Loneliness...

[Poochie]

I just got back from a night out with 4 couples. I honestly don't think I have ever felt so lonely in my life. I am 28 yrs old and have been in nothing but crap relationships. All of my friends are married, I live and work alone, how the hell do I meet people and stop this feeling? Places like match.com really don't appeal to me. Any ideas? This is really getting to me.  oh, and I just called and ex-boyfriend who really didn't give a shit about me, made a total ass of myself in a message I left him, and no, I have not been drinking.

<span class=post_edited>This message was edited by Poochie on 11-25-06 @ 4:57 AM</span>

[sr71blackbird]

Going out like you did was probably one of the best things.&nbsp; Maybe someone that was with you will recall you alone and think you will make a good match for a guy they know is alone too.&nbsp; My cousin met a nice girl on Match.com too and they have been together like 3 years now.&nbsp; Circulating yourself out there is great.&nbsp; Think about it: the more exposure you have to people increases the likelihood that you'll bump into someone new.&nbsp; Dont forget about work too.&nbsp;&nbsp;I dont mean with&nbsp;co-workers, I mean maybe a woman you work with and trust has a brother or something.. Good luck!&nbsp; I hope I helped.

[Don Stugots]

i would try match.com.&nbsp; regina and i know each for 10 years and never dated until we &quot;met&quot; each other on Match.&nbsp; it is one of the better services out there.&nbsp;&nbsp; give it a try.&nbsp; also, Myspace has groups of different hobbies, interestes, etc.&nbsp; go on there too.&nbsp; you never know who you can.&nbsp;

[Jujubees2]

<font size="2"><p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt" class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 10pt; color: black; font-family: Verdana">My advice is to not look for someone and that's when you'll find him.&nbsp; I was on my own for five years after a nasty break-up and for the first 3-4 years I felt bad for myself and was going crazy trying to find someone.&nbsp; Then I said the hell with it and started doing things that I enjoy.&nbsp; I went on vacations, started playing hockey, volunteering, etc. and then, wouldn't you know it, I found the woman who would become my wife.&nbsp; Of course, after 13 years for marriage, there are times when I yearn for that alone time </span><img src="/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" width="18" height="18" />&nbsp;&nbsp;</p></font>

<span class=post_edited>This message was edited by Jujubees2 on 11-25-06 @ 1:10 PM</span>

[dereckfishboy]

I think Stu is on to something with the myspace. Find some cool people in the area on myspace, get to know them and hang out sometime. Not even guys, I mean. You're more likely to meet someone if you're actually going out and doing things. Juju ain't bullshiting, you can never find someone when you're looking. You're better off looking for a good time with interesting people and you'll probably find a killer guy once it's no longer on your mind.

[K.C.]

<strong>Poochie</strong> wrote:<br />I just got back from a night out with 4 couples. I honestly don't think I have ever felt so lonely in my life. I am 28 yrs old and have been in nothing but crap relationships.&nbsp;All of my friends are married, I live and work alone, how the hell do I meet people and stop this feeling? Places like match.com really don't appeal to me. Any ideas? This is really getting to me.&nbsp; oh, and I just called and ex-boyfriend who really didn't give a shit about me, made a total ass of myself in a message I left him, and no, I have not been drinking. <span class="post_edited">This message was edited by Poochie on 11-25-06 @ 4:57 AM</span> <p>Was it a night out with 4 couples and you as the +1, or were you with someone as part of the four couples? </p><p>Cause if you were the +1 in that, no wonder you feel this way. The third wheel situation is absolutely horrendous. If I'm not seeing a chick, I try everything I can to avoid them...they lead to nothing but uncomfortability and awkwardness. </p>

[spoon]

Sorry Pooch, time to move.&nbsp; I love the heartland, from a distance!

[Death Metal Moe]

<strong>Poochie</strong> wrote:<br />I just got back from a night out with 4 couples. I honestly don't think I have ever felt so lonely in my life. I am 28 yrs old and have been in nothing but crap relationships.&nbsp;All of my friends are married, I live and work alone, how the hell do I meet people and stop this feeling? Places like match.com really don't appeal to me. Any ideas? This is really getting to me.&nbsp; oh, and I just called and ex-boyfriend who really didn't give a shit about me, made a total ass of myself in a message I left him, and no, I have not been drinking. <span class="post_edited">This message was edited by Poochie on 11-25-06 @ 4:57 AM</span> <p>I feel your pain bro.&nbsp; Being the odd man out always feels akward.&nbsp; It gets real old real fast.</p>

[dereckfishboy]

<strong>Death Metal Moe</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>Poochie</strong> wrote:<br />I just got back from a night out with 4 couples. I honestly don't think I have ever felt so lonely in my life. I am 28 yrs old and have been in nothing but crap relationships. All of my friends are married, I live and work alone, how the hell do I meet people and stop this feeling? Places like match.com really don't appeal to me. Any ideas? This is really getting to me. oh, and I just called and ex-boyfriend who really didn't give a shit about me, made a total ass of myself in a message I left him, and no, I have not been drinking. <span class="post_edited">This message was edited by Poochie on 11-25-06 @ 4:57 AM</span> <p>I feel your pain bro. Being the odd man out always feels akward. It gets real old real fast.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Psstt.... she's a girl, moe.... first Riellyluck, now poochie!&nbsp;</p>

