MY EX GIRLFRIEND JUST MYSPACE REQUESTED ME

[Dougie Brootal]

<p>we had a really, REALLY bad break up about 3 years ago, there was a child involved, i was real fucked up on drugs, booze etc. because she was leaving and i knew she was going to stop me from seeing the child (she was not mine, but we agreed i would raise her as mine). i dont know what to do. i dont have any problems with her, (though my current chick will if i start talking to her again) and i dont want her to think i do.</p><p>i want to add her if only to show her &quot;hey no hard feelings, you do what you think is right and hope for the best&quot;. </p><p>im afraid old anger may resurface though, and i really dont want my chick to take it the wrong way cuz weve been having some tough times latley.</p><p>im freaking out! what do i do?</p>

[johnniewalker]

<p>I facebooked my old girlfriend, it was sort of a bad breakup, but nothing of the sorts you are talking of.&nbsp; I still think new girlfriends or her new boyfriends should never get in the way of the past.&nbsp; It's still probably something you think about and you have some sort of emotional attachment even if you don't want to call it friendship or something even close to that.&nbsp; I still think it pays to be civil with someone that used to be so important to you, even if their meaningless to you now.<br /></p>

[Dougie Brootal]

<p>im inclined to agree, but i think the timing is a problem. my chick and i had a big argument last night and today my ex emails me? wtf?</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>im talking to her in emails right now. im getting really emotional. this is awful!</p>

[sr71blackbird]

Don't do it.&nbsp; Let her go and move on.&nbsp; Thats my advise.

[dereckfishboy]

I agree with Blackbird. You're stilling feeling emotions over the whole things, that much is clear. It'll just cause trouble. Re-connecting with an ex isn't being civil, it's drawing out a cut-off process that should already be over. It'll be better for everyone involved if you just ignore her, cuz it's already over.<br />

[Kevin]

<p>Doug.......... Did she do it before or after you finished those nissan commerical where you were living in your car?</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Ohhh and ignore her, you do not need to relive all of those emotions. I am sure you just got over them recently, they take time. So no way.</p>

[Bossanova]

Please do not do it.&nbsp; If you really dig your chick now, and she isnt cool with the whole siuation, bag this idea.&nbsp; Your chick is too important to blow it over a no hard feeling sentiment.

[Reephdweller]

<p><img height="127" src="http://i55.photobucket.com/albums/g130/douggrasso/antichrist.jpg" width="300" border="0" /></p><p>Sorry to go off-topic but I fucking love this sigpic! Love that movie.</p>

[Dougie Brootal]

1st. i appreciate everyones advice, but seriously, we're talking about adding someone on my myspace....its not like im gonna eat my exes pussy and establish a college fund for the kid. its just myspace.

2nd. i discussed it with my chick and shes ok with it.

so i went ahead and added her. she came at me immediately with an apology and has been respectful and kind in the messages we exchanged. i dont think it is a serious issue. but feel free to convince me otherwise.

[dereckfishboy]

<p>&nbsp;</p><strong>RonIsHankAaron</strong> wrote:<br />Please do not do it. If you really dig your chick now, and she isnt cool with the whole siuation, bag this idea. Your chick is too important to blow it over a no hard feeling sentiment.<p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Hit it on the head. Talking to this broad is disrespectful to your chick.&nbsp;</p>

[Dougie Brootal]

p.s.

thanks reef...i've always enjoyed your sigs as well!

[green_bay_jake]

it's a bad idea. &nbsp;you clearly have some sort of attatchment to this chick and that is going to be a problem. &nbsp;either you are going to fall for her again or be hurt by her. &nbsp;i hope that you can just keep it on a friendly level.

[spoon]

It all depends on a few things.&nbsp; Is this just both of you growing up and moving on with some class and making things right?&nbsp; Or is this a girl now alone again and looking to pick some low hanging and you were perplexed mainly bc you may too have some feelings for her still as well?&nbsp; It just doesn't seem needed and I'd be inclined to let her know you appreciated the gesture but would like to simply continue moving on.&nbsp; It really didn't sound like a healthy relationship anyway.

[keithy_19]

<p>Damn you Tom!</p><p><img height="177" src="http://content.answers.com/main/content/wp/en/thumb/d/dc/150px-Tom_Anderson.jpg" width="150" border="0" /></p><p><font size="6">Myspace. A place for experiencing past heartache. </font></p>

[K.C.]

<p>I don't know. </p><p>On one hand, I'm a firm believer in cutting all ties with Exs. </p><p>But on the other, I don't see the &quot;friend on Myspace or Facebook or whatever&quot; thing as that big a deal. </p><p>There's so many people who friend every single person they've ever came in contact with that I don't necessarily think it's a problem. </p><p>Where it becomes a problem is if either:</p><p>1) You know you'll find yourself frequently stalking her Myspace thing to keep tabs on her, because you can't help yourself. </p><p>2) You think she'll try to use this as a springboard to re-entering your life in some kind of larger capacity, which you don't want. </p><p>If either of those things are true, or you think they're true, I wouldn't do it. But if that's not the case, I say go for it. </p>

[PapaBear]

<a href="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/viewmessages.cfm/Forum/69/Topic/53653/page/IS_IT_POSSIBLE_THAT_RON___FEZ_ARE_NOT_THAT_FUNNY_" target="_self">HMMMM...</a>

[epic1es]

i think the fact that your questioning it means you shouldn't,its not gonna help your current relationship at all and it ended for a reason. After all the &quot;hey, how ya been&quot; talk is done you'll end up diggin up old bones.

