be untouched or environmentally sensitive, and you don't necessarily want strip mining going on there because it would cause a lot of pain to the larger ecosystem. Well sometimes the company that wants to mine there just keeps trying to get a mining permit, and it drags on for a long period of time. And just when you thought they've given up, they ask again. <br /></p><p>That's what I mean by scary. </p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Allegories suck.&nbsp;</p><p>i am allegoric to cat hair but this is not the thread to discuss that.</p><p>i got nothing for this one?&nbsp; god damn this is a cesspool of negativity</p>

[Gaia]

I would love to look like one of those people who is strong and knows whats right, and of course NOBODY wants to be in a bad relationship;&nbsp; I would&nbsp;SAY that if I was in a bad realtionship I would get out, however&nbsp;; in my last &quot;bad&quot; relationship it took two years to get out of....and that was with me kicking and screaming....I guess alot of the time I feel like I dont want to be alone. Maybe because Im afraid of what I will find if I spend too much time by myself.

[narc]

<hr color="cococo" align="left"></font><strong>ShelleBink</strong> wrote:<br><p> </p><strong>narc</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>ShelleBink</strong> wrote:<br /><p> </p><strong>narc</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>dereckfishboy</strong> wrote:<br />So.... am I the only one here who has stayed in a horrible relationship because the sex was great?<br /><p> </p> No, I stayed in a relationship because the sex varied from mediocre to fantastic with an occasional scary thrown in. <p> </p><p> </p><p> </p><p>....Scary? </p><p> </p>
Let me see if can demonstrate using allegory. <br /><p>
You know how there are areas out west that some company or another wants to open up to strip mining? Some of them might be untouched or environmentally sensitive, and you don't necessarily want strip mining going on there because it would cause a lot of pain to the larger ecosystem. Well sometimes the company that wants to mine there just keeps trying to get a mining permit, and it drags on for a long period of time. And just when you thought they've given up, they ask again. <br /></p><p>
That's what I mean by scary. </p><p> </p><p> </p><p>Allegories suck. </p><hr color="cococo" align="left"><p></p>

<sigh>If you really want to know, I'll tell you. In a more private way.