Porn addiction

[Reynolds]

Is there such a thing?  If so, what in your opinion defines it.  Apparently my wife thinks I have it, because when I was checking her laptop browsing history she's looking for counselors that specialize in porn addiction.  Theyre all radical christian bullshit groups.  I subscribe to 2 porn sites, total of about 30 bucks a month...

[Bulldogcakes]

<p>A man who likes to look at naked women? Yeah, there's something wrong with that. </p><p>An addiction is when something interferes with your life. Where you would rather do something than eat, sleep, work, or spend so much $ on it you go bankrupt. With those 2 big subscriptions of yours, I'm sure your on the way to the poorhouse.&nbsp;</p><p>Your wife is acting like someone who doesn't get out of the house much. Maybe she has a house addiction. Maybe she could try being honest with you and just tell you that (like many women) she just doesn't like the idea of you looking at other women. And then you can explain to her that you have a penis. &nbsp;</p>

[PapaBear]

Probably not the case, but... Maybe she think SHE is addicted to porn. She erased her porn history, but not the therapy stuff. It's not likely, but you can only hope it's the case.

[EliSnow]

<strong>mudeater</strong> wrote:<br />Is there such a thing?&nbsp; If so, what in your opinion defines it.&nbsp; <p><font face="arial,helvetica,sans-serif" size="3">There is such a thing, and it's defined like all other addictions.&nbsp; An addict is powerless over his addicition, and as a result, the addict's life has become unmanageable.&nbsp; </font></p><p><font face="Arial" size="3">You don't have to be on the verge of bankruptcy to be an addict.&nbsp; You can be an addict if you constantly find yourself accessing porn sites, spending hours looking at porn, to the detriment of you professional and personal life.</font></p><p><font face="Arial" size="3">There are a number of sexual addiction organizations, such as Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, that have questionairres that can help identify whether someone has a problem.&nbsp; These questionairres can be quite useful one way or the other.&nbsp; </font></p>

[weekapaugjz]

just tell her to start acting like the girls in the videos and you wouldn't need to look at them...

[nate1000]

<strong>mudeater</strong> wrote:<br />Is there such a thing?&nbsp; If so, what in your opinion defines it.&nbsp; Apparently my wife thinks I have it, because when <strong>I was checking her laptop browsing history she's looking for counselors that specialize in porn addiction.</strong>&nbsp; Theyre all radical christian bullshit groups.&nbsp; I subscribe to 2 porn sites, total of about 30 bucks a month... <p>I'd love to be a fly on the wall for the conversation that is surely in your future: </p><p><br />&quot;Um, honey? Can you come here a minute? I have someone I think you need to meet.&quot;</p>

[JustJon]

You actually pay for porn sites?

[SinA]

<p>the lesson is not to stop looking at porn, but to stop getting caught.&nbsp; really though, it's not your fault for trying to keep a secret, she should respect your right to have some things just be personal even though youy're married.</p><p>here's a tip: use internet explorer for everything but porn, and use firefox for porn only.</p><p>(maybe i'm the one with the addiciton)</p>

[boobieman]

<p>Buddy...don't pay just use the following links. 3 quick clips and I am done.</p><p>&nbsp;You are not addited to porn...your just a guy with a working cock.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;http://www.spicyvids.com/</p><p>&nbsp;http://www.askjolene.com/</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>SEE YA and don't touch me..EVER<br /> &nbsp;</p>

[ralphbxny]

<strong>boobieman</strong> wrote:<br /><p>Buddy...don't pay just use the following links. 3 quick clips and I am done.</p><p>&nbsp;You are not addited to porn...your just a guy with a working cock.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;http://www.spicyvids.com/</p><p>&nbsp;http://www.askjolene.com/</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>SEE YA and don't touch me..EVER<br />&nbsp;</p><p>Thats why i love this site....we are all helpers..teachers if you will.</p>

[suggums]

<strong>JustJon</strong> wrote:<br />You actually pay for porn sites?<p>&nbsp;</p><p>agreed. this is your biggest problem&nbsp;</p>

[Team_Ramrod]

<p>Yes, there is.</p><p>You are a porn addict if you go to your computer after sex and watch porn.</p><p>You are a porn addict if you are watching porn on your laptop&nbsp;when your kids are running around.</p><p>You are a porn addict if you have company over but need to go to your office to 'finish some work'</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>I'm not a porn addict but I am a sex addict.</p>

[OGC]

<strong>mudeater</strong> wrote:<br />Is there such a thing?&nbsp; If so, what in your opinion defines it.&nbsp; Apparently my wife thinks I have it, because when I was checking her laptop browsing history she's looking for counselors that specialize in porn addiction.&nbsp; Theyre all radical christian bullshit groups.&nbsp; I subscribe to 2 porn sites, total of about 30 bucks a month... <p><font face="comic sans ms,sand" size="2">I think your wife should be more concerned about you checking the browsing history on her laptop. What were you looking for ?</font></p>

[Team_Ramrod]

<p>Everyone checks their wives history!</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>don't they?</p>

[SatCam]

Seriously why are you paying for porn? Why are you spending $30 a month on something you can get for free?

