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ezshark

11-23-2006, 08:31 PM

Here is the situation I find myself in: About six months ago I met an amazing girl. Right when I first met her, things clicked in a way that they haven't for me with anybody else. We kept hanging out, going to see movies, talking on the phone all the time, but things never moved anywhere beyond friendship. I don't have very much experience with these things, but the only way I can think of to describe the euphoric rush she gives me is to say I love her. There's nobody else that I'd want to spend any time with. She seems to also be interested in me, but for some reason things just haven't moved along, and I don't know why. The uncertainty and frustration of all of this is literally driving me crazy. Before I met her I had been very depressed for a very long time, but after I met her that disappeared, and I think she caused that. Recently however, I've noticed those same type of depressed thinking patterns creeping back in. A couple of weeks ago I had a total nervous break-down, and I felt as bad as I ever had. I ended up spilling my guts out to her, and she didn't give me a clear, unambiguous answer. She's working very hard right now, she's a freshman in college, and she said that she's not ready for such a relationship right now, but she avoided saying if she would want such a one with me if she were ready for one. I can't help but think of what I have going against me, she's two years older than I am, a college freshman, I'm a high school senior, she's beautiful, sexy, smart, she could land a guy much more desirable than me. I'm lost right now, any sort of advice would really help and be appreciated. Thanks.

SinA

11-23-2006, 08:37 PM

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Don Stugots

11-23-2006, 08:50 PM

just go with it and see where it takes you. dont have any expectations, this way no matter where it goes, you cant be let down. if she dumps you, move on. there is plenty of hot twat out there to go around.<a href="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/viewmessages.cfm/Forum/81/Topic/52177/page/About_This_Forum.htm">About_This_Forum.htm</a> 

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FezPaul

11-23-2006, 09:02 PM

She just wants the attention you're giving her.Nothing else.Find someone else.Someone in High School.

Don Stugots

11-23-2006, 09:03 PM

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Team_Ramrod

11-23-2006, 09:56 PM

The thing with love is; it feels so great when your in it but hurts like hell when it goes bad. You are still young, maybe you should step back and analyze things. While you sound like you have already fallen for her you might want to look at both of your positions. Where the two of you are in life and what your plans are in the future. Perhaps this euphoria is not love but you finding someone who is your best friend and you are excited about finally finding somone who shares the same interests as you.There could be so many things causing you to feel like this, I'm just here to hopefully stop you from getting hurt. Love is a horrible, horrible thing. You should run from this and never look back, and maybe consider doing this everytime that adrenaline rush called love kicks in around a female.Like previously said, it could just be that she likes the attention you are giving her and now she knows she has you where she wants you.Whatever the situation, be careful not to put yourself in a situation to get hurt. Cause man, that f'n sucks. Anyway, GOODLUCK!

Poochie

11-24-2006, 03:17 AM

get out now. she is in college, your in high school. she's in her exploratory phase.

ezshark

11-24-2006, 03:28 PM

Thanks for the help. I think I could view what's going on as an addiction: whenever I'm able to be with her, I feel as good as I've ever felt, and when I'm not I feel much worse. The biggest problem is how this is screwing with my mood, I've no idea how I'll be feeling from one day to the next. Sometimes I'm okay with the way things are, it doesn't bother me, and maybe five hours later I'm scraping rock bottom. Thanks for all the advice, I think I'm going to try to diversify my options, and hope things stabilize at some point, without all this oscillating across the entire spectrum of emotions.

reeshy

11-24-2006, 03:33 PM

The thing is...you're both young...you'll meet other people...fall in love ...and fall out out of love...I didn't get married til I was 29......give it a break and meet other people!!!

lleeder

11-24-2006, 03:52 PM

I know what you feel when your with her feels good but its a waste of your time. She doesn't want anymore from you than what you too have now. You need to go out there and meet people in your school that are your own age. Maybe even a girl that your not that into. Experiment, find someone that feels about you the way you know feel about this girl.

ezshark

11-24-2006, 04:58 PM

That'd be good, if I was able to find a girl that feels that way about me. I think I'd like to feel a little more in control, and not subject to the petty whims of another person. I know that I am, we're both, still very young, I barely started to shave, what the hell do I know about love or relationships? I'll try to give it time, and hope that helps the feelings fade away. How do you guys look back at your first really bad heartache?

lintpit

11-24-2006, 06:42 PM

Just a Thought. In your first post you stated that she could have someone more desirable than yourself. You need to get your head around the fact that she wants YOU. not the other way around. She is LUCKY you spend time with her at all because you sir are the shit! There is no one better looking, better in the sack, or more desirable than you. All men and women really should get a better grip on their self deprication and loathing. Don't be vain but be proud. We all desrve the very best. Even you.

trackstand

11-24-2006, 07:02 PM

"Just a Thought. In your first post you stated that she could have someone more desirable than yourself. You need to get your head around the fact that she wants YOU. not the other way around. She is LUCKY you spend time with her at all because you sir are the shit! There is no one better looking, better in the sack, or more desirable than you. All men and women really should get a better grip on their self deprication and loathing. Don't be vain but be proud. We all desrve the very best. Even you."DAMN, ditto.........WHAT THIS PERSON JUST SAID!!