Has anyone ever HAD to pull the plug????Back

[cozzie]

back when I was 26 my Dad ,who was diabetic, when into  a diabetic coma, then eventually into a real coma.I watched him not being my "dad " for 2 weeks. Any way he was flown to a Vets hospiltal and was on life support. After about 4 days my older brother got a call that we needed to come to the hospital ,because our dad took a turn for the worse.My older brother and I left the next morning for a 1 hour ride, i have a younger brother  who did not want to go, and a younger sister who was in the  Hospital  about to deliever twins. Anyways about half way through the drive , me and my older brother started talking about maybe pulling the plug on our dad. After some arguing we decided we would see our Dad's options then if bad , pull the plug. We get to the Hospital,started talking to  our fathers doctor, while we were washing up, to go into the ICU unit. A nurse came over and got the doctor. They were gone for 5 Mins, then the Doc came back and told  us  that our Father had just passed away.         Saying all of that, i'm just wondering  If anyone has had a similar experiance?  How do you feel now?  And how do you deal with putting an end to a life  that brought you into this world??                             PS  --- I'm acting like fezzie and tearing up

[torker]

My stepbrother after a car accident.  Not the best of times.

[kellermcgee21]

I have no similar experience but that would have to one of the hardest things anyone could do.  That's a tough story man I'm sorry to hear it.

[nevnut]

<p>In May '02 my dad died of liver disease.&nbsp; He was on life support for a couple of days before we &quot;pulled the plug&quot;.</p><p>That was really tough but we all knew he was to far gone for a liver transplant and had to do it, and it was his wishes.</p>

[cozzie]

<strong>kellermcgee21</strong> wrote:<br />I have no similar experience but that would have to one of the hardest things anyone could do.&nbsp; That's a tough story man I'm sorry to hear it. <p>worst day of my life</p>

[HeyGuy]

<p>My brother and I never had to pull the plug on our father but he was sick for 20 years. Always wondering if he would die this day or that day. Its very tough to see your father lying in a hospitalbed not looking like the man you looked up to, strong and your idol. I did see my ather suffer the last few days of his life and I would have given anything not to have him suffer. I dont know what to tell you to make you feel like you did the right thing or not. I think you did, but its for you to get threw. </p><p>The last year or so of my fathers life he had to live in a assisted living type of home because he couldnt take care of himself and he had too many issues for anyone to handle. Now that hes gone I wish we didnt let him live there. He hated it and everyone else was like 80 and my father was only 57. I miss him everyday and relive his last year of his life almost everyday wishing I could have changed it or wishing I did more. I know deep down I couldnt butno matter what you blame yourself for a lot of things once they are gone.</p><p>Good luck trying to get over this, it will be hard but hopefully you forgive yourself and know you had no choice.</p>

[Yerdaddy]

I was with my mother when she died. You feel so helpless. I would not have wanted to make the decision and I feel for anyone who has to make that choice.