death

[phixion]

<p>my grandmother died this morning. and im not unhappy in fact im sort of relieved. her husband died in 1990 and she has wanted to join him since then. anyway in the last five years she has had 3 heart attacks two of them accompanied with a stroke. physically she was fine, well as fine as an old woman can be, but mentally she was completely gone. and since august we've just beenw aiting to for thecall we got this morning. </p><p>so to those people who have knew they were losing someone, due to illness or whatever did u feel taht same way? relief instead of grief?</p>

<span class=post_edited>This message was edited by phixion on 10-20-06 @ 3:03 PM</span>

[dereckfishboy]

I know the feeling. Watching someone die for years, we all felt relief. They hurt every day, we hurt every day watching them. Sometimes the greiving process takes place during the years you watch them slowly drift....<br />

[KC2OSO]

<p>I'm sorry for your loss but can totally understand the feeling of relief that goes along with the loss.&nbsp; My mom had leukemia for three years before she died.&nbsp; At the end we just gave the docs the ok to unplug all of the machines that were keeping her alive.</p><p>I felt guilty for being relieved that she finally passed probably like you do but I guess that's normal.&nbsp;</p>

[Dougie Brootal]

i felt the same way a couple of months back when my grandmother died. i feel for ya bro. im sorry to hear about it.

[Jujubees2]

<p>Sorry to hear of your loss.&nbsp; My father suffered from emphysema for years (smoked filter-less Chesterfields for over 60 years) before finally passing.&nbsp; He was on a feeding tube for almost a year which really killed him as he was a true Italian who loved to eat.&nbsp; I felt better after he passed knowing that he wasn't suffering any longer.</p>

[feralBoy]

My grandmother died 2 years ago, but she was in a coma for a while, then on life support for I guess the last month.&nbsp; My mom was just having so much trouble letting go, that she didn't want the plug pulled.&nbsp; I was so angry at her inside, because I knew my grandmother would not want to have been on life support.&nbsp; Finally my uncle had the plug pulled.&nbsp; Although I was sad and heartbroken, I was somewhat relieved that it was finally over.&nbsp; I felt guilty&nbsp;for a while after&nbsp;that, but in the end I think it's just a natural emotion.

[Kevin]

Sorry for your loss man. I only knew one grandparent and she died almost 10 years ago now. It really sucks.

[Don Stugots]

<p>my thoughts and prayers to you and your family in these tough times.&nbsp; Feeling relief is normal (i think).</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p>

[Bulldogcakes]

<p>Losing a Grandma is maybe the least hard of the people you'll lose in life, assuming you weren't very close to her. In a way, its how things are &quot;supposed&quot; to happen. If you lose someone much younger, its much harder to figure out and deal with. But all losses suck, and part of your life is missing from there on.&nbsp;<br /> </p><p>I lost both my Grandmas in the past few years. One had full blown Alzhiemers, the other was a shell of herself and made no sense by the end. When the mind goes, you feel like you already lost the person you knew a long time ago by the time they actually die. </p><p>Condolences, Bro. &nbsp;</p>

[FUNKMAN]

Sorry to hear it, my condolences!

[Resin]

My dad died Feb.&nbsp;8th. 2000 one day before his 69th BD.He was in and out of hospitals for at least 14 years.It was a relief for him.He HATED going to all different doctors.I couldn't bear to seeing him in hospital beds.The night he died I went right up to his bed and just stared and held him.It was such a relief to me.He was my best friend.I'm sorry for your lose.

[Gvac]

<p>&nbsp;</p><hr width="100%" size="2" /><strong>Billdogcakes</strong> wrote:<p>&nbsp;</p><p>I lost both my Grandmas in the past few
years. One had full blown Alzhiemers, the other was a shell of herself
and made no sense by the end. When the mind goes, you feel like you
already lost the person you knew a long time ago by the time they
actually die. </p><p>Condolences, Bro. &nbsp;</p> <p>
</p><hr width="100%" size="2" />My sentiments exactly.&nbsp; I mourned the loss of my Grandmother many months before she actually died.&nbsp; <br /><p><br /></p><p>&nbsp;</p>

[Clutch]

<p>I watched my dad pretty much deteriorate due to cancerin a hospital for the last month of his life.. the &quot;last straw&quot; came when seeing him on a ventaltor in ICU ... I prayed he'd make the biggest comeback every, but he died that nite. Watching a family suffer isn't something anyone should see.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>My condolences to you and your family.. rest assured your grandma is lookn down on you and smiling&nbsp;</p>

[ChimneyFish]

<p><strong><em><font face="georgia,times new roman,times,serif" size="2">Sorry about your loss.</font></em></strong></p><p><strong><em><font face="Georgia" size="2">My mother and my grandmother both died of cancer.</font></em></strong></p><p><strong><em><font face="Georgia" size="2">My mom was diagnosed, and died three months later. My grandmother died when I was young. I watched her waste away into nothing more than a living&nbsp;corpse at the end. Something that completely changed what kind of person I was. Looking back, it would have been better if she went sooner.</font></em></strong></p><p><strong><em><font face="Georgia" size="2">And to answer your question, in both cases I feel like I was robbed. On the other hand, I guess I'm relieved that they went when they did. I think my mother didn't even put up a fight after seeing what her mother went through.</font></em></strong></p>

<span class=post_edited>This message was edited by ChimneyFish on 10-21-06 @ 10:41 AM</span>