Breaking Up

[keithy_19]

<p>I've never really broken up with someone. I mean, stupid two week relationships I've ended, but nothing big. In fact, the relationship I'm in now is really my first serious relationship. Well, she moved and I don't see her as much as I'd like too. Her parents hate me and I don't feel comfortable going to see her at her parents homes. They won't let her go anywhere with me though. So, I can't take her to a movie or out to dinner. I feel so hopeless, and it's starting to wear me down and out. I never wanted to end it with her, but I can't keep on doing this. </p><p>I just don't know how to break up with someone I love...</p>

[foodcourtdruide]

<strong>keithy_19</strong> wrote:<br /><p>I've never really broken up with someone. I mean, stupid two week relationships I've ended, but nothing big. In fact, the relationship I'm in now is really my first serious relationship. Well, she moved and I don't see her as much as I'd like too. Her parents hate me and I don't feel comfortable going to see her at her parents homes. They won't let her go anywhere with me though. So, I can't take her to a movie or out to dinner. I feel so hopeless, and it's starting to wear me down and out. I never wanted to end it with her, but I can't keep on doing this. </p><p>I just don't know how to break up with someone I love...</p><p>If you really love her you shouldn't break up with her becuase of her parents. Don't let other people dictate your life. </p>

[keithy_19]

Unfortunately it does matter though. She lives under their roof. She lives far. She can't sneak out or anything. I haven't had a good night of sleep since she moved. Her parents hatred for me is making me not like myself. I feel like she'd be better if she never met me.

[suggums]

why do her folks hate you<br />

[terry1979]

<p>sometimes you just have to rise above all the problems that surround your relationship and realize that they are extenal factors, like her parents.&nbsp; You have to let love make the decision and learn to lift eachother up in bad times.&nbsp; Don't say good-bye, say you're gonna stay forever.&nbsp; Maybe this will help:</p><p>I don't wanna hear about it anymore<br />It's a shame I've got to live without you anymore (you don't have to)<br />There's a fire in my heart<br />A pounding in my brain<br />It's driving me crazy<br /><br />We don't need to talk about it anymore (just go with what feels right)<br />Yesterday's just a memory<br />Can we close the door<br />I just made one mistake<br />I didn't know what to say when you called me baby<br /><br />Don't say goodnight<br />Say you're gonna stay forever<br />Oh oo Oh, all the way<br /><br />Can you take me high enough<br />To fly me over (fly me over) yesterday<br />Can you take me high enough<br />It's never over<br />Yesterday's just a memory (yesterday's just a memory and)<br /><br />I don't want to live without you anymore<br />Can't you see I'm in misery<br />And you know for sure<br />I would live and die for you <br />And I'd know just what to do when you call me baby<br /><br />Don't say goodbye<br />Say you're gonna stay forever<br />Oh oo Oh, all the way<br /><br />Can you take me high enough<br />Can you fly me over (fly me over) yesterday<br />Can you take me high enough<br />It's never over<br />Yesterday's just a memory, I'm running<br />I was running for the door<br />The next thing I remember<br />I was running back for more<br /></p>

[keithy_19]

<strong>suggums</strong> wrote:<br />why do her folks hate you<br /><p>I have no clue. They don't even want to get to know me. She told her mom that I wanted to meet her and she said &quot;she doesn't want anything to do with me&quot;. Her dad seemed like a nice guy and then all of a sudden he started to not like me. </p><p>They are also terrible parents. Her mom once told her when she was younger and looking into a mirror that she should stop because &quot;she isn't that pretty.&quot; And her dad never compliments her. I feel so bad for her. </p>

[newport king]

<p>are you black or jewish? maybe you should try telling them what you get their daughter to do for you.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>seriously, sooner or later if you love this chick the parents will relax a little bit and deal with you. you're not dating them, youre dating her.</p>

[keithy_19]

<p>are you black or jewish? maybe you should try telling them what you get their daughter to do for you.</p><p>I'm not Cuban. That's the problem I think. If I were a hispanic kid then maybe they'd like me. It's probably a case of good old fashioned racism. </p><p>I don't know if I have enought strength to sit this one through though... </p>

[newport king]

<p>try and impress them with some spanish...</p><p>Usted hija adora el sanchez sucio.</p><p>or</p><p>Tu hija mugrienta adora el sabor de mi salchicha de leche. </p><p>you might want to try telling them you saw the beginning of scarface and don't believe he's a political prisoner.</p>

[FUNKMAN]

<p><strong><font size="1">Breaking Up</font></strong> </p><p>is hard to do, i know i know that it's true</p><p>just move on, there's not much else to say&nbsp;&nbsp; there's plenty of fish in the hudson</p>

[sr71blackbird]

<p><br /><br />The best way to behave in this situation is to act like you do not care(though you really do).<br />Find another and move on, dont even glance over your shoulder.&nbsp; </p><p>If you love somebody, set them free.&nbsp; <br />If they come back; they are yours.&nbsp; If they dont, they never were.</p>

[johnniewalker]

