A month till a year

[keithy_19]

<p>I've been with my girlfriend for 11 months as of yesterday (11/13/06). During these past 11 months there has been so many things that have happend that could cripple a couple. Her mom hates me, her dad says he likes me and then only allows me to see her on his terms, she moved an hour away, jealousy, breaks, medical problems, anxiety, depression, ect. </p><p>I think it's pretty remarkable we made it this far. I feel stupid saying it, but I'm real proud of us. I love her and I want to be with her for the rest of my life. I know things change, and that a lot of times your feeligns blind you froms eeing the truth, but I don't care. I don't care what else is out there when I know I'm happy with her. I'm going to ride this high as long as I can, and if we make it through this year I think we have a good chance of being together for a real long time.</p><p>With that being said, I am lost as to what to give her for our one year anniversary. I want to give her something reakky nice since it's been a year and it's been a real hard one. She deserves it for all the problems she's endured. Does anyone have any ideas as to what would be a good gift?</p>

[Krieger]

Thats really awesome to hear. If she's into any bands or shit you can get her authentic shit, like a shirt worn by a band member or something. Or if she has a favorite tv show thats live you can get tickets there or just get her some jewelry or something.

[keithy_19]

It might be hard for me to get clothing that a person in a band wore, as well as out of my price range. I was thinking of getting her a really, really nice necklace, but I'm not sure if that's a good gift or not. ANy ladies who would like to share what they would want for a one eyar anniversary feel free to chime in.

[cozzie]

<p>NO, NO, NO, NO!!</p><p>do not buy anything too expensive , because next year you will have to top it, and the top that the year after next and so on.....</p><p>3 questions for you, #1 how old are you?, #2 how bad do her parents dislike you , and #3 how often do you see her?</p>

[keithy_19]

<strong>cozzie</strong> wrote:<br /><p>NO, NO, NO, NO!!</p><p>do not buy anything too expensive , because next year you will have to top it, and the top that the year after next and so on.....</p><p>3 questions for you, #1 how old are you?, #2 how bad do her parents dislike you , and #3 how often do you see her?</p><p>1. 18</p><p>2. her dad sort of likes me but i can tell he doesnt want me dating his daughter. her mom hates me and wants nothing to do with me. </p><p>3. one a week since she moved. her dads rule. we talk every day though. </p>

[Gvac]

<p>Something from your heart, not your wallet.&nbsp; </p><p>If she's as special as you say she is she'll appreciate it far more than anything of monetary value. &nbsp;</p><p>And just for the record, this may be the coolest thread title ever.&nbsp;</p>

[cozzie]

All right&nbsp; buddy thanks for the answers, You are a young man take her out for a NICE dinner, don't buy her nothing expensive. You are feeling signgs of you first love and believe me it won't be your last.If her parents don't like you , you have a very tough road to hoe, i wish you much luck in your life, and hope this relationship works out for you , but do not buy anything expensive for her,&nbsp; or put yourself in debt until you win her Mom and Dad over.

[cozzie]

btw listen to us old bastards on here , we've been through it done that.

[K.C.]

<strong>keithy_19</strong> wrote:<br /><p>&nbsp;Does anyone have any ideas as to what would be a good gift?</p><p>A pregnancy. That'll show her parents. </p>

<span class=post_edited>This message was edited by K.C. on 11-14-06 @ 10:51 PM</span>

[Landblast]

<font size="2"><em>it really sounds like you guys got something goin, if you love her alot, and she loves you alot, take her out for a great dinner&gt;something cool and new, and give her a little something special, but just spend <strong>alot of time with her really up close.</strong></em></font><br />

<span class=post_edited>This message was edited by Landblast on 11-14-06 @ 10:59 PM</span>

[johnniewalker]

<strong>Landblast</strong> wrote:<br /><font size="2"><em>it really sounds like you guys got something goin, if you love her alot, and she loves you alot, take her out for a great dinner&gt;something cool and new, and give a little something special, but just spend <strong>alot of time with her really up close</strong>,...it's always worked for me</em>.</font><br /><p>&nbsp;</p>I'm with everyone here, plan a special night and don't focus on the gift so much.&nbsp;&nbsp; Just find a real cool place to take her out to, but make it comfortable.&nbsp; The whole point is to spend time with her. <br />

[Krieger]

Or do this! Remove your left nad and craft it into a necklace ! It'll be so meaningful for a girl. &quot;oh man id give my left nut to be with a chick like that&quot; There you go , you did it and she knows it. She knows she's something special!