[BYOBKenobi]

<p>My ex did the same thing, and when I replied to her email with &quot;what the fuck is this shit?&quot; she sent some apology about me being in her address book and it being an accident... but then she proceded to start asking me all these questions and wanting to know how i was doing.</p><p>My only response was &quot;remove me from your address book immediately.&nbsp; There is nothing you could say in any circumstance that I'd want to read&quot;</p><p>My breakup was horrific, so if your's was bad... just fucking cut her off.&nbsp; Girls want to remain friends but don't realize fucking other guys minutes after they &quot;need space&quot; or whatever doesn't really build a buddy buddy situation.&nbsp; I'm waaaaaay too territorial to be friends with an ex, and any girl I date knows it.&nbsp; It's pretty much date me, if things don't go well then you don't know me.</p>

[Fez4PrezN2008]

<p>Ex girlfriends are good... good for me to<strong><font size="3"> poop</font></strong> on</p><p><img src="http://i115.photobucket.com/albums/n293/JBphotojunk/triumph.jpg" border="0" width="177" height="150" /></p>

[LilLibra]

Don't do it. This will cause more problems for you in the long run.

[fiestygal]

<p>whats the point of you being friends with her ya know....</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>i just find it weird...</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>my ex is on there too apparently...why would i wanna try and be friends with someone again who fucked me over.... he is damn lucky he hasnt been fucked up.... yet...</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>haha</p>

[BYOBKenobi]

<p>There is no benefit to being friends with an ex.&nbsp; None.&nbsp; </p><p>Think about it.&nbsp; What do you get out of non-sexual friends?&nbsp; You have someone to talk to about the chicks in your life, work, issues you're going through, their life, their stories, the chicks/dudes in their lives, etc.&nbsp; Would you ever want to hear about the new boyfriends?&nbsp; Would you want to share the problems/events in your life with her?&nbsp; Would she give anything back at all that is of any substance?</p><p>I know that my friends would take a bullet for me without a second thought and I'd do the same for them.&nbsp; I have a bunch of girl friends that I look out for like family too.&nbsp; They are people I can talk to about anything who will have advice or just be someone to talk things through with.</p><p>On a basic level, they are fun to be around and we enjoy each others' company.</p><p>Would you get any of that from an ex?&nbsp; No fucking way.&nbsp; My new chick is &quot;friends&quot; with my ex due to working in the same industry in the same city and being the same age.&nbsp; I had to let her know that I was not comfortable with even being in the same room as my ex, so if there was a chance that she'd be there to let me know ahead of time.&nbsp; Why?&nbsp; Because I don't want her to be a part of my life</p><p>What does she want?&nbsp; She wants to be th good guy.&nbsp; She wants to feel like she did the right thing and that I'm fine with her decision for her own personal closure.&nbsp; Know what I wanted?&nbsp; Not to get cheated on.&nbsp; I didn't get what I wanted, so I'll be damned if I'm ever going to give her any satisfaction that she did the right thing or let her in on my life in any way.</p><p>Don't do it.&nbsp; Don't do it.&nbsp; Don't do it.&nbsp; I'm telling you with 100% certainty it will fuck something up down the road.</p>

[Don Stugots]

ex's do not make good friends.&nbsp; even old Friends with Benefits dont make for good friends if you are in a serious relationship.&nbsp;

[Clutch]

<strong>douggrasso</strong> wrote:<br /><p>we had a really, REALLY bad break up about 3 years ago, there was a child involved, i was real fucked up on drugs, booze etc. because she was leaving and i knew she was going to stop me from seeing the child (she was not mine, but we agreed i would raise her as mine). i dont know what to do. i dont have any problems with her, (though my current chick will if i start talking to her again) and i dont want her to think i do.</p><p>i want to add her if only to show her &quot;hey no hard feelings, you do what you think is right and hope for the best&quot;. </p><p>im afraid old anger may resurface though, and i really dont want my chick to take it the wrong way cuz weve been having some tough times latley.</p><p>im freaking out! what do i do?</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Ex's are Ex's for a reason... remmeber that, no matter who &quot;caused&quot; the breakup..it basically comes down to it not working out... why torment yourself with a round 2, when the first one never made it the full 3 minutes... be an aqaintance to your Ex and nothing more or else she's gonna grab you back in and the both of you are gonna get hurt again&nbsp;</p>

[shittyhambrgers]

theres no rule that says you have to be civil (or even speak to) an ex, it's just the emotional attachment everyone else has been saying.&nbsp; if you think things will be worse off after adding her, or you anticipate problems because of it, why bother?&nbsp; you're happy now?&nbsp; stay that way.