[Wallower]

Your main problem seems to be an inability to hide your tracks.

[SatCam]

<strong>Wallower</strong> wrote:<br>Your main problem seems to be an inability to hide your tracks.<p></p>

his wife does the laundry

[Reynolds]

I was using netscape for the porn, firefox for everything else, didn't think she knew about netscape, apparently she did.&nbsp; As for checking her browsing history, she checked mine first to find out the sites i was going to.&nbsp; And I like the sites I pay for, the free ones ive been to blow.

[Wallower]

maybe she doesn't know about Opera, you still have hope!!

[TheVHD]

<p>It's not an addiction until you get caught... since you got caught how about getting your own user ID and your OWN password that no one knows but you...&nbsp;</p>

[SatCam]

You shouldn't have to hide it from her. Either she deals with it or she doesn't. It isn't neccessarily her fault, though. She may think you look at it too much and she may be right. The biggest problem here seems to be a lack of communication.

You also have a problem if you're willing to pay for it. I don't mean that you have a mental problem (an addiction), just maybe relationship problems if you take porn more seriously than that thing you enjoy every few lonely saturday nights.

[Wallower]

Oh yeah, the government can get see you spanking it. I'm not trying to discourage you, on the contrary. It's kind of kinky that way.

[Bulldogcakes]

<strong>SinA</strong> wrote:<br /><p>the lesson is not to stop looking at porn, but to stop getting caught. really though, it's not your fault for trying to keep a secret, she should respect your right to have some things just be personal even though youy're married.</p><p>here's a tip: use internet explorer for everything but porn, and use firefox for porn only.</p><p>(maybe i'm the one with the addiciton)</p>Or . . . . reset your preferences to keep the browser history to zero.&nbsp;If you dont know how, its easy. On Mozilla go to Options, then Privacy, and then reset &quot;Rememeber pages visited for &quot; to zero days<br />Then tell your wife you dont use the computer much anymore. &nbsp;

[sailor]

<strong>mudeater</strong> wrote:<br />I was using netscape for the porn, firefox for everything else, didn't think she knew about netscape, apparently she did. As for checking her browsing history, she checked mine first to find out the sites i was going to. And I like the sites I pay for, the free ones ive been to blow.<p>&nbsp;<font size="2">you checked hers because she checked yours...but, how did you KNOW she checked yours?<br /></font></p>

[lleeder]

<strong>The Midnight Ramrod</strong> wrote:<br /><p>Yes, there is.</p><p>You are a porn addict if you go to your computer after sex and watch porn.</p><p>You are a porn addict if you are watching porn on your laptop&nbsp;when your kids are running around.</p><p>You are a porn addict if you have company over but need to go to your office to 'finish some work'</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>I'm not a porn addict but I am a sex addict.</p><p><font size="3">I'm neither I just have evil inside of me that I have to set free on a nightly basis.</font></p>

[Lee-Ya]

<p>porn=good</p><p><img src="/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/clap.gif" border="0" width="28" height="30" /></p>

[Gaia]

<p>In my opinion, all the suggestions of hiding your tracks, and getting new passwords, ID's etc. Is the wrong way. She is your wife, she wants to know what you are doing. She is also probably like most of us women, if she wants to know whats going on, she&nbsp;<strong>WILL</strong> find out and then be fucking livid, not only that you are doing new things to prevent her from finding out, but lieing about it too. </p><p>She looked at your browsing history first, was it in front of you? What did you think you would find when you looked into her browsing history.</p><p>I need more back story, how did this all start? What kind of conversations have you had about this?&nbsp; </p><p>I have to also ask what your sex life is like. Has it dropped off? Does she make any complaints about things?</p>

[sailor]