[ralphbxny]

<p>Dating sites have sucked for me. Only lead to short term relationships and people who are lying. Join a local group of people that have activities you enjoy. Even if they are not the ONE you can meet them through others.</p><p>&nbsp;</p>

[lintpit]

<em><font face="courier new,courier" size="2">Poochie.I was 29 when I met my wife and it was such a strange incident that it had to be fate.My advice,for what it is worth, is to look into your self and find out all that you like about yourself and really work those things. Self-confident men are inherently attracted to self-confident women. And whatever you decide to do ,don't fall into the trap of making your ex the standard which you judge all men by.It is unfair to them and will only add unneeded stress to that new relationship.</font></em>

[Don Stugots]

<strong>dereckfishboy</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>Death Metal Moe</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>Poochie</strong> wrote:<br />I just got back from a night out with 4 couples. I honestly don't think I have ever felt so lonely in my life. I am 28 yrs old and have been in nothing but crap relationships. All of my friends are married, I live and work alone, how the hell do I meet people and stop this feeling? Places like match.com really don't appeal to me. Any ideas? This is really getting to me. oh, and I just called and ex-boyfriend who really didn't give a shit about me, made a total ass of myself in a message I left him, and no, I have not been drinking. <span class="post_edited">This message was edited by Poochie on 11-25-06 @ 4:57 AM</span> <p>I feel your pain bro. Being the odd man out always feels akward. It gets real old real fast.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Psstt.... she's a girl, moe.... first Riellyluck, now poochie! </p><p>&nbsp;i wasnt too sure either.&nbsp; thanks.</p><p>but my advise still stands.&nbsp;</p>

[Poochie]

<p>yeah, i'm a girl :) thanks for the advice, I guess i just need to put myself out there. i did try the match.com with horrible results. some very 'questionable' people on there..and to answer a post before, it was 4 couples and I was the +1. They want me to come out with them, but it just makes me feel like an ass when I do. </p><p>Thanks again for the advice, i think I am just at the 'feel really sorry for myself' stage..and of course the concerned mother on my back..</p><p>&nbsp;See ya</p>

[johnniewalker]

<strong>Poochie</strong> wrote:<br /><p>yeah, i'm a girl <img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/images/smile.gif" border="0" /> thanks for the advice, I guess i just need to put myself out there. i did try the match.com with horrible results. some very 'questionable' people on there..and to answer a post before, it was 4 couples and I was the +1. They want me to come out with them, but it just makes me feel like an ass when I do. </p><p>Thanks again for the advice, i think I am just at the 'feel really sorry for myself' stage..and of course the concerned mother on my back..</p><p> See ya</p><p>&nbsp;I'm with ya poochie, all i got at thanksgiving was shit from my mom and her sisters and my girl cousins.&nbsp; &quot;I just want to know if im going to have grandchildren&quot;, ughh.&nbsp; I about flipped out and by the end i kept cursing out my mom.&nbsp; I'm 23 and i don't give a shit, but I get the &quot;feel sorry about myself&quot; thing put on me a lot by my friends and mom.&nbsp;&nbsp; I'm not going to tell my mom about the girls I have sex with and the one night stands, and I'm kinda of a loner anyways not to mention grad school.&nbsp; Now everyone in grad school already has a boyfriend or is married.&nbsp; I can't stand it.&nbsp; I guess I can feel better that we're depressed together.. </p>

[cozzie]

why don't you go out with just your girlfreinds, have a good time . Guys will notice the whole group of girls having fun and wanna come join. thats how you meet lots of people, trust me it works.

[dereckfishboy]

<strong>cozzie</strong> wrote:<br />Guys will notice the whole group of girls<p>&nbsp;</p><p>If you ask me, guys will notice a girl drinking alone a lot quicker </p>

[cozzie]

<strong>dereckfishboy</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>cozzie</strong> wrote:<br />Guys will notice the whole group of girls <p>&nbsp;</p><p>If you ask me, guys will notice a girl drinking alone a lot quicker </p><p>I agree but most of them have serious problems, i was in the bar bussiness for 11 years and the loners are the nuts.</p>

[dereckfishboy]

<strong>cozzie</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>dereckfishboy</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>cozzie</strong> wrote:<br />Guys will notice the whole group of girls <p>&nbsp;</p><p>If you ask me, guys will notice a girl drinking alone a lot quicker </p><p>I agree but most of them have serious problems, i was in the bar bussiness for 11 years and the loners are the nuts.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Yeah, but they're real easy. Either way, I think she'd do better to meet a guy through friends. When my bros and I went cruising the bars, it was for ass, not meaningfull relationships.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p> <span class="post_edited"></span> <span class="post_edited"></span> <span class="post_edited"></span>

<span class=post_edited>This message was edited by dereckfishboy on 11-28-06 @ 7:12 PM</span>

[cozzie]

prob with freinds setting you up, is that your freinds Idea of &quot;the perfect person for you&quot; is most the time not your Idea of the perfect person. I know 90% of guys are looking for the quick pick up,and a lot of women are too. the point is if she goes out with her freinds, they can help deflect the obvious assholes, that she won't be able to do on her own. And if everyone is having a good time they,and she will get noticed, exchange #s maybe or whatever.