[keithy_19]

Thanks for the advice. I know the gift doesnt matter, but I think I'm going to give her a necklace with a heart pendant with the date we started dating inscribed on the back of the heart.

[keithy_19]

<strong>Gvac</strong> wrote: <p>And just for the record, this may be the coolest thread title ever.&nbsp;</p><p>Thanks. <img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/clap.gif" border="0" /></p>

[MadBiker]

<p>Keithy, your heart is in the right place but I would not spend a lot of money on a lavish gift.&nbsp; At your age, the money is hard to come by.&nbsp; You do not indicate that you or she are either 1) in college or 2) plan to enter college or 3) have plans for a career right out of high school.&nbsp; Whichever direction you choose for your respective futures, you have to be realistic in your expectations for the relationship in the context of your individual plans.</p><p>I am not old but I am a bit of a &quot;salt&quot; in the relationship arena.&nbsp; At 18, you are best off having good times with good people.&nbsp; You are in the flush of first love and should take everything (good and bad) that you may from the experience.&nbsp; I suggest a nice dinner, perhaps a small trinket or token of affection (a nice silver ring or some earrings with gemstones).&nbsp; I hesitate to condone underage drinking, but since I disagree with legal drinking age laws anyway, perhaps you could find a way to finagle a nice bottle of wine or some good beer (whatever HER preference might be, if she has any) to finish off the evening.</p><p>At your age, memories of good times will be more precious to you and to her than any material item you can present.&nbsp; Focus on the making of good times with good friends, whether those good times be with a boyfriend or a dozen buddays.&nbsp; It will leave you both with a chance for a lasting smile when you look back on a time in your lives.</p><p>Best of Luck!</p><p>MB</p>

[keithy_19]

<p>See. The problem is it's real hard tot ake her out to dinner when her dad is a douchebag. The only reason I put up with it is because she makes me feel better than anyone can. That sounds real sappy, but it's the truth. </p>

[Jujubees2]

<p><font size="2">Your could always give her the&nbsp;gift that keeps on giving... Gonorrhea</font></p><p><font size="2">Do you have a nice picture of the two of you?&nbsp; Maybe get a nice frame for it and write her a really nice card welling her how you feel.&nbsp; Or make her a real nice gift.&nbsp; I remember when I was younger, I took some sea shells and mounted them in a frame with a poem I wrote (trust me, it wasn't a thing of beauty but it came from the heart).&nbsp; She loved it.&nbsp; Even after she dumped me she would keep it on her dresser.</font></p>

[Justice4all]

<p>You could always give her a pearl necklace.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>*looks up* whoops...wrong forum for that.</p><p>All joking aside, you are young. Do not get her anything too serious.</p><p>You might want to consider just taking her out to dinner at a nice restaurant with some flowers. Make it slightly romantic and, more importantly, fun.</p><p>If you have/want to give her something, try a teddy bear holding a rose (put a real rose inside the arms) and have the teddy bear say something nice (Luv you, be Mine, something sweet) and that should suffice ALONG with dinner. So she gets the bear and a nice night out.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Good luck.</p><p>And if her parents object to you taking her out to dinner for your anniversary take a stern stand on it.</p><p>Remind them it has not been easy with the distance and everything and pick a restaurant close by her so they have little to make a stink over.</p><p>If they continue to bitch about it then just fuck em and do what you want with her. Sounds like they might be helocopter parents (always hovering over their kid)</p>

[lindak]

<p>The necklace with the date is nice if you cant do anything together and want to give her something. </p><p>However, this sounds like its going to be a totally difficult relationship to maintain.&nbsp; And not to make light of your feelings because they are genuine but I believe&nbsp;there will probably be other relationships before you do find the one to end all others.&nbsp; 18 is very young to get that serious.&nbsp; </p><p>&nbsp;</p>

[UnknownPD]

<font size="2">How old is she?</font>

[MrPink]

Girls love free coke...

