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boobieman

12-06-2006, 08:13 AM

Hello,  Just found out my brother has colon cancer. It sucks...He is only 44 years old. Wondering if anyone out there had to deal with this. I mean a family member so young and have cancer. Has anyone have a family member or friend that had colon cancer and how they did. Just want to get some idea on what to expect.  Just hoping for the best and hope that it can be taken care of.  Also this scares the shit out of me..he is 44 and I'm 35. Thanks buddies. SEE YA!!

mendyweiss

12-06-2006, 08:22 AM

When found early, treatment is very effective !!Now with a family history, you need to get a colonoscopy soon, it will make you feel better anyway.Good luck to your brother!!

Skellington

12-06-2006, 08:27 AM

Caught early and he should beat it just fine.  Worst case living situation is a colostomy bag.  I hope the best for him.  Medically, tech has really advanced along with meds.  Just offer him whatever support you can.

FUNKMAN

12-06-2006, 08:29 AM

sorry about the news. Hope he can make a full recovery.  hopefully he stays strong and keeps a positive attitude and takes good care of himself, i think it can do alot for recovery!

Davios

12-06-2006, 08:35 AM

My grandmother had a benign tumor removed and apparantly the doctor wanted her to undergo chemo so as to make sure to prevent any remnants of cancer. I can tell you that it is a tough experience. She didn't do much other than lay down and was always incredibly exhuasted and tired. We would have to help her around the house, of course that also had to do with the surgery to remove the tumor. Essentially you feel well until the treatment starts back up. She made it through healthy, and now thank god she is cancer free. It is still an incredibly scary experience, but you have to have faith in doctors' and the people treating your brother.

TooCute

12-06-2006, 08:36 AM

Both of my grandparents have had colon cancer, my grandfather's had
prostate cancer, and my grandmother's had stomach cancer and now, she
currently has liver cancer. They're both still going strong.

He's 44, he's young, the cancer's been found - odds are totally in his favor
that everything is going to be fine.

Tenbatsuzen

12-06-2006, 08:42 AM

My grandmother had colon cancer, and unfortunately, hers was found late and she had to undergo a colostomy procedure. Even with the colostomy, which was hampered by her having a few strokes, she lived a very full life. Now, her cancer was diagnosed in 1990, so I'm sure technology and treatments have evolved a lot since then.   Don't be scared - if it's in the family, get the pipe.  A regular colonoscopy is your best defense.

This message was edited by Tenbatsuzen on 12-6-06 @ 12:42 PM

jetdog

12-06-2006, 08:43 AM

Best wishes for a speedy recovery for him.  Is he in the NY area? Best cancer treatment hospital in the world is probably Sloan-Kettering.

boobieman

12-06-2006, 11:58 AM

Hello,   Thanks everyone for the advice and well wishes.  I hope they caught it early enough.  It just freaks me out at 44 this is happening.  I know I have to get checked as well. And I will. He is positive but he is also scared out of his mind..which he should be. I don't let him get down or say stuff like last Christmas or any shit like that. My entire family is very supportive. Just sucks what my family have to go through. My family has been through a lot, we have bad sickness, other brother almost killed, and nephew with a rare disease. It just feels sometimes that it just does not end. Like it will never stop, but I always know it will get better and could be worst. Reading what some of you post, makes me realize that it could be a lot worst.  Hearing what happened to your families and how everything worked out is definitely uplifting. Gives me more hope then I had before..THANKS.  He is in NYU medical and has one of the better cancer doctors. Tech has improved so much, my grandfather had colon cancer and died from it but that was back in 1952.  Just the idea, that you hear cancer and it just scares you to the bone. It scares me and I can only imagine what is going my brother’s head. Thanks again and thanks for letting me vent and letting me just post looking for info. I come to this board for fun and info. Nice to know that once in a while you can come here and look for support. You are all true BUDDIES!!       SEE YA

LongIslandRob

12-06-2006, 12:15 PM

My Wife was diagnosed with Lymphoma in November of 2001.  She was 29 at the time.  We learned about it early because the tumor was in her brain and shifted and rested on her optic nerve.  One day she just woke up and was blind in her right eye.  It took about a month and a half of various doctor visits, and a biopsy before we learned it was cancer.  She started her treatment in mid January of 2002.  She had to go to the hospital every 3 weeks for a 3-4 night stay for Chemo.  That lasted about 4 months and then they started a more potent type of chemo which lasted into June.  June to September was radiation.  After that some more tests, and she got a clean bill of health.  We now have a 2 1/2 yr old daughter.At that time, I thought it was the end, and those 9 months really seemed like forever.  Now it is a distant memory.  Just be strong, and be there for him.

ralphbxny

12-06-2006, 12:17 PM

Sorry to hear it budday! Stay strong and just do what ya can for the fam.This is when they need ya the most.

boeman

12-08-2006, 06:54 PM

One of my closest friends was diagnosed with brain cancer at 31... this was in 2000 (less than a week after his wedding)...Other than a few short term memory issues, he came out normal. The purpose of this was only to tell you it can be beat... just keep your spirits up, and do everything you can to keep your brother's spirit up. It will be an uphill battle, but every bit of support he gets will only make it easier. be the shoulder he cries on when it gets rough. Be his rock when you are with him... and make sure you have yet another person to talk to when it gets rough for you.  I'll stress it again... be there for him. Relying on the support of others may be the one thing that gets him through the process. If he knows he has people around him who really care, he will fight even harder.