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jetdog

12-16-2006, 07:47 PM

Well look out you hard core ball-busters and you grammer OCDers, caue I'm liquoerd up enough to finally post this.Last Tuesday my father had a massive heart attack.  He was taking a colleague out to lunch at the time, his heart stopped.  They had to shock him four times to bring him around. I live in Nor Cal as you can see to the left, my mom and dad live in New Paltz, NY.  I got the call about 9 pm my time.. He was in the hospital, sedated, on a respirator and batling all the shit he inhaled as he was going into cardiac arrest and eating lunch at the same time.  I felt so helpless.  My dad is my hero.  I know that sounds so cheesy, but all through my life, even when it wasn't cool to like your parents, I wanted to be everything he was.  It's weird because I was never like he was.  He was an athlete and a good catholic boy,  I was a punk adn a druggy.  well now I am about to get my PhD in Biophysics, months away from a postdoc and still all I think about when I worry about my reputation as a scientist is my bond with my father.  He wroked his ass of his entire life from the streets of upper manhatten to Anchorage, AK to Novesibirsk, Russia to Woods Hole, MA, to Mobile, AL to Duke, NC.  When I heard this news, I broke down like I never have before.  I really thought I was going to lose my dad, all I could think about was him missing out on my wife and I, and building my Brother's house and building a house in Maine, etc.  I'd never been so scared in my life.I came to this board for fun (my first ever foray into messageboadring).  Over the past several days I came here for my sanities sake, for familiarity, for humor.  It worked.My father is now recovering and I am here with him and my family in NY.Thank you.

reeshy

12-16-2006, 07:55 PM

No...thank you, Jet.....first of all...I'm glad that your dad is recovering.....second.....thank you for trusting us.... My dad is my hero too...he did nothing compared to your dad...he was just sailor in WWII and a 31 year veteran of the FDNY.....he raised 5 kids without any money and still loves us...he's 83 years old and still can kick my ass!!!!! I see where you're coming from.....you still need your dad and love him...  just love your dad and show him you are a good man.....that's all he wants.....trust me... all my love to your dad!!!!!!!!!!!

Hottub

12-16-2006, 07:59 PM

Jet, I am truly happy to hear that things are going to work out, and your dad is recovering.Yes we come here for fun and laughs, but we also have a soft side, and we always take care of our own. I think this is what sets us apart from other boards. Thank you for sharing with us, and know that we have you and your family in our thoughts.Jon.

MellySmelly

12-16-2006, 08:12 PM

I'm sorry to hear that you and your family had to go through all of that and glad that he is recovering.  I have almost lost my dad a few times and about lost my mind over it. much love

Yerdaddy

12-17-2006, 01:56 AM

All the best to you and your family Jetdog. Sounds like you're justified in thinking positive.While you're in NY get together with the NY RF crew. Hottub's right. They are good people - not just random internet freaks. They may hate women but they love their fathers. When you need a break to just relax for a beer, PM the locals to hang out.

sr71blackbird

12-17-2006, 03:34 AM

Jet,Thanks for posting this.  I am coming up on the one year anniversary of my fathers heart attack too.  He also recovered, thank God! I had the advantage of getting the call while I was getting ready for work, and ws able to drive like a mad man to the hosptial, 20 miles away.  I couldnt imagine being in California and getting that call. Im glad you had the strength to get through it and that he is getting better.  Its so cool what Dr's can do now!  He will be hurting for a few weeks and the coming months will be tuff.  If he was used to shoveling snow, maybe se ablout having someone shovel them out, plow the driveway or whatever. Sorry to ramble, all these things I had to think about just last year.  Good luck!

angelinad128

12-17-2006, 04:53 AM

Have faith that allwill be well. Sorry to hear this but it wil all get better.

Bulldogcakes

12-17-2006, 05:48 AM

Yerdaddy wrote: They are good people - not just random internet freaks. They may hate women but they love their fathers. Its true that half the board hates women, but what about us guys?  Jet, you dont need to be drunk to open up to us about stuff like this. We do bust balls here but its all in good fun. Best wishes to you and your Dad.     

This message was edited by Bulldogcakes on 12-17-06 @ 9:50 AM

Team_Ramrod

12-17-2006, 06:25 AM

I hope he gets well, I'm saddened to hear this because It stirs up feelings about my father....I know it's not really a conversation but if you need to talk or hear some words of encouragement then don't hesitate to post here. The nice thing is that you can get your feelings out there and if need be, you can break down and let it out. You don't have to worry about someone being a dick, we've all been there and are more than willing to help. If you need to cry, we can't see. It's nice like that.Take care, I hope he gets well and you get to do all the things you dream of with your dad.

Don Stugots

12-17-2006, 06:43 AM

no thanks wanted here i am just a jerk in front of a keyboard.  Thanks for sharing with us.  i will say a little pray your dad.  All my best to you and your family at this time. 

SinA

12-17-2006, 07:11 AM

I hope my dad stops smoking, and starts eating better too.

reillyluck

12-17-2006, 08:24 AM

jet, i didnt realize you posted this last night and i would have responded sooner, so i apologize.  I hope youre dad is ok.  if you want to vent, just let me know.

FUNKMAN

12-17-2006, 08:26 AM

great story and best wishes!

ChimneyFish

12-17-2006, 10:01 AM

Glad to hear he's recovering.My best wishes to you and your family.

ChrisTheCop

12-17-2006, 10:40 AM

God took the strength of a mountain, The majesty of a tree, The warmth of a summer sun, The calm of a quiet sea, The generous soul of nature, The comforting arm of night, The wisdom of the ages, The power of the eagle's flight, The joy of a morning in spring, The faith of a mustard seed, The patience of eternity, The depth of a family need, Then God combined these qualities, When there was nothing more to add, He knew His masterpiece was complete, And so, He called it ... Dad(author unknown)

spoon

12-17-2006, 01:27 PM

Be strong and best of luck Jet. 

jetdog

12-17-2006, 07:29 PM

Thanks everbody for the well wishes.I had a good day with him today.  We got to watch the Giants game together (who knew they have TV's in  ICU's?).  We had a good time even thought they lost.  My brother and I had to keep shuuushshing him cause he was getting so pissed at NY's defense, "what the hell was that? I could have made that tackle even with this damn catheter hanging out of me!"And thanks to everyone who was hangin at the RonFez home party last night, I had a blast, singing songs, pissin in the yard and pukeing in one od Reeshy's threads....And Reilly, don't please don't apologize for anything, we'll alway have the emoticons....

Yerdaddy

12-18-2006, 02:17 AM

If I come back to the States I don't even want to hang out with you guys anymore. I want to hang with your parents. They're the coolest!