I had a girlfriend whose parent's hated me.&nbsp;&nbsp; Her parents beat her and she moved out to her grandparents who hated me even worse.&nbsp;&nbsp; It was never anything I said, i was always real polite and boring and totally unoffensive.&nbsp; They just didn't like me.&nbsp;&nbsp; Her parents didn't like me going places with her, so she would just sneak out and we would go to odd places and mess around.&nbsp; I think that's the sign of a committed relationship if she will defy her parents.&nbsp; If she's not willing to do that I'm afraid she's not worth it.&nbsp; There's so many good excuses to abuse your parent's trust that if she is giving you excuses she's either not creative enough or she's not into it.&nbsp; The whole being sneaky thing is so hot.&nbsp; I remember one time she stripped down to her thong and wanted to mess around with her deaf grandpa upstairs watching tv, and her abused aunt who also lived with her grandparents in the next room.&nbsp; She was the best.&nbsp;&nbsp; I hope your girlfriend will show the same committment to you.<br />

[keithy_19]

<p>She doesnt;' want to rbeak up with me though. I'm worried if I do she'll do something stupid. </p>

[keithy_19]

She is committed. I'm just so tired lately. It might be just me not feeling the relationship is worth it. And, I'm scared I think that.

[newport king]

if i'm not mistaken i read a post where she went away to college and youre not with her a whole lot. and you don't have enough confidence in yourself or your relationship to make it work with the distance (not knocking you just what i got from that post) just talk to her tell her you dont know if you can deal with the relationship with the distance and her parents. you can always try the not having such a serious relationship and see other people but lets be honest, who wants to think about their chick banging other guys. my advice is just talk it through with her.

[keithy_19]

<strong>newport king</strong> wrote:<br />if i'm not mistaken i read a post where she went away to college and youre not with her a whole lot. and you don't have enough confidence in yourself or your relationship to make it work with the distance (not knocking you just what i got from that post) just talk to her tell her you dont know if you can deal with the relationship with the distance and her parents. you can always try the not having such a serious relationship and see other people but lets be honest, who wants to think about their chick banging other guys. my advice is just talk it through with her. <p>I'm at college. But, I went to a County college to stay close to her. It was a dumb thing for me to do, but whatever. </p>

[ShelleBink]

I'm probably the last person to divulge relationship advice considering my shitty track record, but I found if its not working, and you're not trying to fix it, then its probably not worth it anymore.<br />

[newport king]

to add on to what she said, if you have to WORK to make it work its not worth it.

[Fez4PrezN2008]

<p>Is your last name Montegue and her last name Capulet - [And damn the public school system is you don't get this reference !!!! ]</p><p>Take a cue from the Bard son, go for it...just don't end it they way old Shakey did.&nbsp;When my wife and i got married, it was proclaimed that it would not last more than a year - 21 fuggin years later still going strong - ha, in their face !!!!!!!!!! </p>

[ShelleBink]

Yeh but your kid runs up your cell phone bill.<br />

[keithy_19]

<strong>Fez4PrezN2008</strong> wrote:<br /><p>Is your last name Montegue and her last name Capulet - [And damn the public school system is you don't get this reference !!!! </p><p>I personally don't like Romeo and Juliet. I felt it was very juvenile. Then again, some could say this whole thing with me and my girl friend is very juvenile too. </p>

[Fez4PrezN2008]

<p>If you love her, you love her and all the rest will fall into place. [Not easily] </p><p>Shell - good recall on that cell phone bill... <img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/happy.gif" border="0" /></p><p>Keithy, if you do break up with her, don't be a puss and break up with her by text msg. That is the lamest thing I have ever heard of.</p><p>Best of luck budday...............</p>

[keithy_19]

<p>Keithy, if you do break up with her, don't be a puss and break up with her by text msg. That is the lamest thing I have ever heard of.</p><p>I had no intention of doing that.</p><p>Tonight we talked about taking a break. And she's not into it and doesn't know what it will solve. I just feel like maybe she could figure out what's going on with her home situation and once that is in better start up again. </p>

[newport king]

<p><strong>keithy19: </strong>i think we should take a break. your parents are overbearing and i can't take it. i'm a man and i have to take a stand.</p><p><strong>girlfriend: </strong>no.</p><p><strong>keithy19: </strong>ok.</p><p>way to stand your ground.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>i'm just fucking with you.</p>

[boeman]

sounds like her parents are a bit mean to her... stick by her side, sounds like she needs someone to be there for her as much as you do.

[keithy_19]

We're on a break. I need to remember how much she means to me. How it was before all this shit started going down.

[Contra]

A Break=The end of the relationship. So you two pretty much broke up, congrats!

If that's not what you are looking for then a break is relationship suicide. I agree with some earlier comments that if she isn't willing to tell her parents to fuck off, or get off her back about you, then she isn't as into it as she's telling you. For god's sake you two are adults. If she goes out somewhere with you then what are they going to do, ground her? Put her in time out? She should tell her mom to suck a dick, and not her father's either. Maybe it would change her attitiude.

[keithy_19]

Well...funny story. We're back together...Heh...heh...

[Arienette]

<p>if you have to WORK to make it work its not worth it. </p><p>that is such crap.&nbsp; any real adult&nbsp;relationship is going to require a LOT of work to keep things going.&nbsp; relationships aren't easy under the best circumstances, and there are always going to be other things going on in both people's lives that are going to make things even harder.&nbsp; by your rationale, no relationship is ever worth it.&nbsp; that's no kind of advice.</p><p>that being said... </p><p>trouble with parents can be a major obstacle to a relationship, especially when the person is living with them still.&nbsp; that doesn't mean that it can't work, but she's got to be willing to fight for you to her parents.&nbsp; it sounds like they're not exactly model parents but if she's going to let them dictate who she's with, it'll never work.</p>