<strong>Gaia</strong> wrote:<br /><p>In my opinion, all the suggestions of hiding your tracks, and getting new passwords, ID's etc. Is the wrong way. She is your wife, she wants to know what you are doing. She is also probably like most of us women, if she wants to know whats going on, she <strong>WILL</strong> find out and then be fucking livid, not only that you are doing new things to prevent her from finding out, but lieing about it too. </p><p>She looked at your browsing history first, was it in front of you? What did you think you would find when you looked into her browsing history.</p><p>I need more back story, how did this all start? What kind of conversations have you had about this? </p><p>I have to also ask what your sex life is like. Has it dropped off? Does she make any complaints about things?</p><p>&nbsp;<font size="2">my point was he said he found out about his wife snooping thru her history (by snooping himself).&nbsp; then he said he snooped BECAUSE she snooped.&nbsp; i call shenanigans!&nbsp; and, if shenanigans aren't about, isn't this something they should have worked out before getting hitched? </font></p>

[Gaia]

<strong>sailor</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>Gaia</strong> wrote:<br /><p>In my opinion, all the suggestions of hiding your tracks, and getting new passwords, ID's etc. Is the wrong way. She is your wife, she wants to know what you are doing. She is also probably like most of us women, if she wants to know whats going on, she <strong>WILL</strong> find out and then be fucking livid, not only that you are doing new things to prevent her from finding out, but lieing about it too. </p><p>She looked at your browsing history first, was it in front of you? What did you think you would find when you looked into her browsing history.</p><p>I need more back story, how did this all start? What kind of conversations have you had about this? </p><p>I have to also ask what your sex life is like. Has it dropped off? Does she make any complaints about things?</p><p>&nbsp;<font size="2">my point was he said he found out about his wife snooping thru her history (by snooping himself).&nbsp; then he said he snooped BECAUSE she snooped.&nbsp; i call shenanigans!&nbsp; and, if shenanigans aren't about, isn't this something they should have worked out before getting hitched? </font></p><p>Huh? I think I get ya' , &nbsp;If I do, then I agree.</p>

[sailor]

<strong>Gaia</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>sailor</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>Gaia</strong> wrote:<br /><p>In my opinion, all the suggestions of hiding your tracks, and getting new passwords, ID's etc. Is the wrong way. She is your wife, she wants to know what you are doing. She is also probably like most of us women, if she wants to know whats going on, she <strong>WILL</strong> find out and then be fucking livid, not only that you are doing new things to prevent her from finding out, but lieing about it too. </p><p>She looked at your browsing history first, was it in front of you? What did you think you would find when you looked into her browsing history.</p><p>I need more back story, how did this all start? What kind of conversations have you had about this? </p><p>I have to also ask what your sex life is like. Has it dropped off? Does she make any complaints about things?</p><p> <font size="2">my point was he said he found out about his wife snooping thru her history (by snooping himself). then he said he snooped BECAUSE she snooped. i call shenanigans! and, if shenanigans aren't about, isn't this something they should have worked out before getting hitched? </font></p><p>Huh? I think I get ya' , If I do, then I agree.</p><p>&nbsp;<font size="2">if you agree, it must be true.&nbsp; :)&nbsp; basically, he said he found out about her snooping thru his detective work, THEN he turned around and said he knew of her snooping ahead of time. </font></p>

[BLZBUBBA]

<p>A friend of mine from work was going through a divorce several years back.&nbsp; While this was going on I heard a knock on my door around 11:00 pm one night.&nbsp; Who the?&nbsp; I open the door and it's him.&nbsp; Says his lawyer told him to ditch all&nbsp;his porn and asks if I can keep it for him.&nbsp; Okay I say and he hands me a big hefty bag full of videotapes.&nbsp; I start to close the door but he says wait a sec. I'll be right back.&nbsp; He brings two more hefty bags full of tapes.&nbsp; I couldn't believe it.&nbsp; BUT THEN he gets two more bags out of his car.&nbsp; There had to have been at least 200-300&nbsp;tapes.&nbsp; Porn addiction?&nbsp;IT WAS TOO MANY FOR ME TO HIDE!&nbsp; I said look,&nbsp; I got a nephew and niece I&nbsp;babysit and&nbsp;I&nbsp;can't hide&nbsp;THIS MUCH.&nbsp; He&nbsp;gets all pissed and takes it all&nbsp;back to his car bag by freakin' bag.&nbsp; Talked to him later and he said he had someone else stash it for him.&nbsp; I watch porn,&nbsp; but have never been interested in that kind of volume.&nbsp;I go for quality.&nbsp; </p><p>&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>