How long is too long?

[lleeder]

If you stop calling your friend and they stop calling you. How long has to pass before that friendship is comepletely over?

[johnniewalker]

Never, it just gets really weird when you call them back and have to explain why you just haven't bothered with them for a while.   I'm a hermit when i go to school, and I deal with this every 4 months or so. 

[Badinia]

<p>Was there a falling-out and neither person has apologized?&nbsp; </p><p>Or just two people losing track of each other?<br /><br />There are people I only talk to once in awhile, but when we do talk, we are on the same &quot;wavelength&quot; and chat like no time&nbsp;has gone by.</p><p>There are other people whose lives/politics/interests have taken such a turn from mine that we no longer relate.&nbsp; </p><p>But&nbsp;you might just be in limbo.&nbsp; If you have fought and&nbsp;neither person wants to make up, then you're not-friends by default.</p>

[FezPaul]

<p><strong><font face="courier new,courier" size="2">Last year I called an old friend from high school who I hadn't talked to in 20 years.</font></strong></p><p><strong><font face="courier new,courier" size="2">We've been exchanging e-mails and calling each other regularly since.</font></strong></p>

[lleeder]

<p>It was more like friends, 2 year break, friends for 2 years,&nbsp;2 year break, friends for 2 months, year and counting break. There was always calls in between but this last time I got married and didn't even tell them about it.</p>

[Alice S. Fuzzybutt]

<p><span class="postbody">There was always calls in between but this last time I got married and didn't even tell them about it.</span></p><p>There's your answer. If you didn't invite him to the wedding, you don't consider him a friend.</p><p>Just let it go. Or forever be in the realm of &quot;quarterly&quot; e-mails. &nbsp;</p>

[Gvac]

From the title of the thread I thought the subject of this post was going to be an entirely different question.

[mikeyboy]

<strong>Gvac</strong> wrote:<br />From the title of the thread I thought the subject of this post was going to be an entirely different question. <p>Yeah, same here.&nbsp; Gutter minds think alike.</p>

[Marc with a c]

<strong>Gvac</strong> wrote:<br />From the title of the thread I thought the subject of this post was going to be an entirely different question. <p>thinking or hoping?</p>

[ShelleBink]

<strong>mikeyboy</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>Gvac</strong> wrote:<br />From the title of the thread I thought the subject of this post was going to be an entirely different question. <p>Yeah, same here. Gutter minds think alike.</p><p>&nbsp;9.5&quot;</p>

[Dirtybird12]

<p>83 days<img src="/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/drunk.gif" border="0" width="58" height="30" /></p>

[Alice S. Fuzzybutt]

<p>To get back on track...</p><p>I have a friend who was an &quot;apartment mate&quot; in college. I'll call her and she won't return my call for months. She'll e-mail me and I may not get back to her right a way. Yet, I consider her a good friend.&nbsp;</p><p>It sounds like you want this relationship to die. Just don't reply.</p><p>&nbsp;</p>

[FUNKMAN]

<p>how long?&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;a lifetime</p><p>my best friend and i didn't talk for&nbsp;a few&nbsp;years ( i got married, moved away, he found somebody etc etc)/ he was in my wedding) . then one day i heard from him and he asked me to be his best man.&nbsp; there was no question as to the answer, it was yes!</p><p>like in the &quot; how do you know you're in love &quot; thread, you just know that you are best friends. we went through too much together as kids to not be...</p><p>&nbsp;</p>

[Dirtybird12]

<p>Best friend from high school was a dude named Doug. 15 yrs passed...</p><p>We met up - and picked up right where we left off like it had only been a few days. </p><p>now we will go 4 or 5 weeks at a time without talking - then talk like nothing changed. </p><p>it's really weird. </p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Some people from my childhood just vanish.</p><p>wonder if they were ever really there.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p>

<span class=post_edited>This message was edited by CircusFreak on 12-15-06 @ 4:17 AM</span>