[deliciousbabies]

<p>I've been with the same lady for 8 years... when we were at 1 year (I was the same age as you) i got her a 40 dollar claddah ring... don't spend a lot of money... you have a lot of things working against you... but i'm optimistic</p>

[keithy_19]

<strong>UnknownPD</strong> wrote:<br /><font size="2">How old is she?</font> <p>28 single parent. </p>

[UnknownPD]

<strong>keithy_19</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>UnknownPD</strong> wrote:<br /><font size="2">How old is she?</font> <p>28 single parent. </p><p><font size="2">28 and you're having &quot;parent&quot; problems? No offense, but there's something wrong with this picture. &nbsp;</font></p>

[Furtherman]

<p>She's 28... a single Mom... and you're 18?</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>There are a thousand cliches for that situation... but... uh... I wouldn't spend too much money on a year anniversary.&nbsp; </p>

[johnniewalker]

Scratch this post<br />

<span class=post_edited>This message was edited by johnniewalker on 11-18-06 @ 3:21 PM</span>

[Poochie]

<p>I won't mention the obvious fact this relationship is not the best if you say &quot;<em><strong>I think</strong></em> it's pretty remarkable we made it this far&quot; and &quot;<strong><em>if we make it through</em></strong> this year <strong><em>I think</em></strong> we have a good chance of being together for a real long time&quot;--you don't sound too confident.. And why is she letting her father tell her what to do???</p><p>that aside...I am a 28 yr old woman..things I have gotten for the one year include:</p><p>-nothing</p><p>-an excellent dinner and a&nbsp;mediocre fuck</p><p>-a marriage proposal</p><p>Soooo..her being a single mother, perhaps a nice day at the spa? Message, facial, manicure? That way she uses it right away &amp; can take a day away from the kid. Maybe meet her for dinner afterward, say some nice shit to her and get her drunk. Dont spend the money on the expensive jewlery, you won't be sure what she likes, she will always expect something like that, and will pawn it after the breakup to buy her new boyfriend a watch.</p>

[dereckfishboy]

<strong>Furtherman</strong> wrote:<br /><p>She's 28... a single Mom... and you're 18?</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Attaboy is what <em>I</em> say! </p>

[dereckfishboy]

<strong>Poochie</strong> wrote:<p>Dont spend the money on the expensive jewlery, you won't be sure what she likes, she will always expect something like that, and will pawn it after the breakup to buy her new boyfriend a watch.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Not really related to Kiethy's situation, but that reminds me of the time my ex-wife was banging one of my friends and offered to sell him her wedding ring to propose to his fiance with. Yup, ex's sure are cool. </p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Anyways, if you're going to throw money towards the aniversery, you'd probably do best to give her a memorable evening.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p> <span class="post_edited"></span>

<span class=post_edited>This message was edited by dereckfishboy on 11-18-06 @ 7:35 AM</span>

[lleeder]

Your 18 and shes 28 with a kid. Get her something small that will mean alot. Keep the reciept and next year when you two aren't together you'll feel btter that you didn't waste your money on her.

[keithy_19]

<p>I broke the big rule of this thread and made a joke.</p><p>&nbsp;She's 16. Not 28 and a single parent. </p>

[Fez4PrezN2008]

<strong>keithy_19</strong> wrote:<br /><p>Does anyone have any ideas as to what would be a good gift?</p><p><font size="3">Keithy - the perfect gift for someone in your shoes...</font></p><p><img src="http://i115.photobucket.com/albums/n293/JBphotojunk/mixtape.jpg" border="0" width="400" height="284" /></p><p>Enjoy ! And happy 11 month anniversary...</p>

[Don Stugots]

<strong>Fez4PrezN2008</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>keithy_19</strong> wrote:<br /><p>Does anyone have any ideas as to what would be a good gift?</p><p><font size="3">Keithy - the perfect gift for someone in your shoes...</font></p><p><img src="http://i115.photobucket.com/albums/n293/JBphotojunk/mixtape.jpg" border="0" width="400" height="284" /></p><p>Enjoy ! And happy 11 month anniversary...</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>wow a mixed tape.&nbsp; good idea. &nbsp; we can all help you make the play list.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>good luck to you bro. &nbsp;&nbsp;</p>

[keithy_19]

<p>I've made her like 20 mix cd's. </p><p>Not as vintage as a mix tape I suppose, but more practical. </p>

[lleeder]

<p>Its not a real mix tape unless it has...</p><p><img src="http://jackwolak.com/7/4692.jpg" border="0" width="325" height="326" /></p>

[keithy_19]

<p>Todays the day. I drove up to see her and gave her my gift and she gave me mine. It was a pocket watch with my intials engraved in it and a message. My gift was a silver necklace with a heart locket. </p><p>She didn't seem evry enthused with it but whatever.</p><p>I dropped her back off at her school and her friends asked her to show themw hat I got her. She showed them and one girl said &quot;it looks cheap&quot; and another said &quot;maybe he's just messing around with you&quot;. At this point my girlf riend started to cry.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>I'm so pissed right now. Pissed and upset. I feel like I fucked up, but I thought our relationship wasn't about material thigns. I guess I may have beenw rong...</p>

[MHasegawa]

her friends are cunts, fuck that noise dude

[keithy_19]

<strong>MHasegawa</strong> wrote:<br />her friends are cunts, fuck that noise dude <p>you're the second person who's said that about her friends. </p>

[reillyluck]

<strong>keithy_19</strong> wrote:<br /><p>Todays the day. I drove up to see her and gave her my gift and she gave me mine. It was a pocket watch with my intials engraved in it and a message. My gift was a silver necklace with a heart locket. </p><p>She didn't seem evry enthused with it but whatever.</p><p>I dropped her back off at her school and her friends asked her to show themw hat I got her. She showed them and one girl said &quot;it looks cheap&quot; and another said &quot;maybe he's just messing around with you&quot;. At this point my girlf riend started to cry.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>I'm so pissed right now. Pissed and upset. I feel like I fucked up, but I thought our relationship wasn't about material thigns. I guess I may have beenw rong...</p><p>dude, your girlfriends friends are total cunts.&nbsp; that shit was totally uncalled for.&nbsp; regardless of how cheap the gift looked, they had no right to say that shit.&nbsp; </p><p>EDIT:&nbsp; count me as three people who said that about her friends<img src="/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/bye.gif" border="0" width="26" height="18" /></p>

<span class=post_edited>This message was edited by reillyluck on 12-13-06 @ 5:37 PM</span>

[johnniewalker]

I don't want to state the obvious, but that didn't go so hot.&nbsp; What was wrong with your girlfriend?

[keithy_19]

<strong>johnniewalker</strong> wrote:<br />I don't want to state the obvious, but that didn't go so hot.&nbsp; <strong>What was wrong with your girlfriend?</strong> <p>What do you mean?</p>

<span class=post_edited>This message was edited by keithy_19 on 12-13-06 @ 6:14 PM</span>

[lleeder]

<strong>keithy_19</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>johnniewalker</strong> wrote:<br />I don't want to state the obvious, but that didn't go so hot.&nbsp; <strong>What was wrong with your girlfriend?</strong> <p>What do you mean?</p><span class="post_edited">This message was edited by keithy_19 on 12-13-06 @ 6:14 PM</span> <p>She seems like she has confidence issues if she needs to validated by her friends and material things. The next gift you should get her is the door slamming in her unappreciative face.</p>

[keithy_19]

<p>She does have confidence issues, as do I. She didn't need the gift validated by her friends. Her friends just made a comment that made her think far to much about the situation. She actually apologized to me just a little bit ago. She was very sincere too. </p><p>And if I were to break up with her I would be just as hurt as her. </p>

[lleeder]

<strong>keithy_19</strong> wrote:<br /><p>She does have confidence issues, as do I. She didn't need the gift validated by her friends. Her friends just made a comment that made her think far to much about the situation. She actually apologized to me just a little bit ago. She was very sincere too. </p><p>And if I were to break up with her I would be just as hurt as her. </p><p>I hope your right but don't be the guy sitting here next year rereading this thread saying &quot;Fuck I could have gotten out when I had the chance&quot;</p>

[keithy_19]

<p>I know I'm right. </p>

[johnniewalker]

<strong>keithy_19</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>johnniewalker</strong> wrote:<br />I don't want to state the obvious, but that didn't go so hot. <strong>What was wrong with your girlfriend?</strong> <p>What do you mean?</p> <span class="post_edited">This message was edited by keithy_19 on 12-13-06 @ 6:14 PM</span><p>&nbsp;I didn't mean anything bad by it,&nbsp; did everything else go well or was something going on before she started crying.&nbsp; Or was it just those girls who ruined everything? </p>

[keithy_19]

<strong>johnniewalker</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>keithy_19</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>johnniewalker</strong> wrote:<br />I don't want to state the obvious, but that didn't go so hot. <strong>What was wrong with your girlfriend?</strong> <p>What do you mean?</p><span class="post_edited">This message was edited by keithy_19 on 12-13-06 @ 6:14 PM</span> <p>&nbsp;I didn't mean anything bad by it,&nbsp; did everything else go well or was something going on before she started crying.&nbsp; Or was it just those girls who ruined everything? </p><p>I figured you didn't mean anything bad by it. It sounded like I got defensive. Oh written word. </p><p>Everythign went real well. I gave her the gift. She liked it. She gave me mine. I liked it. We got some chinese. Had a nice meal and I drove her back to school. I went home&nbsp;and get some sleep since I was tired from the ride there and back home. Then the phone rang and it was her and I could tell she was upset. That's when she told me about the girls and evrything. Then I had some JD and coke and listened to music and tried to mellow out. </p>

[Ritalin]

<strong>keithy_19</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>johnniewalker</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>keithy_19</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>johnniewalker</strong> wrote:<br />I don't want to state the obvious, but that didn't go so hot. <strong>What was wrong with your girlfriend?</strong> <p>What do you mean?</p><span class="post_edited">This message was edited by keithy_19 on 12-13-06 @ 6:14 PM</span> <p> I didn't mean anything bad by it, did everything else go well or was something going on before she started crying. Or was it just those girls who ruined everything? </p><p>I figured you didn't mean anything bad by it. It sounded like I got defensive. Oh written word. </p><p>Everythign went real well. I gave her the gift. She liked it. She gave me mine. I liked it. We got some chinese. Had a nice meal and I drove her back to school. I went home and get some sleep since I was tired from the ride there and back home. Then the phone rang and it was her and I could tell she was upset. That's when she told me about the girls and evrything. Then I had some JD and coke and listened to music and tried to mellow out. </p><p>&nbsp;Dude, if you were listening to music, it should be Foghat. Makes you feel better.</p>&lt;&gt;&nbsp;And, her girlfriends WERE cunts.&nbsp;

[Poochie]

that sounded like a nice gift, given your/her age..teenage girls can be such bitches.

[Don Stugots]

<strong>johnniewalker</strong> wrote:<br />Scratch this post<br /> <span class="post_edited">This message was edited by johnniewalker on 11-18-06 @ 3:21 PM</span><p>&nbsp;i will scratch yours if you scratch mine.<br /> </p>

[sailor]

<strong>lleeder</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>keithy_19</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>johnniewalker</strong> wrote:<br />I don't want to state the obvious, but that didn't go so hot. <strong>What was wrong with your girlfriend?</strong> <p>What do you mean?</p><span class="post_edited">This message was edited by keithy_19 on 12-13-06 @ 6:14 PM</span> <p>She seems like she has confidence issues if she needs to validated by her friends and material things. The next gift you should get her is the door slamming in her unappreciative face.</p><p>&nbsp;<font size="2">she's 16, of cours<font size="2">e &quot;</font></font><font size="2">she has confidence issues if she needs to validated by her friends.&quot;&nbsp; the only thing that confuses me...your gifts sounded really compatible (without actually seeing either one).<br /></font></p>

[keithy_19]

<strong>bronxmarc</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>lleeder</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>keithy_19</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>johnniewalker</strong> wrote:<br />I don't want to state the obvious, but that didn't go so hot. <strong>What was wrong with your girlfriend?</strong> <p>What do you mean?</p><span class="post_edited">This message was edited by keithy_19 on 12-13-06 @ 6:14 PM</span> <p>She seems like she has confidence issues if she needs to validated by her friends and material things. The next gift you should get her is the door slamming in her unappreciative face.</p><p>&nbsp;<font size="2">she's 16, of cours<font size="2">e &quot;</font></font><font size="2">she has confidence issues if she needs to validated by her friends.&quot;&nbsp; the only thing that confuses me...your gifts sounded really compatible (without actually seeing either one).<br /></font></p><p>I guess we just...know each other really well. And we're in love. And dealing with a lot of the stuff we have, I can honestly say I love this girl.</p>

[Snacks]

<p>congrats!!!</p><p>&nbsp;</p>

[keithy_19]

<strong>Snacks</strong> wrote:<br /><p>congrats!!!</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Thanks!</p><p>And&nbsp;thanks for&nbsp;having an avatar that makes me smile! </p>

[Snacks]

<strong>keithy_19</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>Snacks</strong> wrote:<br /><p>congrats!!!</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Thanks!</p><p>And&nbsp;thanks for&nbsp;having an avatar that makes me smile! </p><p>haha your welcome. Im looking for a new one any places to find these things?</p>